Ok So I rescently figured out that I have feelings for my best friend of 13 years. What makes this complicated is we do have quite a history together. Friends for a long time at first then dated a little and stopped. Then about 4 years ago we kind of dated a while and were sleeping together for a while. We stopped doing that and remained friends. Well we wathched that movie Maid of Honor and well it made me realize that Im that guy.. im head over heels in love with her but I dont think or know if she feels the same way.. I mean I know she is scared of losing the friendship but its getting to the point now where I dont wanna see her with anyone but me cause it hurts ya know? Anyways I just need some advice from some girls on here and especiallu if you have ever been in a similar situation.


Thanks,
Bob

Why don't you have a sit down talk with her and tell her how you feel? Either way you could lose her friendship or you could gain the love of your life. Good luck!

We have talked a little and she says it would be too easy? Which just confuses me even more?

Talk to her- let her know how you feel- How do you know that she does not feel the same way about you. Communication is the key.

Just talk to her. You just never know

Good luck

Kind of dated? This mean that you too were just sleeping together for convenience? I mean, how do you kind of date?

Anyways, not a girl here, but I have been in your situation. It's simple really. Risk it all or not. That is what it comes down to. Honestly, if you love her, then telling her so and talking about it is what you have to do. Cause living with that secret and not saying anything will eat at you. Good luck.

Maybe you should lay it all out on the table. Kind of sounds like she is screwing with you.

I hear ya. I wanna lay it all out but I just have so much to lose.. I mean she has literally been my best friend since 6th grade.. So its hard to think of losing that ya know? I know what ya mean about feeling like Im getting kinda screwed by her or kinda used if that makes sense.

Communication is the only answer put all your cards on the table. If your confused about something tell her what it is and talk it out.

What is sad when one keeps the feelings bottled up then she meets someone else and leaves you alone. All due to you were never totally honest with her.

Its up to you if you really care for her as you say you do then speak up!!

Wow. Friends since childhood? I think I saw this movie.....Is her name Jenny?

Even if it may put our friendship at risk?


See I guess im confused because we act like we are dating.. We always eat dinner together buy things for eachother i have keys to her place i go to her family functions ... A couples shower together all that stuff and then she starts dating? Just dont make any sense?

Lol the funny thing is her name is Jenny

LIFE IS TOO SHORT TAKE A CHANCE & TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL!

I'd say talk to Jenny and tell her how you truly feel. Its a BIG risk (if you decide to take it) because you never know how she feels. What if she feels the same about you? Good Luck and keep us posted!

i have an italian horn cause im a WOP(with out papers),but how come the scottish and irish created it

Run Forrest Run.

I thought that movie was so COOL,..

I`d say go for it,.. Bob,..

Life may be like a box of chocolates forrest- you never know what you will get. But everyone knows those round ones are those nasty ass orange cremes that noone likes. Advice? Don't pick the nasty ass round orange cremes.

I soooooh hope I am wrong but this sounds like she knows exactly how you feel already. It doesn't matter, never has and never will, because she can have you when she wants you and doesn't have to when she doesn't. You are her safe Fu--Buddy and ATM with Hair from the sounds of it. She has pretty well made that clear so professing the obvious is only going to humiliate you and make her withdraw until you back off. Then whenever her real love interest isn't available you can be a convienence. You think I am wrong call her bluff and ask her to commit to you. I bet it doesn't last six months. You might have a great holiday season while you be her number one Santa since you don't seem to see anyone else warming things up currently but people do what works and you have let her play you like a drum. You seem like a nice guy who deserves a lot better.

I almost hate to say this, but she probably already knows and for some reason doesn't want to pursue it. Women can usually tell when a man is in love with her.

I hope that's not your case.

well lets see you can either take a chance with her ..or..wind up on a dating site..hmmm..dilemma..dilemma... i say go for the girl you know..being on a dating site is like putting a quarter in a gumball machine hoping for the red gumball and ending up with the green one most of the times...psst..i hate the green ones..i usually throw them in the parking lot and writing off the loss...get my drift...