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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings....
So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? |
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? That's difficult...you just have to do it. You can't keep telling yourself to open. You have to just.....do it. I can tell by this you have a hard time trusting and are afraid of getting hurt. Don't worry, if you speak your mind and give it your all, if they hurt you, it's their problem and their fault.....not yours. You did everything right and you should be proud of yourself for that. You gotta speak your mind hun, if you don't, the relationships will only go one way....HIS way and that can't work. It's gotta be a 100/100 relationship. Each person has to give a 100%. See what I mean....  
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If it were that easy to do, the world would be a much more insane place. The heart will open when it feels like it, regardless of what your mind wants. It just takes time is all.
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? That's difficult...you just have to do it. You can't keep telling yourself to open. You have to just.....do it. I can tell by this you have a hard time trusting and are afraid of getting hurt. Don't worry, if you speak your mind and give it your all, if they hurt you, it's their problem and their fault.....not yours. You did everything right and you should be proud of yourself for that. You gotta speak your mind hun, if you don't, the relationships will only go one way....HIS way and that can't work. It's gotta be a 100/100 relationship. Each person has to give a 100%. See what I mean.... I see what you're saying. Thank you!
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? You won't have to tell your mind. You will know when it's time...and it will just happen. Continue to play it safe till you know it's ok 
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? That's difficult...you just have to do it. You can't keep telling yourself to open. You have to just.....do it. I can tell by this you have a hard time trusting and are afraid of getting hurt. Don't worry, if you speak your mind and give it your all, if they hurt you, it's their problem and their fault.....not yours. You did everything right and you should be proud of yourself for that. You gotta speak your mind hun, if you don't, the relationships will only go one way....HIS way and that can't work. It's gotta be a 100/100 relationship. Each person has to give a 100%. See what I mean.... I see what you're saying. Thank you! Your welcome.....Best of luck....you'll do just fine. Just have faith and it'll come around. Be strong.....I know you can do that....
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? it just happens, he should not pressure you to do that. |
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? That's difficult...you just have to do it. You can't keep telling yourself to open. You have to just.....do it. I can tell by this you have a hard time trusting and are afraid of getting hurt. Don't worry, if you speak your mind and give it your all, if they hurt you, it's their problem and their fault.....not yours. You did everything right and you should be proud of yourself for that. You gotta speak your mind hun, if you don't, the relationships will only go one way....HIS way and that can't work. It's gotta be a 100/100 relationship. Each person has to give a 100%. See what I mean.... I see what you're saying. Thank you! I totally disagree. I agree about the 100/100 but that only happens when there is total trust, and this would have already happened if there wasn't something there that would keep her from opening up. Sometimes we let ourselves get hurt by not going with our instinct. |
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? That's difficult...you just have to do it. You can't keep telling yourself to open. You have to just.....do it. I can tell by this you have a hard time trusting and are afraid of getting hurt. Don't worry, if you speak your mind and give it your all, if they hurt you, it's their problem and their fault.....not yours. You did everything right and you should be proud of yourself for that. You gotta speak your mind hun, if you don't, the relationships will only go one way....HIS way and that can't work. It's gotta be a 100/100 relationship. Each person has to give a 100%. See what I mean.... I see what you're saying. Thank you! I totally disagree. I agree about the 100/100 but that only happens when there is total trust, and this would have already happened if there wasn't something there that would keep her from opening up. Sometimes we let ourselves get hurt by not going with our instinct. Now wait...I only just met him last weekend, but since then we've both seen each other naked. Does this mean there is trust there? Does this mean I have to be comfortable because of that? 
