Again thanks to everyone for joining in.

Talking about the money side of things, lol... Well that is just a joke within my family. My ex owes my thousands in medical bills and these are only Dr. visits and such. Thank you God nothing serious has happened to my boy. My ex is to pay me $150 per MONTH mind you in child support. I have not seen anything in years. However when we got divorced 7 years ago I told my lawyer that child support was not needed for my ex. The man with the magic pen to sign off on the deal would not go for that. I have never wanted her money and do not need it. I got what I wanted out of the deal and that is my son.

newwaters: Thank you for your insight and one day I might just try that idea of yours. I like it! Humor is a must in all of lifes adventures...

Oh wait it gets better Jr over heard a conversation I had with his mom. She told me that she planned to move to Cali and become a hair dresser, lol... WTF are you thinking woman?
One of her frineds mothers is going to open a salon somewhere in Cali and she plans to go to school and be making $500 per week after she graduates, lol... People just amaze me with the lack of intel.

Children understand and see though many things at very young ages, that they are not able to explain for some adults to understand.
Keep the communication open with your child and you will stay on top.

You sound like an amazing dad, and i give you much credit, as it certainly is not an easy job to fulfill at times, but always very rewarding, when you get a hug at the end of the day....



Best wishes for you and your son

Both of you could use some time on the leather couch. You feel overwhelmed and unsupported by their FATHER of all people.
He feels, you took my kids away to be Super Mom, and Super Mom does not have a sidekick. It is still about you and him, not the kids. Co-parenting kids is more about eating crow and drinking crap than getting Johnny to baseball and attending P/T conferences.

Granted, I don't know you from a #2 pencil, and have one paragraph upon which to spout off about. However, the patterns are so incredibly common that contemporary books on divorce take them for granted.

Yes, I'm very direct, and some may even say rude, but I do wish you well.

Complaint, lol no no by all means that is not what I am doing. As for my responsibilities trust me they are all taken care of.
This is the first time I have ever used Forums to talk with people. So I wanted to talk with people I have something in common with. Plus I am not the brightest crayon in box but I can damn sure color a picture. This is why I like to hear from others, there stories, troubles and advise. It is amazing that God gave us all two ears and one mouth. At some point I hope that more of us realize we should listen twice as much as we speak.

I have 2 children by 2 fathers (one from each marriage) and neither ex does anything for their kid. My 7 yr old son's father say him over Thanksgiving for 4 days and completely ignored him the entire visit. It was the first time in almost 4 years he had seen him.

My daughter who is now 4, her father walked out on us when she was 10 months old and hasn't been seen or heard from since.

These guys didn't even show up for the divorce hearings.

I don't see how anyone with family responsibilities can ditch out like that... I do everything for my kids- and I'm happy to do so.

Amen to that

Wow I think you are doing an amazing job. I think all it takes to raise children is a lot of love and understanding...well plus lots of money. I do think you are doing things right, you have your son in counseling, you don't talk about his mom in front of him, you show him love and give him lots of support, you sound like a great dad. Now I say dad because ANYONE CAN BE A FATHER BUT IT TAKES SOMEONE SPECIAL TO BE A DAD.
I am going through things with my ex now. My son who is 13 doesn't want to see his father, he is scared of him. I won't force my son to go. The last time he saw his father was in June, and then last year he only was with him twice. I actually just got a phone call in November stating that he never wanted to hear from anyone in my household again. So that includes his other son who is 19 and going to college. The only good thing about this man is, he does pay his support every single week. He supports his children finacially but thats about it.
BUT I think it is wonderful when a man raises his children. My problem is this, I just went into remission in August..I had colon cancer. What if my cancer came back and I passed away? What IF my youngest HAD to go live with his father? My son would be miserable. Its just things like this that really bother me. You never know what might happen.
Thats why I think you should love your children the best you can while you are here. Let them know how much you love them every single day!!!
SWMSR...I think you are doing a wonderful job. Keep up the good work. I hope you find what you and your son need in your lives. Don't worry, God has a plan for you my friend!

You picked a good forum to join... the people here give good advice, and most of the time, it's genuine.