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Topic: A woman’s perspective?
Riverspirit1111's photo
Thu 08/13/20 01:41 PM
Edited by Riverspirit1111 on Thu 08/13/20 01:44 PM

What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


Technically, that is what a hoe is.

But over the years it's developed many other meanings, especially in the USA. Most of which you can find in the urban dictionary. The definition that most feel is offensive is when 'hoe' refers to a woman being a whore or slut. The younger generation use the term most often, especially after a break up... having hoes gives them a chance to still engage in sexual activity, just not with the drama of a relationship. The hoes, usually young women, prefer that too. They generally have casual sex with any guy that is willing.

Oh, and guys can be the hoes too.




Freebird Deluxe's photo
Thu 08/13/20 01:46 PM


What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


First of all he did not call a woman by any name he was calling himself a hoe..

Too many jumped the gun here and took what he said wrong~~

This is what his profile says~~~ "I think the kids call it a post breakup hoe phase."

He is referring to himself as the hoe shshs

Now please tell me where he called a woman a hoe?? slaphead slaphead



Oh! TBH I found the wording hard to understand

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Thu 08/13/20 01:54 PM
Edited by Freebird Deluxe on Thu 08/13/20 01:57 PM


What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


Technically, that is what a hoe is.

But over the years it's developed many other meanings, especially in the USA. Most of which you can find in the urban dictionary. The definition that most feel is offensive is when 'hoe' refers to a woman being a whore or slut. The younger generation use the term most often, especially after a break up... having hoes gives them a chance to still engage in sexual activity, just not with the drama of a relationship. The hoes, usually young women, prefer that too. They generally have casual sex with any guy that is willing.

Oh, and guys can be the hoes too.





Yes I was being facetious, but I found it a bit hard to follow ,lots of hoes look at my profile rofl

mzrosie's photo
Thu 08/13/20 01:54 PM
Hi Michael, ok I viewed your profile.

Your profile will be ignored by most women because separated means you are still married. Looking for intimate encounter means you are looking for sex. Your choice of the phrase “Post breakup hoe phase” is not a good idea as it can easily get misunderstood as other members posted above.

Anyway, your profile is good for what you are looking for.

Good luck


Riverspirit1111's photo
Thu 08/13/20 02:00 PM


What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


First of all he did not call a woman by any name he was calling himself a hoe..

Too many jumped the gun here and took what he said wrong~~

This is what his profile says~~~ "I think the kids call it a post breakup hoe phase."

He is referring to himself as the hoe shshs

Now please tell me where he called a woman a hoe?? slaphead slaphead




Ah yes, I see that now. I have to admit I read it wrong at first. It sounded more like he was looking for hoes. Which would be fine if he were, to each his/her own. Calling himself one makes more sense as far getting out of a relationship and just wanting to play the field for a while.

OT... As far as your profile goes Michael, as you can see, a lot of misunderstandings and confusion over your choice of wording can and has happened. Perhaps rewording it a bit might help because as TxsGal said, some humor doesn't always come across as such.

Riverspirit1111's photo
Thu 08/13/20 02:02 PM



What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


Technically, that is what a hoe is.

But over the years it's developed many other meanings, especially in the USA. Most of which you can find in the urban dictionary. The definition that most feel is offensive is when 'hoe' refers to a woman being a whore or slut. The younger generation use the term most often, especially after a break up... having hoes gives them a chance to still engage in sexual activity, just not with the drama of a relationship. The hoes, usually young women, prefer that too. They generally have casual sex with any guy that is willing.

Oh, and guys can be the hoes too.





Yes I was being facetious, but I found it a bit hard to follow ,lots of hoes look at my profile rofl


Yes, I know you were being facetious! tongue2

TheOne777's photo
Thu 08/13/20 08:13 PM

I knew what you meant. I believe it may have applied to some

no photo
Fri 08/14/20 02:36 AM
Edited by Seamus on Fri 08/14/20 02:44 AM
oops completely got the wrong end of the stick on that one.slaphead
No wonder the OP was confused by the replies. At least it generated a lot of interest and views.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 08/14/20 03:04 AM

oops completely got the wrong end of the stick on that one.slaphead
No wonder the OP was confused by the replies. At least it generated a lot of interest and views.

Maybe, but he could've ASKED what everyone meant instead of lashing out and insult people.

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Fri 08/14/20 03:23 AM


oops completely got the wrong end of the stick on that one.slaphead
No wonder the OP was confused by the replies. At least it generated a lot of interest and views.

Maybe, but he could've ASKED what everyone meant instead of lashing out and insult people.


