Utilize your mutual matches, that's why it's there. You don't need to use these forums. I just get on here and seem to piss people off. It's kind of fun watching people fat-finger a typo because they're so pissed off at a bunch of words from someone thats probably across the country.

Makes no difference what you believe -- the people who have had success here are the people who put themselves out there.

Not saying that everyone in the forums is successful. But everyone I've seen who complains about the site not working, isn't in the forums much, if at all.

That's been my observation over the past year.

Well maybe your search terms are too broad, and others not narrow enough. Where's the happy medium?

I dunno it might be that some guys are scared to talk to women.. Exp if they find them very attractive cuz they think they don't have a chance... I'm just one to hangs out and is chill and if it works it works.. if not... it kinda sucks but oh well at leaste i met a cool person

There are lots of people who just want to say hey what's up and move on. But if you ignore all of that you'll find there is much more.

I met a fantastic guy who just spent a week with me here in Ohio. (He lives out of state) I'd had three dates locally, which were either lukewarm or just plain bad.

So I threw my hands up and jumped in the forums.... noticing this one lovely, smart, and funny man who was drop dead sexy and had the kindest eyes I'd ever seen (in a photo). And now I'm very sad I let him get back on that plane, and cannot wait to see him again.

You'll find someone, we all do when it's our time.

i've met a few people but i'm really likin this one woman, i'll move to cali for her

you read in the forums you will see more and more people and they read too. thats what makes most email people, just getting a sence of who you are by what you post, Lex is right on the money! believe it or not. it is true.

O_O lol

I can email a lot too... i'm mainly kinda text person or email email that i can zip out.. i use outlook a lot cuz i'm at my computer a lot during work... I'm not one who talks on the phone a lot exp cuz i'm on it all day..

you are very good looking and seem like a fun person, im sure someone will come around for you soon

DONT GIVE UP ,YOU NEED TO START POSTING IN THE FORMS MORE AND GET TO KNOW PEOPLE AND LET THEM GET TO KNOW YOU, I HAVENT MEET ANYONE YET BUT I DO HAVE SOME NEW FRIENDS AND THATS A START

I think that may very well be true -- I think some additional and/or modified search parameters would be useful.

I have seen some sites where the search settings were a lot more elaborate. To be honest, I don't know if that sort of thing will be implemented here or not. I know it has been suggested.

you dont find the "one" by looking the "one" finds you when your not looking or expecting to be found, so best thing to do is just enjoy the forums, be social, and wait until love hits u in the face, this is true, got personal experience in this matter

Every guy I met is either shallow..or scared of complications..or both..lol

I met someone while I was still setting up my site. We dated for about a month then I got a text saying he isn't ready for this relationship. I think it was a nice way of saying something else but I'll never know. Oh well, I also have another man who's been patiently waiting to meet me. Well see what happens there. He seems a lot more mature.

Guys, Don't break it off with a chick through text, e-mail, or even this site. She at least deserves a phone call, not to mention it's cowardly and uncool. (Sorry, had to vent!)

lady. you didn't scare me

The only problem with that lady is that i can never get them to notice me, i know part of it is b/c i have no pic up and that is something i am working on. But it seems they just dont want to get to know me, not that i am shallow or anything like that, i feel i am just the opposite. But thats only me.

romeo a pic would help a bunch. people do not like to talk to someone if they can't see them

At 15 post in the Forums how could this site work for
You most people want to see a person out in them and read
Who they are and the best way to do this is interacting
In the forums with other People There have been a lot
Of people Who have found someone on this site just
Post more read more in the forums and you will be alright

it took me a long time to find someone now he is coming to see me in feb so it does work when your not looking you will find someone or as in my case he found me