You ever want to know what a huge slap in the face feels like? I'll tell you:

I met a girl on here a while back. We decided to meet up in person. A relationship formed from this. I cared about her very much and she told me she felt the same. We both deactivated our accounts on here.

Two days after Christmas, she broke up with me. No explanation at all. She wouldn't tell me why. She wouldn't talk to me, period. She wouldn't answer my calls, e-mails, texts, anything.

Yesterday, her profile was re-activated.

Now, I know what you're thinking. I re-activated my profile, too. Well, I was the one that was dumped. It's a huge slap in the face to me to see someone that supposedly loved me back on here after leaving me without a word.

Any thoughts?

Sorry to hear that! Unfortunately it is easier to avoid contact than to just say you don't want to be together. No one wants to hurt another's feelings but we need closure! Chicken's way out.

SHe doesn't have to give you an explanation.
Learn from the experience & move on.
Show her you are a good person & don't give her any drama.

Blasting her here ain't gonna help!!

What would be humiliating to me would be stalking the JSH waiting for her reactivation, then following suit. But that's just me. The break-up could be no one's fault, but handling it without grace could easily be yours.

Learn the lesson and move on. She is.

I'm really sorry though, man. It never gets any easier when you don't succeed. If you can't have what you want, want what you have.

Yeah, words don't help a bit, do they?

I guess I left out some important details.

A few things we agreed to as a couple: We would always talk about everything. No secrets. Any problems we had, we'd discuss.

We also agreed that if we were to end it, we would do it in person. It was only the right thing to do.

She made a lot of promises and asked me to make some, as well. How can you put on your profile you want honesty and all of that jazz when you don't have it, yourself?

I don't know, I mean, I understand what you guys are saying. Move on. It's really not that simple, though, is it? When you give your entire heart to someone and they make you feel more loved, needed, appreciated, and wanted than you ever have in a relationship before and then just leave you without telling you why, it really makes you feel worthless.

Especially considering this is how her last boyfriend left her, you'd think she wouldn't want to do it to someone else.

I don't know...is becoming a monk too late of an option?

Im sorry it didnt work out, but just keep in mind that for every bs thing you have to go through, you have learned one more thing and are that much stronger. Choose your battles, dont chase her down trying to find out why. Just leave well enough alone, everything happens for a reason. And post this as your headline:

"They aren't stumbling blocks, they are stepping stones."

I love that quote and it makes total sense, dont let the crap bring you down, take each crummy thing as a learning experience and keep on truckin. Im sorry, 08 has me stoked and Im on a total positive zen thing right now! Were here for ya. Sometimes good friends are better than $hitty relationships.

If ya can't love the one you want .... love the one ya with Move it on dude ~~

Maybe she got bored off ya.

Part of the fun of a new relationship is that chase and the uncertainty. I'd say all those promises you guys made took that away!

Just let her go, she wants someone new so why hold her back.

That said, you shouldn't have re-activated your account, because you know you'll ALWAYS be waiting for a message from her...and that day might never come.

It is as easy as just moving on. Put her out of your mind and start again. There are better people out there than her, people that won't just up and leave.