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| Topic: Looking for someone who doesn't cheat! | |
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ok here is goes I want to throw this on the table and hopefully get some feedback on it.
I met a guy on here who was still married and living with his wife only in seperate bedrooms for the last ten years, then got together with him and started talking about the future together after his divorce. He sent me the copy of his divorce paper so I knew that he was for real. She stayed in the house till Thanksgiving weekend then supposedly moved out. I think she did in that after I could call the house number later at night which I could not earlier. Now though he is gone two weekends in a row over night, and has good excuses for each of these. The one he was four wheeling and got picked up for tresspassing and ended up spending the night in jail. I checked with the public records and son of a gun it did not show that anyone had been picked up for tresspassing. He would call but it was always on his time schedule if I needed or wanted to talk to him and could not get him then I began to wonder. But if he could not get me he was mad, or wanted to know what I was doing. It was like I was always at his beckon call but he was not to be for me. Then it got so he could not remember things that we had even talked about and he quit telling me he loved me. I would say it but I felt like I had to drag it out of him. He would go into the garage and call me when his wife was home, and this past weekend when he came up for Christmas, I found him in the truck on the phone. When I confronted hima dn just said "Don't play me, he came uncorked and said his wife used to not trust him and he is not going to put up with that again and since I did not trust him he was going to leave which he did. I asked if I could see the phone number as it was suppopsed to be a friend that I knew of from his home town, but when I got in the house he had erased them. If he had nothing to hide why did he hide it? Am I wrong? Sorry it is a little long just want feed back. |
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ok here is goes I want to throw this on the table and hopefully get some feedback on it. I met a guy on here who was still married and living with his wife only in seperate bedrooms for the last ten years, then got together with him and started talking about the future together after his divorce. He sent me the copy of his divorce paper so I knew that he was for real. She stayed in the house till Thanksgiving weekend then supposedly moved out. I think she did in that after I could call the house number later at night which I could not earlier. Now though he is gone two weekends in a row over night, and has good excuses for each of these. The one he was four wheeling and got picked up for tresspassing and ended up spending the night in jail. I checked with the public records and son of a gun it did not show that anyone had been picked up for tresspassing. He would call but it was always on his time schedule if I needed or wanted to talk to him and could not get him then I began to wonder. But if he could not get me he was mad, or wanted to know what I was doing. It was like I was always at his beckon call but he was not to be for me. Then it got so he could not remember things that we had even talked about and he quit telling me he loved me. I would say it but I felt like I had to drag it out of him. He would go into the garage and call me when his wife was home, and this past weekend when he came up for Christmas, I found him in the truck on the phone. When I confronted hima dn just said "Don't play me, he came uncorked and said his wife used to not trust him and he is not going to put up with that again and since I did not trust him he was going to leave which he did. I asked if I could see the phone number as it was suppopsed to be a friend that I knew of from his home town, but when I got in the house he had erased them. If he had nothing to hide why did he hide it? Am I wrong? Sorry it is a little long just want feed back. My opinion: you've got enough red flags there to make uniforms for half the Russian army. I'd lose that guy REAL quick.... |
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I think "PLAYER" is the correct term.
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People who have nothing to hide... hide nothing.
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People who have nothing to hide... hide nothing. Thats it !!!! |
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What if the phrase was not, "And I don't cheat" but rather: "I don't do Meth." Can't we agree that such a statement would strike all of us as a bit odd, whether it be from a man or a woman?
I agree that the "I don't cheat" clause is suspect. If you are an adult, looking to form a relationship, have come to JSH to do so, are you sure you need to tell people you don't cheat? And if so, why? To keep the "creeps" away as one poster wrote? Perhaps, but since when did the creeps care about fidelity? And why is it phrased in a negative? What about something like: "I am looking for one person to faithfully share my life with." I don't know, that just sounds so much more positive and still covers the "I don't cheat" issue fairly effectively. -Drew |
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I'm relatively sure that most women on here do not want a cheat in their lives. Anymore then men want it. It's sort of a given. A pretty safe assumption, unless intimate encounter or multible sex partners desired, is indicated.
Really now.. If you think about it. If I was a cheater.. You know the kind... If my mouth is moving, I'm lying. You will never get to know much of anything real about me.... etc... Do you really think that telling me in your profile to go pound sand before emailing you, is going to slow me down? If anything.. It prepares me with information I will use to manipulate you. |
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guess that leaves me out
  just kidding everyone
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I have this theory that women who make a point of saying "No game players" in their profiles are actually making themselves more of a target by saying this.
The theory being that an actual game player, on seeing this, will realize that she's probably been taken once already, is on the rebound, and may be ripe for the picking. At any rate, does anyone actually believe that saying "no game players" will actually dissuade a true game player from contacting her? I can just imagine the guy saying, "Oh, she doesn't want a game player, and I certainly am one. I'd best not contact her. Perhaps I should move on to the next profile...." 
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I agree communication and trust is the key to a good relationship Glad I'm no longer looking for a good man that is
 Have a great day
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To be honest with you, I don't see how putting a statement like that will keep the creeps away.
If someone likes your profile and wants to meet you, I don't think you have any way of knowing that they are a creep until AFTER you meet them. And then it's too late. They can come across as the sweetest guy in the world and then turn out to be a dog, but not until after you've met them or have dated them for a while. People can be whomever they want to be online....they can be the biggest jerk, but portray them self as Prince Charming. For all you know, the guy you've been corresponding with for the past month could be a lab monkey put on here by NASA to test this dating site... :) |
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I wondered what all that screeching and chest pounding was in the background when he called me.
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I wondered what all that screeching and chest pounding was in the background when he called me. LMAO, now THAT was good! :) |
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I'm relatively sure that most women on here do not want a cheat in their lives. Anymore then men want it. It's sort of a given. A pretty safe assumption, unless intimate encounter or multible sex partners desired, is indicated. Really now.. If you think about it. If I was a cheater.. You know the kind... If my mouth is moving, I'm lying. You will never get to know much of anything real about me.... etc... Do you really think that telling me in your profile to go pound sand before emailing you, is going to slow me down? If anything.. It prepares me with information I will use to manipulate you. I agree completely. Persons predisposed to this behavior are skilled liars and deceivers. They don't care what anyone else wants or thinks anyway. They will just be a little smoother and up their game........in fact, some may even find it more of a challenge. A cheater will NEVER openly and voluntarily expose themselves. |
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guys are cheaters its bred into them
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lonelyredheadgirl, I am not sure what your intention is to say a blanket statement like that, but HOW DARE YOU!!!!! I find your remark completely offensive. There are alot of hurtful things a "guy" could say to you for that , but I will leave it alone.
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