if you were not in love no more right before a big holiday lets say their bday,xmas,v day or wait?

if i were not in love with someone, and there is no love at all in the air, they probably can't wait for me to leave anyways, regardless of any holiday............

It depends on how much time you have before the Big Holiday.

From the personal perspective (obviously my opinions are tainted by the Y chromosome), if someone tried to leave me before:

Vday - Who cares. It's a made up holiday anyway. I'd rather spend it alone than spend it with someone who wishes they weren't with me.
Xmas - I don't enjoy Xmas, so one more thing won't make any difference.
Bday - Ouch...but if it's a week before or after, that's fine. If I spend a bday with friends, it'll wipe out the DOH factor.

In retrospect, I don't really remember the days of break-ups. I remember that they suck, and remember how that person broke up with me, but I don't remember things as "this is the anniversary of that time whosit broke up with me".

If a tooth is about to fall out, pull it.

Yes. I've done it before. No love means no fun on that day. I'd rather be happy by myself than miserable around someone I'm not in love with.

That's a tough question but a good one. I think i'd only wait if I still loved the person as a friend, If all love was gone then definately I'd go

dont wait the right day will never come. maybe hold off if they just lost a family member by passing on.

I have had that happen to me on Valentines day before.

I think I would not do that to someone around a holiday!
Another day would be a bit appropriate for me.
(unless it was a matter of life and death- than I would
be out of there in a moment).
Leaving people is hard enough on us- without making it
even more memorable during a holiday!

gosh i think its kinda mean couldnt people just wait till holiday is over

If there is no love then get out regardless of what time of year it is. I like the analogy Cheddar made....if a tooth is about to fall out, pull it!!!!

hey lilith401.............

So you're saying you would want your significant other to pretend to love you over a holiday??? That's insane

I'd try to make the best of it for a few days after the holiday passed. My ex Wife left a few days before Christmas to go spend it with her family instead of together like we planned. I couldn't do that to another person, I know how it feels.

Yes I would-have before. No sense in making both be in misery on a particular day.

Howdy Corner...

It's not mean, it just honest. If I found out a guy stayed with me only for the day or holiday so he could "be nice" or continue with a planned activity~ I'd see that as hurtful and deceptive.

A days is just a day. My family and friends would more than compensate for the absence of an SO I did not love or that did not love me.

my point exactly............

love doesnt have to turn into hate.you could show respect for all the good times you might have shared

I'd rather be hurt than someone "pretend" to love me.

My ex wife and I split up officially January of 2006.....BUT, we knew we were separated before that. We just didn't let anyone else know because of the holidays. But we were honest to each other for Christmas 2005.

i guess they are other reasons maybe kids why ruin their holiday

There's no way you can "win".

If you break up, you'll be hurting someone on a holiday. Hopefully they'll have friends and family to use as an anchor.

If you don't break up and wait until later, one or both of you will be miserable during a holiday, and when you break up, s/he will know you stuck around only for the holiday...not out of love, but out of guilt and not "wanting to be the bad guy". The pretend-love is just as hurtful, eventually.

All that said, avoiding Christmas for break-ups is good all around. That'd be a tougher call.

True - that's what my ex and I did over the 2005 Christmas....didn't make it official until after so the family and our daughter could have a good Christmas BUT we were honest with each other. And we were cordial and everything, we just knew it was time to move on.