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Topic: Giving Up
Tobias1540 Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 781	Fri 01/11/08 01:13 PM
I have noticed a lot of people on here ask for help to a problme and usually the resounding answer is to just give up ad move on. I am just wondering why that is. I think about 80-90% of problems in a relationship can be fixed if people in the relationship talk openly about problems and if both people are commited to getting it fixed. Now I know this might sound like a cliche' but I think that people are being told, by society-friends-etc etc, that if there is a problem in a relationship that it is best to forget the person and move on. But that might just be me.

happy_chic1982 Joined Fri 01/04/08 Posts: 3	Fri 01/11/08 01:15 PM
I agree with you

nu2topcat Joined Mon 07/02/07 Posts: 1317	Fri 01/11/08 01:17 PM
the key word is COMMITED. both have to be for each other to work thru a problem. based on many of the posts it is evident that one or the other is not commited, thus the move on mentality is put forth.

MalenaC Joined Fri 12/21/07 Posts: 749	Fri 01/11/08 01:18 PM
Giving up? Good idea.I will give up JSH. Is a waste of time

uk_bloke Joined Tue 12/04/07 Posts: 774	Fri 01/11/08 01:18 PM
i agree, i think you should give it up and move on

ravensdarkness Joined Mon 11/19/07 Posts: 25	Fri 01/11/08 01:19 PM
I totally agree. Like I dont want to give up because of the problem I am having now, but it seems like that is what everyone tells me to do. I think society thinks that anything that involves work is too much. Just laziness. Frankly if people are that lazy...nothing will work out because nothing worth having is easy.

bad_girl Joined Tue 07/17/07 Posts: 67379	Fri 01/11/08 01:19 PM
i agree, i think you should give it up and move on ditto

nonchalantwendy Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 13574	Fri 01/11/08 01:20 PM
I have noticed a lot of people on here ask for help to a problme and usually the resounding answer is to just give up ad move on. I am just wondering why that is. I think about 80-90% of problems in a relationship can be fixed if people in the relationship talk openly about problems and if both people are commited to getting it fixed. Now I know this might sound like a cliche' but I think that people are being told, by society-friends-etc etc, that if there is a problem in a relationship that it is best to forget the person and move on. But that might just be me. it depends on the situation my dear....why should you fix something that is doomed for failure....I know some people who stay together for the wrong reasons and are miserable and cheat on each other......

WOWCANDYKISSES Joined Mon 12/24/07 Posts: 224	Fri 01/11/08 01:21 PM
I have noticed a lot of people on here ask for help to a problme and usually the resounding answer is to just give up ad move on. I am just wondering why that is. I think about 80-90% of problems in a relationship can be fixed if people in the relationship talk openly about problems and if both people are commited to getting it fixed. Now I know this might sound like a cliche' but I think that people are being told, by society-friends-etc etc, that if there is a problem in a relationship that it is best to forget the person and move on. But that might just be me. I agree with you but like you said if (both people are commited to getting it fixed), You eventually have to move on when the other person dosent want to compromised,be open,honest or communicate. I dont think you should work something out if the other person already gives up on you, and if they give up that means they dont value you as a person, Thats my opinion

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Fri 01/11/08 01:22 PM
Sometimes you just have to give up That if you have tried everything and nothing seems to work JMO

Tobias1540 Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 781	Fri 01/11/08 01:23 PM
I have noticed a lot of people on here ask for help to a problme and usually the resounding answer is to just give up ad move on. I am just wondering why that is. I think about 80-90% of problems in a relationship can be fixed if people in the relationship talk openly about problems and if both people are commited to getting it fixed. Now I know this might sound like a cliche' but I think that people are being told, by society-friends-etc etc, that if there is a problem in a relationship that it is best to forget the person and move on. But that might just be me. it depends on the situation my dear....why should you fix something that is doomed for failure....I know some people who stay together for the wrong reasons and are miserable and cheat on each other...... I agree that every situation is different and that some problems you can not fix, but I think that if people realised a good relationship takes work to keep things going well there would be a lot more people out there in good relationships. And I am talking abojut fixing problems not ignoring them.

nu2topcat Joined Mon 07/02/07 Posts: 1317	Fri 01/11/08 01:24 PM
i would much rather be alone and by myself than in a bad relationship, been there, done that. never again

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Fri 01/11/08 01:34 PM
i would much rather be alone and by myself than in a bad relationship, been there, done that. never again I second that!!!

lost_in_limbo Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 30	Fri 01/11/08 02:35 PM
We live in a disposable society - diapers, razors, contact lenses, cameras, lighters... It seems that we have let that mindset enter our personal lives, that relationships have become as disposable as a Bic lighter. We're guilty of leaving relationships because its easier to go than it is to stay, because its easier to throw something away than it is fix it when it breaks.

nu2topcat Joined Mon 07/02/07 Posts: 1317	Fri 01/11/08 04:15 PM
Only if you allow it. i will always fight for what i believe in, and love. but when only one tries then it is over. there is no sence beating a dead horse, that is why there is so much domestic violence, people do not know when to quit and walk away. there are soo many songs that say what i am trying to say, but they say it better.

FisitMan Joined Fri 08/24/07 Posts: 254	Fri 01/11/08 08:39 PM
One thing that the "disposable society" has done for us is show us we don't have to stick with something just because society says we should. Time was when divorce was a disgrace. And a lot of people stayed married and stayed miserable. You have to be able to recognize what is fixable and what isn't. And if it isn't, walk away.

gracekelley Joined Tue 01/01/08 Posts: 255	Fri 01/11/08 08:56 PM
I agree with you but then there are those relationship that no matter how hard your try to fix it, it makes it worse and it hurts more. In drastic cases sometimes it is just better to move on. One of the people in the relationship maybe hurt to much to make it work out

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Fri 01/11/08 09:02 PM
I One of the people in the relationship maybe hurt to much to make it work out I totally agree with this. Also, change needs to happen, admitting that something needs to change is also a big factor.

gracekelley Joined Tue 01/01/08 Posts: 255	Fri 01/11/08 09:04 PM
I One of the people in the relationship maybe hurt to much to make it work out I totally agree with this. Also, change needs to happen, admitting that something needs to change is also a big factor. I think thats a problem in most cases because no one wants to say what there doing wronge

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Fri 01/11/08 09:06 PM
yes, I totally agree. I know we all have our faults, and admitting things is the hardest thing to do, but it can go a long way in fixing things. But you also have to be able to come to the realization that one of you is not willing to even admit faults and I think for me is the time to move on.