I don't disagree with you on that :slight_smile:.

ivegotthegirth's photo
Fri 08/14/20 03:32 AM


What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


First of all he did not call a woman by any name he was calling himself a hoe..

Too many jumped the gun here and took what he said wrong~~

This is what his profile says~~~ "I think the kids call it a post breakup hoe phase."

He is referring to himself as the hoe shshs

Now please tell me where he called a woman a hoe?? slaphead slaphead




:thumbsup: Good job Kristi. I didn't really think his statement was offensive but I have to admit I wasn't familiar with it, maybe it's an age thing. winking

Chuck6501's photo
Fri 08/14/20 08:28 PM
Good riposte re troll.

feelyoungagain's photo
Fri 08/14/20 08:38 PM


What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


Technically, that is what a hoe is.

But over the years it's developed many other meanings, especially in the USA. Most of which you can find in the urban dictionary. The definition that most feel is offensive is when 'hoe' refers to a woman being a whore or slut. The younger generation use the term most often, especially after a break up... having hoes gives them a chance to still engage in sexual activity, just not with the drama of a relationship. The hoes, usually young women, prefer that too. They generally have casual sex with any guy that is willing.

Oh, and guys can be the hoes too.

What is offensive? Your level of understanding the difference between a lady and a gardening tool btw. A hoe also has other implications, so don't think we're the dumb ones and you didn't mean anything by it. I don't think a young woman who enjoys sex is a hoe. Men like to get around and they don't get a negative label. It's a double standard. Otherwise, I guess I'm an older hoe since I like intimate encounters outside of a deep and meaningful relationship. LOL





feelyoungagain's photo
Fri 08/14/20 08:40 PM

Is candidness in a profile a turnoff? I welcome all feedback; critical or otherwise. Thanks!


Candidness in it of itself is not, should not be a turnoff. What makes it a turnoff is what you say and how you say it.

For example, the fact that whomever you are trying to meet is or will be a hoe to remedy your problems of a failed marriage. Shame on you for even thinking about women like that. We are not quick fixes for you or any man's problems. I would say that's offensive.

feelyoungagain's photo
Fri 08/14/20 08:42 PM



What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


First of all he did not call a woman by any name he was calling himself a hoe..

Too many jumped the gun here and took what he said wrong~~

This is what his profile says~~~ "I think the kids call it a post breakup hoe phase."

He is referring to himself as the hoe shshs

Now please tell me where he called a woman a hoe?? slaphead slaphead




I still don't see it this way, which tells me most women won't either. But... my bigger concern is what his children are calling this. Quite confused on this end

Ah yes, I see that now. I have to admit I read it wrong at first. It sounded more like he was looking for hoes. Which would be fine if he were, to each his/her own. Calling himself one makes more sense as far getting out of a relationship and just wanting to play the field for a while.

OT... As far as your profile goes Michael, as you can see, a lot of misunderstandings and confusion over your choice of wording can and has happened. Perhaps rewording it a bit might help because as TxsGal said, some humor doesn't always come across as such.

feelyoungagain's photo
Fri 08/14/20 08:49 PM


Apologies. I get it now. None of you speak English natively. To clarify, my profile says nothing at all about my ex or women. Literally nothing. “Post breakup hoe phase” is a slang term to mean I am not interested in a long term relationship right now.

So, not actually open to constructive criticism. I'm shocked 🤣.


I see... I didn't realize there was such a phrase. Perhaps you want to rethink your use of words then. Not all of us are educated with such terms. i for one, try to learn more appropriate use of words; and while English is not my original language, it doesn't mean I don't speak it well. As a matter of fact, it's my third language, so clearly you don't need to insult me nor anyone whose first language is not English. You may have a PhD, but I also have many educational accolades and juggling two successful long-standing careers since my mid-twenties. Couldn't do that w/o speaking English fluently and with accuracy. Please don't insult members. It's not called for nor appropriate. Again, you're just providing me with more insight into your rotten personality. So much for asking and then not welcoming feedback.

ivegotthegirth's photo
Fri 08/14/20 10:46 PM
Attn: I'm joking now >>>>>>>> if you changed the order of "breakup" and "hoe" you'd get different results I think. huh

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Sat 08/15/20 01:10 AM
Edited by Freebird Deluxe on Sat 08/15/20 01:30 AM


What is so offensive about calling a lady after a gardening implement ?


First of all he did not call a woman by any name he was calling himself a hoe..

Too many jumped the gun here and took what he said wrong~~

This is what his profile says~~~ "I think the kids call it a post breakup hoe phase."

He is referring to himself as the hoe shshs

Now please tell me where he called a woman a hoe?? slaphead slaphead



Looking back I never said he did !, I asked a question

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