Topic: Ok my turn.
Electron's photo
Sun 11/08/20 07:06 AM
Ive been here for a bit so please have at it. I feel I need to do something different but its hard for me to judge..

Electron's photo
Thu 11/19/20 12:43 PM
after posting this 11 days ago and being the only person with 0 comments that is not a deactivated account, I think I have discovered one of my main problems .. I don't have anything good going on but I'm also not offensive .. I am essentially invisible... lol Maybe I need a red shirt?

🍫 KitKat 🍫's photo
Thu 11/19/20 12:56 PM
oops sorry I don't do many of the rate me post

But seems pretty good to me, good pics, filled out, interest stated clearly....a pretty good profile.
Wish you the best of luck herewaving

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 11/19/20 01:03 PM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Thu 11/19/20 01:08 PM
Well... the photo isn't very clear due to dark background so that doesn't help.

Then there's you beginning your write up with fantasy art and sci-fi which makes me think / feel "this is a big child" and I don't need a child.

Then there's you having a kid, permanently living with you. That is always going to be more difficult. It means you will need more patience. Most women in your age group have older kids or they've left the nest already. And then they're really not looking to go back to the family situation. It also means you haven't as much time for a partner/relationship. So this makes it more difficult. Again, patience...
Least thing you can do is tell his age.

And I'd rewrite the whole thing so you don't start sounded like a 16 year old who's 30 yrs older but still in the 'boys with toys' thing.
Nothing wrong with that maybe, but you can phrase it very differently AND not start with it.

And tell what kind of relationship you're ready for and seeking.

Electron's photo
Thu 11/19/20 01:15 PM
Edited by Electron on Thu 11/19/20 01:16 PM
Ok thanks and good point .. I went back the the brighter pic I was using before. As far as the sci fi art part .. that is literally my job, I work for a video game company called Novaquark and I work 50+ hours a week making 3D art for their game. I see what your saying that people may view me as childish or something because of my profession and main hobby and focus of my life other than my son. Hmm I guess I could put it at the end .. but I dont want to miss lead anyone ..This is who I am .. I spend a lot of time doing that. I guess Im just kinda screwed lol . Thank you very much for you fead back it shines a lot of light on my situation ..I am just not what people in my age bracket are looking for.

🍫 KitKat 🍫's photo
Thu 11/19/20 01:15 PM
laugh see that's why I rarely rate profiles....I give no helpful adviceohwell

Electron's photo
Thu 11/19/20 01:23 PM

laugh see that's why I rarely rate profiles....I give no helpful adviceohwell


No your advice was great .. you thought it was an ok profile and trust me .. that helps me lol :)

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 11/19/20 01:30 PM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Thu 11/19/20 01:33 PM

Ok thanks and good point .. I went back the the brighter pic I was using before. As far as the sci fi art part .. that is literally my job, I work for a video game company called Novaquark and I work 50+ hours a week making 3D art for their game. I see what your saying that people may view me as childish or something because of my profession and main hobby and focus of my life other than my son. Hmm I guess I could put it at the end .. but I dont want to miss lead anyone ..This is who I am .. I spend a lot of time doing that. I guess Im just kinda screwed lol . Thank you very much for you fead back it shines a lot of light on my situation ..I am just not what people in my age bracket are looking for.

If it is your job... do you feel it's the right thing to start your profile off with?
If you check out a woman's profile and she start with telling the ins and outs of her job... do you really give toss? You want to know what kind of person someone is. Knowing they have a job at that early checking-things-out stage is enough.
And I said REPHRASE, not "don't tell".
If I'd say "I paint stone circles, hobbit houses, and Merlin" most people will frown. If I say "I'm creative and love to paint!"...

Just a few examples. It's not about hiding the practicalities of your life, it's about telling them A) the right way and B) at the right time.

As for the kid, tell his age and explain shortly that you love him, love quality time with him, but are willing and able to make time for the woman you love for sure. If you're not, then there's no point being on a dating site and trying to get someone. So I do assume you can and want to make time. MAKE THAT CLEAR!
Then the whole thing may become a little easier.
And no one is asking to play down on having a kid at home or losing hope because it does simply make it more difficult. Accept that, present things the right way.

Electron's photo
Thu 11/19/20 01:40 PM
Edited by Electron on Thu 11/19/20 01:42 PM
Thanks very much for taking the time to talk to me about this SparklingCrystal I fully understand what your saying and Im going to come up with a new way to wright it out. When I say its my job thats true but its my job because its who I am so I managed to get the job I always wanted. If you ask me " who are you and what are you most interested in in your life" I would say " I am a 3D artist and I want to work on my art every day" Im going to have to think a lot about how to say these things without scaring people off .. Thanks again you have been a gigantic help.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 11/19/20 02:03 PM

Thanks very much for taking the time to talk to me about this SparklingCrystal I fully understand what your saying and Im going to come up with a new way to wright it out. When I say its my job thats true but its my job because its who I am so I managed to get the job I always wanted. If you ask me " who are you and what are you most interested in in your life" I would say " I am a 3D artist and I want to work on my art every day" Im going to have to think a lot about how to say these things without scaring people off .. Thanks again you have been a gigantic help.

Well, in the end it is all up to you :) It's your profile and it's also nice if you feel good about it of course.

Anywho, you're welcome.

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Thu 11/19/20 02:28 PM
I could be wrong but this text looks familiar, I feel I have seen it months ago

Electron's photo
Thu 11/19/20 03:08 PM
Edited by Electron on Thu 11/19/20 03:09 PM

I could be wrong but this text looks familiar, I feel I have seen it months ago

I put my profile up to be rated a few weeks ago and nobody commented on it so I commented on it to bring it back up . it was way down at the bottom of the page (and im glad i did .. i have gotten some great advice)

phoebetbh's photo
Thu 11/19/20 07:31 PM
I think your profile also seems ok. I'm interested about the art & craft topic that you posted though.

Tetema's photo
Fri 11/20/20 01:27 AM
I like your profile,I personally feel it's okay.and I like the pictures too,you look good. As a curious person that I am,I would probably start my conversation with asking lots of questions about your art.

teckelandtortie's photo
Sun 11/22/20 03:03 PM
You are handsome but you need to smile in more of the photos, not just a subtle smirk as one portrays but one where you look very happy.

no photo
Sun 11/22/20 05:08 PM
I think your profile expresses who you are very well. Well done!

Electron's photo
Sun 11/22/20 07:00 PM

You are handsome but you need to smile in more of the photos, not just a subtle smirk as one portrays but one where you look very happy.


Thanks and you are absolutely right. I've tried a few times to take a pic of me smiling and it just looked forced and a little creepy. Im laughing all the time with my son but all my pics are selfies .. Ill have to figure something out because the pictures do make me seem more serious than I actually am .. :P