Topic: Single mothers
Redcarpet's photo
Tue 03/07/23 09:57 AM

its better being a single mother when you can provide the needs of your kids alone... rather than having an unproductive man beside you... i salute single mothers:rose:


you are right..good luck

bobtail76's photo
Tue 04/11/23 06:09 PM

Gobsmacked by the venemous comments made by certain men. You really have no idea what you are talking about.

Try walking a day in a single mother's shoes. You might learn a valuable lesson.


Walking a day in a single mother's shoes isn't going to change the fact that children from single mother homes do the worst on EVERY single metric you can think of, enough to say it's more closer to causation than correlation. Children have a higher likelihood of being poor, committing crimes, using drugs lower grades, suicide rates, health problems, cognitive problems and their dropout rate is higher than their counterparts from two-parent families. Boys tend to be idle and teenage girls had a greater risk of pregnancy.

Harsh reality, but true none the less. So, yes - if you don't care about your kids, choose shltty fathers and become a single mother.... Or just be a shltty selfish mother. Barring a widow, it's usually for selfish reasons anyway, guys already know this. The writing is on the wall.

Being a single mother is incentivized by the government with archaic family laws and spousal and child support payments. If it weren't as incentivized, I would probably see less children at risk - so ya, we do know what we're talking about and the only lesson that needs to be learned is the societal benefits with less single mothers - which you find "mean"

Douglas's photo
Wed 04/12/23 02:05 AM
Walking a day in a single mother's shoes isn't going to change the fact that children from single mother homes do the worst on EVERY single metric you can think of, enough to say it's more closer to causation than correlation. Children have a higher likelihood of being poor, committing crimes, using drugs lower grades, suicide rates, health problems, cognitive problems and their dropout rate is higher than their counterparts from two-parent families. Boys tend to be idle and teenage girls had a greater risk of pregnancy.

Harsh reality, but true none the less. So, yes - if you don't care about your kids, choose shltty fathers and become a single mother.... Or just be a shltty selfish mother. Barring a widow, it's usually for selfish reasons anyway, guys already know this. The writing is on the wall.

Being a single mother is incentivized by the government with archaic family laws and spousal and child support payments. If it weren't as incentivized, I would probably see less children at risk - so ya, we do know what we're talking about and the only lesson that needs to be learned is the societal benefits with less single mothers - which you find "mean"

Agreed with all the statistics, which I have checked out on several countries.

Being a single mother is not always the single mother's fault but undoubtedly the social acceptance and financial incentives for women who deliberately get pregnant without any intention of thier child growing up without the father living with his child, is doing ongoing and multi-generational harm to society.

GwennKay's photo
Sun 05/21/23 11:39 AM
its better being a single mother when you can provide the needs of your kids alone... rather than having an unproductive man beside you... i salute single mothers:rose:

salute!! you couldn't have said it better. the worst thing about having an unproductive man by your side is they pull you down to their level. you end up becoming 2 unproductive repulsive and toxic humans who then propel the negativity to the kids. better to spit and pursue progress and happiness elsewher

no photo
Tue 05/30/23 09:34 PM
I am going to put my thoughts in here as well. Being not only a single mother but the child of a mother that was single about half my childhood, I can honestly say that anyone going off statistics is also cutting short anyone that has and/or will succeed in these circumstances. I am a self employed artist, I am doing well for myself and my son, 9. He is well adjusted, getting wonderful grades in school, has many friends, and is physically healthy as well. It isn't the circumstances that make the person, it is what they make of their circumstances. Any single parent, whether a mother or father, works hard and it is sad to see them looked down on. So to an_one out there kicking *** and taking names for their kids, I am proud of you. Keep going and know that you have made it this far and they couldn't stop you. You got this!! Much love everyone :heart:

bobtail76's photo
Thu 06/01/23 08:23 AM
Edited by bobtail76 on Thu 06/01/23 08:23 AM
Statistics are there as evidence as the probability or likelihood of certain circumstances. To ignore these indicators is to ignore the problem. Looking away from the problem doesn't make the problem not exist.

Yogesh singh's photo
Fri 07/07/23 03:26 PM
I agree

yes

Shelly's photo
Fri 07/07/23 07:55 PM
I hate it being single

Ann's photo
Fri 07/14/23 03:27 AM
nobody likes it single

All in's photo
Tue 01/02/24 07:08 PM
Whell Shelly you don't have to be ill be happy an honored to change that n yes I have money every month sweetie flowerforyou

no photo
Wed 01/03/24 02:07 PM
Single Moms are the Unsung Heroes of the World !!

