I met someone last night and it was great! There was a instant
connection and he called me wanting to take me out for coffee today
also. I am still married even though I left my husband 2 years ago. For
some reason I am having a hard time loosening up around this person.
Does this mean I am not ready? I take things as they come and I have no
expectations and I am in NOOOOOOOOOOOO rush to get into a relationship
but it is unnearving when you feel you just cant let go. Does this make
sence?

This means you are normal. Scares the crap out of me too.

Makes sence to me you'll know when to let go just trust you feelings and
instinks. Good Luck Shanga

My feelings are all over, thats my problem, I am like just enjoy it and
things will happen as may then the other part of me is like blow him off
and move on.

Well girl until you finally get a divorce and let go of him first hate
to say it but you will never let yourself go completly. So you need to
take care of the divorce first could it be your hoping that ya'll could
still get back together just my thoughts girl there has to be a reason
you have not let him go yet are you still in love with your ex maybe?

Could possibly mean you are not ready.. Have you had your final
resolutions with you ex. If you have not had that final closeure with
your ex you may still have somethings that you have left open or
unanswered with him especially since you are still married.
Just take your time you will know when it is right to get involved...
Just do not do anything you do not feel comfortable with, and one good
thing that could happen you could have found a reall great new friend.
You never know.

I agree with TEXGAL I held on to my ex for 2 years even though I hadent
seen her I feeled there was no closure and still wondered if we would
ever get back togather I held on to that so much I let alot of good ones
get away. Well about a month ago I let her come back a I got my closure
we didnt even know each other anymore but I needed that closure to move
on. This semester at the college will definatly be diferent.lol Good
luck

Absolutely 100% agree with Alpine and TXS...

You have to have closure to the past before you can move on...

Don't kid yourself, you'll only be hurt and the ones you are with will
be hurt too...

OH shag ,,,that makes ALOT of sense ...I am really shy ((((believe it or
not!))))!!! but I absolutly PANIC!!!!!! when I have to talk to some one
in real life!!!!ITS OK!!!!!!TOTALLY natural reaction!!!!..ooooooo !!! I
am happy for you!!!

we build up barriers around are heart so we won't let anyone hurt us
again, human reaction. glad to see there are shy ladies also, how
do you get over that?

just go with your feelings, if you feel it is not right then pull back
untill you are ready to go out with anybody! you know on my case my ex
divorse me because we argue allot. I can still feel something for her
even after 4 years when i see her from afar.thats why i can't go out
either. who knows if she feels the same.

YOU FIRST, have to want to let GO, THEN you are a little scared and
maybe one of two things,
worried that HE will not like YOU..
Or have not FULLY let go of your ex???
So then just WORRIED that HE (the new) will attach him self to you and
YOUR not really ready yet for that!!!

Weather or not I have let go of my husband doesnt matter as it is over
and I would never go back to him, He is now a drug addict and I will not
deal with that at all. Do I still love my husband? YES will I ever
resolve the feeling I had for him, I dont know. I waited 2 years to
start dating and now that I am it isnt as fun as I thought it would be.
It was nice but it is to complicating.

Ever consider that since the time you and your husband broke up that you
have matured and grown into a independant woman with your own power?
When we do that, we like to have some male companionship, but it isn't
necessary. There may be some red flags with this guy, but you'll find
one that you'll feel comfortable with.