I'm so frustrated at the moment...

I've been talking to a guy on the phone and through email every day for 2 weeks. He's very busy running his own business, but he still finds time to talk to me a couple times a day. We haven't met yet because he lives 2 hours away from me and his days are very full. He left for vacation yesterday morning. On this 9 day vacation, he won't be on the phone or computer while he camps out on the coast with his 2 dogs. He plans to hike, relax, read books, and generally just escape any and all civilization as much as possible.

I miss him like crazy already and I haven't even met the guy. He plans on calling me and driving to see me when he gets back. He says he's even bought me a few little gifts that reminded him of me. This guy is a great catch and really has his life together.

With all that I know, all that I've been through already, and with how easy it is to lie online, how do I find the faith to believe this guy is for real? Would you just sit and wait for a week and a half, wondering if this guy is going to flake? He's all I've been able to think about and it's driving me nuts. It sucks being left in the dark. How can I get him off my mind enough to not go crazy, but enough to not forget him altogether?

You should be wary.

lol damn it mirror!

I would do what your heart tells you.I wouldn't put everything on the shelf persay but I would keep thinking of him and if he gets your attention as much as you say, then your heart will always take you in the right direction.When it comes to him, anyone I suppose can say anything online but, take it as it goes.There will be things that come up in the future that will test his honesty and integrity in front of you.Pay attention closely and guard your heart.Don't leap.Hope this helps sweetie.
He also could be telling you he's doing that this weekend but he's seeing someone else that is scheduled and then coming to you.Be careful

You have talked for 2 weeks.

You cannot usually tell when someone is misleading you but if you give it TIME their true colors will show.

I would have to say rein it in a bit and give it time.

Thank you, it does help

I thought of that, too. He swears up and down that he's a monogamous guy, that he's single, and that he's only interested in meeting me. He is pretty geeky so that helps me believe him more, as bad as that may sound. I know geeks lie, too... lol
He just seems really genuine, and usually I can tell when they're BSing me...

Right! But how do I tell my heart to be patient and not believe?

No one is saying not to believe him. If you are that invested after 2 weeks I would say to prepare yourself just in case he is not what he has represented.

Trust but Validate.

You can allow yourself the luxury of belief...just know that you will survive if he is not genuine too.

You have lived without him for how long? And only known this guy for two weeks! You're mind may be wrapped up in him...but as of right now, your life is not. Save the panic button for later, when it really gets scary.

you've only been talking for 2 weeks.. I'm sure he had this vacation planned well in advance (before talking to you).. the only thing you can do is to keep yourself busy doing other things, the time will fly by. And the only way to know if he's being honest, unfortunately is "time". Give him the time to put the actions behind his words.. if after he gets back and it leads to excuses as to why he can't meet, one after the other.. then chances are he's probably married or has someone else.

Really sage of you!!
And, EE, have you googled him by real name and profile name? Sometimes I've found men on other sites and looked around for recent activity on them, or if they are signed up at sites I would consider "undesirable".

Honestly that is a hard call one since none of us knows him or what he does ect... Red Flag a big possibility but no guarantee it is. When talking to others on the internet or LDR it is hard to determine what we can find out so much quicker in person.

But we can't rule out that he is telling the truth all together. Is it a bit suspicious 9 days gone and he will have no way to have contact with anyone not even by phone all alone with only his dogs. That does make you raise and eyebrow.

But.... one can't assume what they don't know for a fact. Two weeks only of talking yeah it is easy for one to grab your attention when they are giving you the attention as well. Does this mean he is not telling the truth noooooo. Does it mean he is on the up and up no matter how geeky he is never never base your trust to that.

I say while he is gone evaluate the situation and keep it in the back of your mind that anything could be possible. But also remember never to automatically assume what the deal is for that is not fair to either. Always try to base off of facts. Those that have things to hide somewhere down the road they will slip up just don't push those Red Flags completely out of your mind when they do. Always be aware of what they say and if they contradict themselves later ask them about it.

But two weeks take a step back and go a bit slower for at times our feelings get way ahead of us and lead us into a major heartbreak. Time is something we all have take all that is needed to find out everything you can about them.

Time sucks, but you are all right about it being the key to trust. I need to find some patience somewhere... especially if this guy IS for real, because I'd really hate to mess this up.

I guess what it really comes down to is that I'm a little sad to think that if he REALLY liked me like he says he does, he'd break down and drive into town for some proper cell phone reception and call me even though he said he wouldn't until he came back from vacation... but I'm sure he probably won't. I would!

I'm getting better with age, but I still have a tendency to rush... I just get so excited when I find someone that might be compatible with me. I mean, you see how picky I am by looking at my profile!

Yep, liars always slip up somewhere. I haven't met one yet that hasn't.

that sounds like a guy i met on another dating site about 8-9months ago. but yet he doesnt call or email only if i email him first but yet if he wants to come over he does it on his terms.. thats bull!!! and his gives alot of excuses and to me thats not worth my effort and time.. i used to think of him alot but hes not worth it so im still looking..so yea i call this guy nothing but a flake as well. i even caught him in a number of lies even tested my therory and i was right about him lying

All I can say is listen to your own words they make perfect sense. Not only that it really depends where he was going as far if per say he went into the nearest town if there is reception it all depends in the area. But for the most part humm it brings to mind that even Mountain Climbers have cell phones with them now days. I'm not saying he has reception where he is but it is a possibility he could have. It is those things that make one go hummmmmm

He didn't say anything about not having service... he just said when he goes camping, he leaves all business behind and soaks himself into the wilderness, taking in a full vacation from everything... which I can totally understand. He said he'd be leaving his cell phone and laptop at home.

Part of me doubts, part of me trusts... I just really hope this guy isn't lying to me, because he seems awfully sincere. I'm so tired of being lied to. I just want something real... and this waiting is killing me!

If he runs his own business, it's impossible to totally disconnect for a day...let alone 9 days. no way...no how.

no way...no way...no way...no way.

Depends on what kind of business and if he has a good office manager that can take care of things while he is gone.

But I would have to agree fr the most part on this one.

4 more days till I find the truth...