My Mom was a Single Mom. :angel: :heart:

Carmel's photo
Sat 01/06/24 11:26 PM
Hard to risk a childre as a single mom but I do anything to make sure my kids happy and I can gave what they need,im mama and papa,hard but happy

Redcarpet's photo
Fri 01/12/24 06:02 AM

Hard to risk a childre as a single mom but I do anything to make sure my kids happy and I can gave what they need,im mama and papa,hard but happy


Keep up the good work....Every seed you sow on your children will germinate and you will have a good harvest. They will learn valuing the benefits of being soft and hard from the same spot.

no photo
Fri 01/12/24 02:03 PM
My Wonderful Mama Use to Say:

You Better Eat Your Ice Cream
or else you Won't Get Your Broccoli. :angel:

SoCalRay's photo
Sat 03/23/24 02:50 AM
I think the most important fact to take from this is everyone's story is different you can't judge people on a whole in this topics its so diverse. My sister raised my niece sense she was a baby her father just walked out. I was and my daughter went threw a horrible time and are struggling to recover from it. I'm a single dad and I love my kid more then anything and I'd do anything for her. I put up with her mom dealing with so much. I didn't read the the rules its late lol. but I dobt want to use spasific words like abuse as they may trigger others. but my daughter and I went threw it for 7 years till I could not take it anymore. I'm from California and was so afraid to fight for custody even with the evidence I had I grew up believing the courts favor the mother. But enough was enough. I got to a place where I wanted my daughter to know in the future that I fought for her, that I didn't just submit. And thank god I did. Im notlw the primary parent in a joint physical custody case for my daughter. With that being said every story is diffent and we shouldn't point out such a broad point of view with out expressing its just small point of view and not intended as such a broad statement. I know lots single moms who are doing there best to provide for there kids.

SoCalRay's photo
Sat 03/23/24 02:53 AM
I was awarded primary joint physical custody. sorry I type fast and for get to check spelling and auto corrects my enemy.

SoCalRay's photo
Sat 03/23/24 03:03 AM
yea my daughters mother sat in her bed in the same spot on her phone feeding our daughter McDonalds and hot pockets while I worked 3 jobs. I'll take the blame for not seeing the light sooner but I wanted my daughter to have both parents. I still saw the benefits of that till it got bad enough.

Annie's photo
Sat 03/23/24 10:57 PM
In other words, you did accept her (single mom) but not her other half (child), i guess thats your point. Single parents probably need a undertanding and truly caring and have a uncondional love for both mom and the child.

Balvin Darrell's photo
Thu 03/28/24 06:36 AM
Yeah, it's definitely not cool for someone to start a relationship and then leave the woman with kids. That's a big responsibility and commitment. And I agree, if a woman wants to have kids without a relationship, that's her choice and it can be a strong and independent way to live. But when a relationship fails and there are kids involved, it's a tough situation for everyone. It's important for both parents, the community, and society to support each other and find solutions.

Balvin Darrell's photo
Thu 03/28/24 06:38 AM

I don't think being a single mother is about preferring it that way. If your talking about women who got the child when single, and not a mother with kids after divorce, they often desire a child so much but they cannot find the right partner to have them with so they decide to do it alone.
A tough choice, especially since you cannot fathom what it's like to have and raise children until you have 'em.

There's also women who get pregnant and the guy does a runner, leaving the mother pregnant and having to decide whether to keep the child or not.
I know one, my daughter's age, who had that happen to her. She kept the child but it's not easy. Financially struggling, also struggling with time, and there's no one to help you out like when you have the father there too. In this case the father does nothing, doesn't pay anything etc. etc.
She said the worst thing is you have no one to share the good and funny stories with. Sure there's grandparents but they don't know and see the child the way a parent does.
So even in that sense it's a lonely road and she'd much preferred it differently: with the father of her child.

I myself have been a single mother after divorce. And hell, that was NOT what I preferred at all!
My ex did help out financially and had the kids every other weekend.

And selfish? Excusez moi!? I made the decision in my children's interest, especially my son's.
And even if there's no such reason, if parents do not love each other anymore the way they should it's much healthier for the kids if they split up. Living in a home with a very ill vibe, parents maybe arguing and simply not being happy is one of the worst things you can do to your children.
In that sense deciding to divorce is the best thing you can do for them. it brings back peace and happiness in the home, of course after a period grieving and of getting used to the new situation.
But children adept quickly. Not, however, to living in a stressful situation with 2 parents who come to dislike or hate one another.