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? That's difficult...you just have to do it. You can't keep telling yourself to open. You have to just.....do it. I can tell by this you have a hard time trusting and are afraid of getting hurt. Don't worry, if you speak your mind and give it your all, if they hurt you, it's their problem and their fault.....not yours. You did everything right and you should be proud of yourself for that. You gotta speak your mind hun, if you don't, the relationships will only go one way....HIS way and that can't work. It's gotta be a 100/100 relationship. Each person has to give a 100%. See what I mean.... I see what you're saying. Thank you! I totally disagree. I agree about the 100/100 but that only happens when there is total trust, and this would have already happened if there wasn't something there that would keep her from opening up. Sometimes we let ourselves get hurt by not going with our instinct. Now wait...I only just met him last weekend, but since then we've both seen each other naked. Does this mean there is trust there? Does this mean I have to be comfortable because of that? No that, that even increases the suspicion that something is wrong |
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? That's difficult...you just have to do it. You can't keep telling yourself to open. You have to just.....do it. I can tell by this you have a hard time trusting and are afraid of getting hurt. Don't worry, if you speak your mind and give it your all, if they hurt you, it's their problem and their fault.....not yours. You did everything right and you should be proud of yourself for that. You gotta speak your mind hun, if you don't, the relationships will only go one way....HIS way and that can't work. It's gotta be a 100/100 relationship. Each person has to give a 100%. See what I mean.... I see what you're saying. Thank you! I totally disagree. I agree about the 100/100 but that only happens when there is total trust, and this would have already happened if there wasn't something there that would keep her from opening up. Sometimes we let ourselves get hurt by not going with our instinct. Now wait...I only just met him last weekend, but since then we've both seen each other naked. Does this mean there is trust there? Does this mean I have to be comfortable because of that? No that, that even increases the suspicion that something is wrong So you're saying that I'm holding myself back because I can't trust him...whooo mybe I do need a break for a while. I can't trust anyone 
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Trust takes what we used to say in the military 'Time on station'.
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? Don't change who you are for some guy. If they can't handle the fact that you are reserved, it's their problem not yours. That is their own insecurities showing. |
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There must be a reason that you have not opened up, and maybe your just not ready...You should not be pushed into anything, those things come naturally.
I think maybe you have come from a bad break up and are just garding your heart. If that is the case then I can tell you that you will continue to do that until you feel comfortable enough with the person you are with. Aslo if you recently had your heart broken the worst thing you can do is get into another relationship right away. Take some time off, let your heart mend...read a few good books, make new friends...you noticed I said friends. Heal your mind and heart...learn to trust again then find someone that will make you feel complete. Good luck |
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There must be a reason that you have not opened up, and maybe your just not ready...You should not be pushed into anything, those things come naturally. I think maybe you have come from a bad break up and are just garding your heart. If that is the case then I can tell you that you will continue to do that until you feel comfortable enough with the person you are with. Aslo if you recently had your heart broken the worst thing you can do is get into another relationship right away. Take some time off, let your heart mend...read a few good books, make new friends...you noticed I said friends. Heal your mind and heart...learn to trust again then find someone that will make you feel complete. Good luck Thank you Kenneth, and your right, I just got out of a marriage two months ago...maybe it is a little soon for me to be dating again. I think I have been a little carried away with the feeling of freedom again; don't need to rush into anything so quickly. 
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There must be a reason that you have not opened up, and maybe your just not ready...You should not be pushed into anything, those things come naturally. I think maybe you have come from a bad break up and are just garding your heart. If that is the case then I can tell you that you will continue to do that until you feel comfortable enough with the person you are with. Aslo if you recently had your heart broken the worst thing you can do is get into another relationship right away. Take some time off, let your heart mend...read a few good books, make new friends...you noticed I said friends. Heal your mind and heart...learn to trust again then find someone that will make you feel complete. Good luck Thank you Kenneth, and your right, I just got out of a marriage two months ago...maybe it is a little soon for me to be dating again. I think I have been a little carried away with the feeling of freedom again; don't need to rush into anything so quickly. Two Months ago? Please for your sake don't do it. This is way too soon. You will only end up hurting yourself and other people. It is not fair to them, and it's not fair to you. way too soon. I have been there, so I speak from experience. I once went 5 years without going out or dating...and then one day I knew I was ready again. I had girls sending me gifts, teddy bears...etc just trying to get me to go out with them but I just did not want too. Take your time. I am not saying you have to wait 5 years, but you never know...Only you will know when your ready. But you need to wait at least a year. |
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Need some help expressing my feelings. The guy I am dating, (well every guy that I've met or dated), keeps telling me I need to be more open. I am in this vulnerable position where I keep holding in my feelings.... So how do I go about telling the mind to open the heart? good question skyk... i've spent years building a wall around my heart, to keep it safe and intact... i've just recently realized that the wall works both ways... nothing can get in, but nothing can get out either... break it down now! |
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Edited by
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Sat 02/02/08 12:31 PM
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What is that old saying
 You can lead a horse to water but cannot make it drink?  You can tell your heart to open up all you want to. This is where time has the upper hand. It knows ultimately when & with what person you will do this. This is YOUR timeline.. not anybody elses. |
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