Other than the macho side of a man, how do you get a woman to understand, and respect your other intrest that might not be masculine. What if you dont mind cuddling? What if you dont mind going shopping? Can you let her see you tear up from a sensitive scene in a movie? What if you dont mind missng a game, or hanging out with your friends? What if you dont mind hearing her talk about stuff you have no intrest in, but because your crazy about her, you dont care. What if you like going to the flower show, or a play. Do you tell her these things when you meet her? At what point does she see you as a whimp. Can she still respect you as the man in the relationship. How do you open up to her without feeling balless?

if you can't open up with out still feeling like a man then the problem is with you and you should find out why you feel that way.

Well I would be myself around her first, and as the relationship progressed, I would continue being myself and show her the things I love to do with her and just do them with her.

None of those things would lower my opinion about you as a man. Now if you whine constantly that would get on my nerves

and if you feel like your less than a man because you opened up to her than its something that you need to address with yourself, most women would prefer that you be honest about things than being macho and not expressing your feelings, or likes and dislikes

No need to make any announcements. Just do some of those things with her and she will see it for herself.

will she start asking me to wash her hair, or go buy tampons. will i be able to say no to some of those types of things?

Very nice answer Mike......just be yourself and we will like you for it.

i agree

You should never feel less than a man for wanting to be with your girl. Some women do yes see that as wimpy. But REAL women. See that as a REAL man. And will jump at the chance to get to know you.

take a shower together and wash each others hair
go to the store together leave her pick out the tampons and put them in the cart

just be you thats all you can be, and if its not accepted then maybe you might need to rethink the situation, that goes for any relationship

I would say let her see it develope slowly over time. From what I understand most womem like those qualitites in a man, but still want him to be manly. I would say let her see it naturally over time. No need to tell a woman you tear up over movies, just take her to a couple and let her see it (though I wouldn't reccomend a teary movie on a first or second date).

Don't tell her you like to listen about stuff you have no interest, do it.

If you don't mind cuddling cuddle with her, that probably won't happen on a first date anyway so it will be gradual.

Obviously being crazy about her enough to not care about anything else means you have been seeing each other awhile and she already knows some of these things about you (hopefully other wise thats just sketchy on a first date).

Just don't go out on a first date where you are missing the superbowl to go a play after a day of shopping at a flower show while asking her to go on and on about things you have no interest in only to end up seeing a movie where you cuddle and cry your eye out. That would probably be a bit too much for any woman to take in all at once. No one needs to see you, the real you and all of you, all at once. hlaf the fun of dating is discovering the unknown and learning about the person you are seeing. Leave some of the good stuff for later, but at the same time, if the moment is right don't hide it so you can try and look more manly.

Above all honesty is the best policy. If thats really how you feel and not an act, she will obviously find out, if it is something you don't mind doing for her, then do it gradually, you don't want her to expect you to miss the game for a play and cry during movies every night if its not what you really want.

Hope that helps a little and ladies feel free to correct me if I am wrong.

Ive always refused, or made such a stink about them, that they usually didnt ask anymore, or expect them. eventhough i wanted to do them

Why make a stink or refuse to do it, if that is what you wanted to do??? That isn't being truthful then...........

i agree fully, alot of women love that side of a man

Do you know for me to start doing some of those things i would have to explain why to my twenty year old son.

there is nothing wrong with those things, just dont ask me to miss the game.

What explain to your son that you are doing what you like. I don't understand what it is to explain.

"Son I am sorry I hate to break it to you but I like plays and flowers"

Seriously, if you mean it when you say these are things you like to do why, of all people couldn't you be honest with it to your own son???

explain and be honest so he understands, if nothing else make the bond between you and your son stronger..

Im 45, but this is not things that men i grew up around did. Usually the women did them together, and the men stayed in the car, or home