Was there ever a time in your life You made
love, but You didn't actually feel like doing it?

Many times.

I refer to those days, as my first marriage.
Worst three months of my life.

O yes! The last 2 1/2 years of my marriage all I did was go thru the motions. I felt nothing. How could I when my wife was cheating on me and felt she wasn't doing anything wrong. I had enough so I left.

I wouldn't call it "making love"..
A few times in my *much* younger days...I got in a position where sex was expected....and, as I hadn't driven to his pace (he drove), I had no way to leave..
It was easier to pretend I was interested in it too...rather than risk my personal safety, when I wasn't sure how the guy would react..

After a couple times of this...and being put out of a car in a remote area because I wouldn't have sex or give him a blow job....I decided I will NEVER be a passenger in a guy's car unless I happen to know him well.....and know he would not do such things..

IF you never had such a thing happen, or never had bad judgement when you first started dating and going to clubs (in your late teens/ early 20's)..then, be thankful...NOT judgey..

There was one night with this little minx I was dating... She wanted to go for a sixth time. I was pretty damn raw. But I did soldier on.

It happened to me, when I was married. He was very good at making love.


It happened to me, when I was in a relationship with a man, he wasn't
very good at making love.

Yes, just for the sake of the so called "relationship".
Because you knew he's cheating on you.

No. That would not be making love, that would be going through the motions.
If it is not obvious by now...I am not a people pleaser

R 2

M knot!!!!

Sure.

In the course of my life I've had sex when I didn't actually "feel" like doing it.

But I see a huge spectrum of feeling, intent, expectations, and more in there.
I mean to me there's a huge divide between "didn't actually feel like doing it," and, "not wanting to do it, or strong desire/motivation to keep from doing it."

To me there's a big spectrum between "highly motivated to do it," and, "highly motivated not to do it." And "didn't actually feel like doing it" can encompass a large portion to either side of the middle of that spectrum.

I haven't always been at the extreme, "highly motivated and singularly focused on doing it," portion of the spectrum when having sex.



IMO it would be far more relevant to know a "why" I didn't actually feel like doing it.

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Ciretom
Very interesting response. You
Put deep thought into it. I
liked that.