I never had a girlfriend before and want to experience what it is to have a relationship but what ties me the most is about the shyness I have and fear of breaking up. What can I do in this situation.

We all have that fear but eventually you learn and grow from it so don’t give up. Find some common ground with a girl, ask her what interests are in music, movies, tv shows, books and food and see if you like any of them yourself and tell her you do too and why. Ask her if she has a boyfriend and if not ask her what she’s looking for in a man. Start off as friends first then see where it takes you. Who knows it may turn into something serious along the way . Good luck !

Indeed everyone has that fear. Mostly it has to do with fear of being rejected.
You can work on your self-esteem, which can help with that.
And start making it a habit to have small talk with people everywhere. People you don't know. Doesn't have to be long, just a few friendly things, a smile. Doing that helps to overcome fear of addressing strangers and will make it a bit easier to start talking to a girl.

i think we are in the same track..im so shy, i am not too confident tomyswlf sometimes..having a boyfriend is very hard for me..i dont know if there still someone who will like me..

:) Thanks for the advice

I'll try :)

Yah I really feel you but I'll do my best to overcome this fear and try to change my way of thinking.

if someone want to go you should never stop them......

karma has no deadline yet the most beautiful thing you can see


happiness is not what you do or have...happiness is what you think


you will never find that in another

Just think that she's as afraid as you and forge ahead.
Long, long ago I learned to think in terms of WHAT'S THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN?
Ask yourself that, in this case you could be rejected...........so what.

satisfaction is how we value ourselves



success is how we value ourselves with others

In my opinion, what is happiness if you are alone, there are times that you need someone besides you, someone who can fill your emptiness, can share your joy and sadness. I do want to have a partner who I can be comfortable with even if it only last for an hour or a day, it's still better to have someone than to be alone

Haha nice men thanks for that

Yep, it happens to me all the time. I've gotten quite used to it... rejection that is.

But I see it as being one step closer to finding the right one for me.

It's also helpful to not look forward and doom the relationship before it even begins. Girth makes a good point, she's most likely as afraid or nervous as you are. Just think positive and forge ahead. If she rejects you, she's not the one you want to be with anyways.

Best of luck to you!

Yeah I'll just have to keep searching for the right person. Thanks

Ask her questions about herself, her life, her family, her plans, whatever. Then listen to the answers and follow up. Believe me, she won't notice that you're nervous. If you get a chance to meet with her again, present yourself well. Be groomed and appropriately dressed. You could bring her something small that shows you're thoughtful. Depending on where you're going it could be bottled water. I'm a sucker for a supermarket flower bouquet, or a piece of chocolate, but not everyone is. In our Covid world, maybe an extra mask if you're going inside someplace.

You know what also works sometimes complimenting on how she looks, from her eyes to her hair or what she’s wearing . Looks are very important to most women.

Ooh, I'm actually most impressed when the man initially makes no mention of looks. I don't want to think that's the reason he's interested. YMMV

Of course, it's nice to hear from time to time, recognition of something that he likes about the way I look. But I prefer to hear it later, after we've established a connection.

Ooh, I'm actually most impressed when the man initially makes no mention of looks. I don't want to think that's the reason he's interested. YMMV

Of course, it's nice to hear from time to time, recognition of something that he likes about the way I look. But I prefer to hear it later, after we've established a connection.

Well, if you continue your fear to hold you back, you'll never have a gf. Is that really what you want? My suggestion is letting the lady know up front so that she knows to be more patient and understanding with you. If she's not, move on. Unfortunately, break-ups can happen to anyone and they hurt; sometimes they hurt immensely. Do you have any friends you can ask? I would definitely consider getting a female's point of view. It could give you an advantage. good luck!! I know it's scary and awkward at first. We've all been there.

Look, if convicted felons can have partners, so can you! Sounds like you've had bf's. If I'm right, seems like someone liked you :)