I am the same way. I am not attracted to it for the same reasons. Been there done that and trying hard not to go back. I am still young and dumb and want to be full of.... HA kidding dirty minded people out there... I want to be the best me I can be before having children in the picture....
I admit though it is getting hard to meet men without children these days, and the older I become the harder it will be I am afraid!

Well hm. See I'm not afraid to date a man with or with out children. Either or I am prefectly fine with. Just for some reason I think I conncect better with men if they have children. I dont know if my maturity level has a big part on that or what.

welcome to th real world ella,,,,,good luck in your search

I wont date a woman that doesnt have a child within the same age range of mine. The previous women I had dated that did not have children just didnt understand the bond and wasnt able to accept the fact that my child comes first regardless.

Thanks babe! So far I am almost sure I met a certain someone...
but shhhhh... he he he... keeping my options open and being careful with it.... he has kids too man grr

SEE WHAT I MEAN!?! HA HA HA

you're looking to get into some "baby mama drama" perhaps?

You seem pretty mature for 18, but I still think that children are too big of a responsibility for an 18 year old to take on. At this point in your life, you should be putting YOU first, and children aren't going to allow you to do so.

thanks eveyone.

I agree with this, I prefer to date men with children cause as a single mom most men don't understand that bond and that my child comes first. I had a guy throw a temper tantrum cause I had to break plans cause my son was sick...Two year olds throw temper tantrums not 30 something year old men...I dumped his ass no way was I gonna raise another child!

I have another thought how can I completely like someone to the thought of loving him. Then in a months time we hate each other and barely talk. Even though I still like him and he says he still likes me, but it seems like we cant work it out no matter what.

So am I stupid of still liking him and trying to make it work or should I just get over him competely and move on. There is this someone who I have know for about three years who keeps making me feel wonderful when I'm around him, I know he likes me personally its just none of us asked each other out yet.

Totally agree with Danette. One of the few drawbacks for me dating younger is either they still want children (no can do - but I have 5 to share or love his if he has them) or they get jealous of the ones I DO have.

My kids are part of who I am. A big part. Wouldn't have it any other way.

.....Amen!

i get that a lot when i am out with my kids. i love kids and playing with them. i get approached at the playground. sometimes they have kids there too. i am always flattered. sometimes they tell me how often they go to that playground and which days....

one of the best way to tell how kind someone is - look at how they interact with and guide their children. if they are gentle, patient, caring, attentive and involved then you see how they treat those who love them and those whom they love.

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Here, here...

i would just forget about that dude, maybe you could get over him if you spend more time with that man you said you have knew for three years.

I don't understand. I've never been attracted to single fathers.

I was told lastnight love is a battle field and yep it is.