Topic: wow...
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Sun 02/10/08 02:53 AM
Ok, most of you probably know about my pickup artist stuff.

Some people get into the pickup arts just to get laid a lot and nothing more.
Psh. What an unenlightened bunch.

Earlier tonight I was at this party...
One of my friends arrived later on and he asked me where the beer was. I walked him to the room in the back where the Bud Light was (I know I know it's crap beer but hey it's a frat party), and nobody was in this room except him and me. All of a sudden this girl I know walked into the room and just sat down all by her lonesome, looking kinda down. I sat next to her and asked her what was up. Apparently there was a little drama going on between her and this creepy guy at the party and she was trying to avoid him.

Yeah, I know the right moves. I told her to follow me outside and just walked out the back door. of course, she followed.

There was no one in the backyard and the stars were out. I started talking about how me and my friends back in California would climb roofs to just look at the stars and stuff... no canned routines there. However, I know that if a girl brings up anything that would make her feel negative feelings, I have to redirect the interaction so that I can be a source of positivity for her. That's why I just changed the topic completely.

One may expect that I'm going to start writing about how porno music started playing and how we made out and had passionate sex out in the backyard under the stars, but no. We just talked.

We talked about ourselves and each other, our passions and the things we do to express ourselves... I know it sounds cheesy but we made such a wonderful connection that felt GREAT. I got to see a very beautiful side of her: a passionate adorable girl who took every day of her life with a feeling of gratitude. She's so full of love for life. At first I thought she was just some hot shallow party girl, but we stripped away our bull**** social masks and really talked heart to heart.

I haven't had an aesthetically excellent interaction like that in AGES. I don't even care about the potential sex that could follow later on. This is what I'm in this pickup artist stuff for: making a connection with others that makes life feel REAL.

Sure, I was cockblocked when her friends pulled her away, but I really don't give a sh!t. I got more than what I wanted.

It was such a beautiful interaction. Wow.

I had to tell somebody haha

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Sun 02/10/08 02:57 AM
Congrats.

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Sun 02/10/08 03:03 AM

Congrats.

huh?

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Sun 02/10/08 03:04 AM
Short for congratulations or however its spelled!

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Sun 02/10/08 03:15 AM

Congrats.

well said not everyone makes a connection like that

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Sun 02/10/08 03:28 AM

Short for congratulations or however its spelled!


I know what "congrats" means but I don't exactly know why you are congratulating me.

Making a connection with someone isn't some kind of conquest or prideful accomplishment. It's an expression of our humanity.

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Sun 02/10/08 08:05 AM
Hey, it can also be a hell of an accomplishment - not many people really value conversation. But there are also some congratulations in order just because it is an accomplishment to make a connection with someone else, no matter how brief or where it goes.

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Sun 02/10/08 08:09 AM
Chief- I can honestly say it is a pleasure to hear you talk in such personal terms. Okay, read what you wrote in such personal terms, actually. Keep us posted, will you? flowerforyou

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Sun 02/10/08 08:26 AM
i like what you wrote better than your pickup artist stuff....its more real....Since you made a connection did you at least get her phone # or something like "i'd like to see you again" from her?

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Sun 02/10/08 08:35 AM
I like conversations like that. I had one of those nights once. We just lied on my car, looking up at the stars, and talked. After that night he became one of my best friends. Everyone thought we had sex, but nopes. Pure, beautiful connecting conversation =) I'm glad you were able to experience it as well!

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Sun 02/10/08 08:37 AM
Congrats

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Sun 02/10/08 08:38 AM
And good luck

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Sun 02/10/08 09:22 AM

i like what you wrote better than your pickup artist stuff....its more real....Since you made a connection did you at least get her phone # or something like "i'd like to see you again" from her?

huh? this is still my "pickup artist stuff" lol...i can break down every "natural" move i made into a bunch of technical terms for you if you want. it all flowed naturally, though... because I've internalized what I have learned and I am reaping some awesome benefits.

one point i'm trying to make is that there's more to the pickup arts than most people may see on the surface

and of course i got her number :wink:
I (almost) always get the number

I was at this coffee shop a few hours before the party with my friend and i was hitting on the chick working behind the counter. I almost left without her number. Luckily my friend was like "how are you supposed to invite her out to that bar if you don't have her number?" (I was talking about inviting her to this awesome bar/nightclub I always go to) I was like "OH, RIGHT..." and I went back and got it. So, yeah... I would have missed that one if I were on my own there haha

...and i'll definitely see the girl from the party again because we usually bump into each other at parties and stuff. oh, and also because i'm going to call her to tell her that we're going to hang out lol


Chief- I can honestly say it is a pleasure to hear you talk in such personal terms. Okay, read what you wrote in such personal terms, actually. Keep us posted, will you? flowerforyou

If you want to be even more posted, I've got some more juicy info... I've got a date set up for today with a different girl from that same party :tongue:

I didn't have that earthshattering of a connection with her, though. Just standard routine flirting and game.

Interesting story, actually... there was this other guy I was "competing" with for this girl (after the original girl I was talking about left the party with her friends). We shook hands on it laugh . Poor guy couldn't keep up for the life of him... and he's a tall, super-fit, good looking fella. I can tell that he's used to relying on his good looks when it comes to the issue of sex&dating but in the end I totally owned him haha... and I'm just a short, Asian...pickup artist.

For all you PUAs out there, I was negging her with C&F, roleplaying fake conflict, kino escalating with physical takeaways, running some standard routines, and compliance testing left and right. I was on point and was getting good IOIs. That other guy hardly even spoke to her. In the end I got her number and a date set up. That guy got nothing at all except shame.


And good luck

Luck has nothing to do with it. Thanks, though, bro.

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Sun 02/10/08 11:45 AM
ugh.
crap.
i'm thinking about this girl too much. i'm totally gunna be distracted in my mind when i'm hanging out with the other girl.

SHE'S HIJACKED MY BRAIN laugh

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Sun 02/10/08 11:56 AM

ugh.
crap.
i'm thinking about this girl too much. i'm totally gunna be distracted in my mind when i'm hanging out with the other girl.

SHE'S HIJACKED MY BRAIN laugh


Maybe you actually want to date her? noway flowerforyou

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Sun 02/10/08 12:00 PM


ugh.
crap.
i'm thinking about this girl too much. i'm totally gunna be distracted in my mind when i'm hanging out with the other girl.

SHE'S HIJACKED MY BRAIN laugh


Maybe you actually want to date her? noway flowerforyou

WHAT???
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commiment scares the sh!t out of me

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Sun 02/10/08 12:03 PM

Maybe you actually want to date her? noway flowerforyou


WHAT???
frown
commiment scares the sh!t out of me


Dating is not at all a commitment, Chief. Marriage is. Dating is like continuous PUA situation, only with good sex with a person who cares about you...

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Sun 02/10/08 12:05 PM
lol phew i thought you were talking about long term relationship stuff

i wouldn't want that stuff again sick

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Sun 02/10/08 12:06 PM

lol phew i thought you were talking about long term relationship stuff

i wouldn't want that stuff again sick


Never say never, for then you rule out great sex...flowerforyou

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Sun 02/10/08 12:09 PM


lol phew i thought you were talking about long term relationship stuff

i wouldn't want that stuff again sick


Never say never, for then you rule out great sex...flowerforyou

my gender isn't able to have multiple orgasms. i could care less haha :tongue:

jk yeah i agree sex is a lot better at the peak of an actual relationship