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Topic: Engaged to an addict.....
lovethelord's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:25 AM

should you...

1. run forest run

2. love will work it out

3. draw a line in the sand and know anything is possible (boundries)

love flowers smitten :heart: flowers smitten

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Fri 03/20/09 05:25 AM
Having been married to an addict, I choose (A) flowerforyou

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Fri 03/20/09 05:27 AM
Edited by 2KidsMom on Fri 03/20/09 05:29 AM
Probally would never get engaged to an addict.,if we are talking drugs.

My sons father died from overdose.
Its very hard alone.

I choose "1."

DragonFlyTat's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:31 AM
Speaking from experience RUN FOREST RUN!!!

Fade2Black's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:32 AM


should you...

1. run forest run

2. love will work it out

3. draw a line in the sand and know anything is possible (boundries)

love flowers smitten :heart: flowers smitten




Was married to a drug user and PTSD 'victim' .. tried #2. Didn't help him. Saw #3 as only option (line was tough love ie divorce) .. honestly helped him. Once he saw he lost his family he changed. He didn't really want it before then. He's all better now, the kids are close to him again & we've both moved on with our lives. :wink:

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Fri 03/20/09 05:34 AM
I have kids to think about.. I would run. Fast, and far...

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Fri 03/20/09 05:35 AM
I've lost too many people to drugs and alcohol already -- not going to do that again....

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Fri 03/20/09 05:37 AM
whoa 1.

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Fri 03/20/09 05:37 AM
After being in recovery for 27 yrs, no relapses.

If they are currently using and this is the beginning of a relationship and you think you 'fix it'
better think again. (RUN FORREST)

If you're already in a relationship and they relapse, be supportive but draw the line, and stick to it.




lovethelord's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:41 AM



should you...

1. run forest run

2. love will work it out

3. draw a line in the sand and know anything is possible (boundries)

love flowers smitten :heart: flowers smitten





Was married to a drug user and PTSD 'victim' .. tried #2. Didn't help him. Saw #3 as only option (line was tough love ie divorce) .. honestly helped him. Once he saw he lost his family he changed. He didn't really want it before then. He's all better now, the kids are close to him again & we've both moved on with our lives. :wink:

sounds just like my story only he was a very well funtioning alcholic.. but the divorce changed him and he has been sober for 9 years! Doing fantastic!flowers

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:42 AM
Addiction to drugs, alchohol, or gambling can do bad things to otherwise good people. Draw a line. If it gets crossed, run forest run. Tough love is the only answer.

Seakolony's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:43 AM
Edited by Seakolony on Fri 03/20/09 05:46 AM


should you...

1. run forest run

2. love will work it out

3. draw a line in the sand and know anything is possible (boundries)

love flowers smitten :heart: flowers smitten


1. run forest run.....been there done that over it!! :smile:

lovethelord's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:44 AM

Addiction to drugs, alchohol, or gambling can do bad things to otherwise good people. Draw a line. If it gets crossed, run forest run. Tough love is the only answer.

you are right there!:wink:

trgirl's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:50 AM
noway RUN RUNnoway AS FAST AND AS FAR AS POSSIBLE!!!!

lovethelord's photo
Fri 03/20/09 05:58 AM


should you...

1. run forest run

2. love will work it out

3. draw a line in the sand and know anything is possible (boundries)

love flowers smitten :heart: flowers smitten

I hope by saying run forest run this does not offend anyone on this sight.
Having some addictions early in my life and also counseling others as an adult I do know addictions are just symptoms of our own (Enduring and not thriving)or staying stuck when we know we should move forward..
They also can be defeated and you can live in victory!flowers :heart: flowers

BertDCaveman's photo
Fri 03/20/09 06:06 AM
Hi I'm Bert I'm addicted to women bigsmile

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Fri 03/20/09 06:20 AM
Having had someone in my life that was "addicted" I tried it all. Yes even the tough love approach. Finally it came down to "RUN FOREST RUN" I will not put myself through that again.Because it hurts more then any normal relationship does. You grieve for yourself and you frustrated frustrated grieve for them.

Peccy's photo
Fri 03/20/09 06:26 AM
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lovethelord's photo
Fri 03/20/09 06:34 AM

Hi I'm Bert I'm addicted to women bigsmile

Hi Bert Im ltl and addicted to minglesmitten smitten

Timis76's photo
Fri 03/20/09 07:18 AM
Speaking from an addicts perspective. Not many ppl consider pot to be a drug to be addicted too. but i am proof of that. I had been smoking for better then 20 years. my ex wife meet me when i was into it pretty heavy. being high everyday all day.
After 5 years (2 of which we were married) I quit. And found that i was no longer attracted to her. One and half years of hell and fighting we finally gave up. Me being strait also pushed her away because I would not let her get away with nothing anymore. unlike before when she did what she wanted, when she wanted. I have now been strait for almost two years( two in June ). And understand what I was missing out on. LIFE.
Only the addict can make the choice to change or quit. You can help with understanding, but any more then that will just drive the person back.

Thats my look on it. What would i do? Understand that quiting is like letting a part of yourself go. The the person waiting to be found is so much Better.

Grammar and spelling sucks so be it.

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