how many people think that the man should be exactly that"the man" (in a
traditional sense)and handle every matter in the home except for the
home making duties

I think that both people involved in the relationship should do what
they can. If the house is dirty i can clean. If i am hungry i can cook
(i used to be a chef). On the other hand i cannot do things like iron
very well and i cannot sew at all. If something would need to be ironed
i think my wife should do it if she had the time and could do stuff like
that. I have no problem doing handy man work so i think i should do
that stuff, not because it is traditional but because i can. I also
worked construction and built about half of my parents house and our
workshop while i was home from school on summer vacations. A
relationship is all about give and take. You should do whatever you can
to make life good for the both of you. It is all about give and take.
For me i love to spoil the women i am with so i would do more so they
could enjoy more of the time that they have at home. As for stuff like
the lawn, Either of us could mow it, but again i enjoy that kind of
stuff so i have no problem doing it, My ex girlfriend though was a
horse trainer and handled all of the barn stuff. Mowed to make extra
money and could not do your ordinary housewife "duties" at all. I
taught her how to wash a window at the age of 17. haha enough with
that. I think a relationship should be about give and take and you
shouldn't have specific duties. Just do what needs done

yeah i'm with you on that one but i still meet girls that look for that
so i was just wondering if it was more prevalent than i thought

haha i think we are about the only ones online tonight

I think in a relationship there should not be any kind of Man duties or
any kind of Woman duties...just do what you can do to help each other
out. I think it should be a give and take situation...each give 100% and
its more likely to work.

I can only speak for me but I think we all just pitch in and get it
done. I can do most anything myself so I dont really "need" a man to do
stuff but its nice when you share the chores whatever they may be. There
is a difference between needing and wanting I want a man for
partner/friend/lover

Thats the good thing about being the age I am right now..I do not need a
man, I simply would like to have a mans company. But it won't bother me
if it doesn't happen. I am living a simple life without to much stress
and thinking hmmm if I add a man to my life, will it add more stress?
But yes you are right...I don't need a man, I want one (sometimes)

LOL Ditto!

i know what you mean but alot of the girls i date can't grasp that
concept, they see me helping and they just start slowly let me do more
and more so it doesn't work. i agree though if both people work than
some one picks up the kids and the other goes home and makes
dinner(schedules permitting) and if there is a schedule conflict then
one picks up the slack

there you go, you have to work together. But honestly..don't you think
that being single is good sometimes? I can cook when I want to, I clean
when I want, I can have the whole bed by myself and I don't have to hear
someone snore :)

yeah all relationships are give and take its like when i train people
at my work you weedwack to make it easier to cut and you cut to make it
easier to weed wack .....besides with the way things have inflated over
the last twewnty years its extremley difficult to maintain a house kids
and all other bills then to top it off you got home maintainance and
restoration its almost impossible not to have two incomes and both
people doing chores
its even harder when your just starting out

You are right there Lion, it takes both people to make a good living.
Esp if you want the nice home, nice cars and the kids to dress good. One
income just don't cut it anymore, but if your smart and start saving as
much as you can, then if one of you become ill or get hurt, then it
doesn't hurt the pocket so much. I know that I saved when I could and
thank goodness I did...but that savings acct does not last forever.

yeah i agree i ain't hurtin by being single. if it happens that's nice
but like i said i getting to know some friends here and that's the
intention but if i'm lucky enough to meet that person that makes me
change my mind then i'd think that that was a bonus

I don't. I believe in being equal. There are obviously different tasks
that each take on. For instance, laundry is usually what the woman does
and shoveling the drive is the man's. But other than that, I believe if
you both work for a living you both should share responsibilites and
everything else.

Is this Op still here!


I think he needs a talking to!

UUUUUUUUUUUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!

not a chance... but he can pay all my bills if he REALLY wants to!!!!
lol

shelly he could still be here.......

I have been single for 11 years I have done every thing in the house
hold from paying bills, cleaning, dishes cooking, replaced a toilet,
replaced flooring, replaced windows, shingling, painting, changed my own
oil etc.....
I have found alot of men can't or won't do half of what I have listed
My parents were the "traditional" couple so i learned how to do both
sides, with more and more single parents these days we the single
parents have to do both jobs
so no I don't expect it but it would help if they pitch in

Are you saying...I should be the one to give him a talking to
Kimmie?????