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Topic: Why do men/women cheat? 😢
kittycat2017 Joined Thu 01/16/20 Posts: 1	Tue 01/21/20 08:33 AM
because they can..and don't care who they hurt. It's not your fault or to be prevented at all.

Zulkiflee Joined Tue 01/21/20 Posts: 1	Tue 01/21/20 11:30 AM
I really dont know the reason why.

bay Joined Wed 01/22/20 Posts: 1	Thu 01/23/20 12:32 AM
I think the main reason is , when one of the partners start starving the other with sex , love and pleasure and care . the starving partner search for all of this else where .

Senthil Paul Joined Thu 01/23/20 Posts: 14	Thu 01/23/20 01:25 AM
I feel this digital hypno adds in Smartphones and Internet is making people have sex with multiple people by seducing them.

Hemant Srivastava Joined Sun 06/16/19 Posts: 2	Thu 01/23/20 01:33 PM
yes you are right

Zelle Joined Wed 01/22/20 Posts: 2	Fri 01/24/20 12:15 AM
maybe because they are not yet contented thats why they cheat..

Carol Cruz Joined Fri 01/24/20 Posts: 1	Fri 01/24/20 06:11 AM
Not contend

Seamus Joined Mon 07/15/19 Posts: 3365	Fri 01/24/20 06:14 AM
People all have their reasons for doing what they do but I'm not that interested in hearing them. Cheaters cheat because they want to and have the opportunity.

Anne Joined Sat 01/25/20 Posts: 3	Sun 01/26/20 01:08 AM
they do it for the reason

Eltnyd Joined Tue 11/12/19 Posts: 2	Sun 01/26/20 01:53 AM
some people cant help it . its not done intentionally to hurt the other person its just sex in there mind ,its called narcissism and its just how some people are. trust me i know i was with one for years.

sathyanarayana rao. r Joined Wed 01/29/20 Posts: 3	Fri 01/31/20 10:12 PM
man. and. woomen. dating. chating

Malchut Joined Wed 01/29/20 Posts: 3	Fri 01/31/20 10:20 PM
They want the benefits of a steady relationship while they have sex with anyone that will. The person who is cheated on is just a thing to benefit the cheater.

Mr vickers Joined Fri 01/10/20 Posts: 1	Sat 02/01/20 12:17 AM
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RIK Joined Wed 02/05/20 Posts: 2	Wed 02/05/20 10:56 AM
Hi niceeet u

RIK Joined Wed 02/05/20 Posts: 2	Wed 02/05/20 10:56 AM
Hi

Unknow Joined Tue 07/04/17 Posts: 34	Wed 02/05/20 11:09 AM
rule of life is both man and woman are cheat according to situation it's my opinion sorry if your feel.

Vedant Joined Mon 04/08/19 Posts: 6	Wed 02/05/20 11:10 AM
hi

Rishu Joined Wed 02/05/20 Posts: 1	Wed 02/05/20 07:20 PM
due to chemical reaction

bobtail76 Joined Mon 02/10/14 Posts: 6935	Wed 02/05/20 07:40 PM
Topic: Why do men cheat? Answer: For the same reason that women cheat. Really? Quite the tit for tat statement, which is incorrect: They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform. They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere. They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment. They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void. They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere. They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it. They’re not having enough satisfying sex at home. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere. The reasons men use to cheat are entirely different, like immaturity, selfishness, insecurity, etc. etc. you can read them here. http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201704/13-reasons-why-men-cheat I can add another reason for cheating, not by women, by men: out of spite, to hurt his woman. Doesn't all those excuses lead back to what someone else said earlier....lack of respect for their partner?

Serious Joined Mon 12/23/19 Posts: 121	Wed 02/05/20 09:21 PM Edited by Serious on Wed 02/05/20 09:29 PM
It actually all depends why people that cheat are in a relationship to begin with. For most it's the fact that they just want someone to "fulfill" their needs and so two people will find each other to have each one's needs met. Once their need seems not met anymore, or they just feel like it isn't to their expectation they just discard that relationship or try to fulfill that need that is not met outside of said relationship. So many people (especially with that mindset) that go into a relationship are takers - "what can you give me - how can you make me happy". If they "feel" at any point that the other person is not the giver they thought or the "giving" is getting less they think they need to have their needs still fulfilled they feel the need to have their needs met from another source, since they mostly take. Which can be many things , from lust to being "taken care" of financially or emotionally. On the contrary a real relationship is built from actual Love. The word "Love", especially in the English language (among others) is totally overused. We love our spouse, girl/boyfriend and also our car, pet and pizza and a vacation, etc. But in a relationship love is actually a commitment, not a feeling (feeling of what we think as "love" is actually lust - or too much pizza) or a comforting feeling to be taken care of. Love is giving instead of just taking, not just demanding the other to meet your needs but first of all a priority how you can meet their needs first. If you have a real commitment then if the other person doesn't perform as you might have thought or their "performance" of whatever would meet your need lacks for a time, commitment of real love will carry it through and will find a way to resolve any "issues" instead of just giving up and in the manner of our "throw away mentality" and "instant gratification (have it your way right away...!) society, just walking out and using the path of least resistance and least amount of effort and exiting the relationship or finding another "need provider" on the outside. When both people have the best interest of the other in mind first then both give and both will in this case also fulfill each other's needs at the same time - but the mindset is totally contrary to the first scenario. So the problem what it comes down to in the end is mostly selfishness and the inability to really love, because many people do not even know how to love, mostly they have not been taught or they have not seen it growing up in their family, let alone never received unconditional love from their parents. A lot of it goes way back to the childhood or disappointments/ rejection (prior relationships) and bitterness ("this will not happen to me anymore from now on...") not allowing themselves and the other person actually to love anymore and changing into a "taker" only, rather than a "giver", feeling rejection and at the slightest trigger (even if it might not a big issue) rejecting the other person as a self-protection mechanism. -- Love is patient, love is kind, it isn’t jealous, it doesn’t brag, it isn’t arrogant, it isn’t rude, it doesn’t seek its own advantage, it isn’t irritable, it doesn’t keep a record of complaints, it isn’t happy with injustice, but it is happy with the truth. Love puts up with all things, trusts in all things, hopes for all things, endures all things - Love never fails -- (1. Corinthians 13:4-8)