I never realized when I went through a divorce that I may have to do without sex, I never thought when I was younger that I could live without sex . but I have for the last year and a half. it's still important to me but I just haven't had the opportunity. I have found that I'm a little more picky about who I will have sex with but hopefully soon I will have sex and feel a woman's touch that I've missed so much.

You had sex when you were married?!!
Musta been newlyweds and not lasted long

You and a bazillion other guys. So?

Yeah, it’s totally okay to be a virgin until you get married .

To all who think being a virgin isn’t cool there’s no reason period to shame those who are and stay that way until they get married. Like the Pat Benatar song “Sex as a weapon” stop using it as one. If you force someone into sex just to prove that they love you is wrong.

am just a new member here**

Hang in there. It’s been 16 months since my last in-person connection and just a week for an online dynamic. I’ve been focusing on myself and therapy, taking things one step at a time.

If you’re coming out of a divorce, you may find that people try to rush things to fast, pushing for more too quickly or expecting instant gratification. Maybe it's different for men. 🤷‍♀️ But for me, what matters most is a deep emotional connection—something real, something meaningful before sex can happen. I’ve learned to take my time, to set my boundaries, and to wait for someone who truly respects my pace. It’s okay if that’s not what everyone else is looking for, but it’s what I need as I move forward as a widow.

I think there is a big difference between the physical and biological act of sex and the emotional aspect of making love.

You’re so right girlfriend !

That’s true. Physical is for the feeling and biological is the hormonal.