So I feel the need to vent.... I know what I want, and even more so I know what I DON'T want. It is a fact that no matter how much someone may stimulate you mentally and emotionally, if there is a 'defect' in the chemical attraction of any kind, eventually THAT will be the ruin of all that seems good. Just like that of a great passionate relationship that is solely based on the physical, if the mental portion or the emotional portion is not in line you will soon find yourself sabotaging the relationship without even thinking about it. I also know that you cannot find something worthwhile when you are not looking. Good things come to those who WORK for them. Sitting by idly thinking something will just happen is a recipe for disaster. The laws of attraction are very powerful, and you have to have your "laws of existence" under control and in line with them. As well, taking for granted something that is right in front of you, and allowing for 'interference' instead of actually giving it your 100% is also a big mistake. Better to go for it all, without fear of loss, and then see what may come... otherwise you not only can hurt yourself, but someone else as well. This "world of online dating" is chaotic. People say they want "the real thing"... then they connect with someone online, meet them and find they mutually have interest in each other... however one or the other continues to stay LIVE on a dating site while they're working on a potential relationship. All because they feel the need to stay LIVE to "keep looking" or "keeping their options open" with the hopes of "maybe something even better" over making the most of what is before them and not taking it for granted... not only is it selfish and totally inconsiderate, but it is straight-up stupid... unless of course, you are only pretending to "know what you want" and really only in this for the "game" aspects. And in that case, you don't deserve happiness as that puts you in the class of people I like to call "the ones who really SUCK". My theory - if someone seems worth your efforts, then give them the opportunity and offer that 100% - lay low and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, what is the worst thing that will happen in regard to this online dating saga? You would have to start over again and reactivate your profile. BIG FREAKIN DEAL! The "potentials' will always be out there.. ya' know? I mean... take away the internet; if this were a public meeting place, as opposed to an online connection... would you go about it all the same way - ? Would you walk around with a sign that says "Single & looking" as to adviertise yourself, and continue to "approach" other people while you are already in some sort of involvement and have stated that you were "mutually exclusive"?

You seem a little hostile and negative. Even your profile reads that way...

Hey, if your attitude helps you find what you seek then more power to ya!

hostile - ? I like to consider myself as blunt - direct - and your standard straight shooter. Sometimes the truth isn't kind and defintely not "fluffy".

my kind of woman .. there you go just like me.. it's about time. I was feeling left out..

Sorry folks... I am not one to *****-foot around with nonsense. Life is too short for B.S. Too many people are way too soft spoken and then wonder why they have trouble getting what they want. I speak my mind, and if someone can't handle it, then it usually means I have struck a chord withthem, or hit a weak spot.

*watches*

I appreciate the support... too many people run around just telling people what they THINK they want to hear... I have yet to meet a real mind-reader yet! What's worse is the ones who just sit idly and say nothing and just settle for putting up with things that they should not! Yes, relationships are about compromise and sacrifice - but NO ONE should have to put up with nonsense. Its not fair.

enjoying thetit-for-tat are ya'? It's turning into quite a show... lol

Knowing what you want and beating someone to death with it are two different things.

Also, just because at first glance someone isn't exactly what you think they are, doesn't mean they can't be much more. If you limit yourself to a strict and hard line of "what I want and do no want" you are dooming yourself to fail.

I found what I wanted with my ex... only to find out later it wasn't really what I wanted after all. Sometimes it helps to step away and look at the whole instead of each little piece.

and for the record - my profile disclaimer IS written as a deterrent for those who I would avoid on ANY given day. It acutally works to the benefit of the one who might come across my profile and actually posess some of thos "Dont's" I have noted... I find it to be fair, and brutally honest. If you read my actual "What I'm here for" and my "About me" you would see that although I have my "agressive deterrent" as the first part of my profile... you would see once you read what I am about, that I am not hostile or negative. I am actually open to the opportunity that there are good people left in the world. But I guess you didn't read that far becasue you couldn't handle my "disclaimer".

I'm just watching. I'm one of the most opinionated, vocal, anti-politically correct, take-no-bullsh!t people you'll ever know, so I'm just watching to see if you know what I know.

Don't get me wrong - as I mentioned before - I do beleive in compromise and sacrifice as it is necessary in a good relationship. But my point is, that in order to really give something a CHANCE to be good, if there is a mutual interest - I beleive that both parties should be going into it equally. I am willing to give 100% upon such a scenario, so I feel that to make everything "fair", then he should too. What is hostile or negative about THAT?

Geez... why do I feel like Jack Nicolson in a Few Good Men...

"YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH"

LOL.. so am I living up to your expectations....?:)

Actually I was purely going from what you posted and had not looked at your profile yet.

For many, what is posted is the "first impression" you get on someone. My knee jerk reaction was that you have a hard set of goals and values for someone to live up to. That was all I was implying.

I am a straight shooter. But I guess I'm just a little less brash about it.

I think a disclaimer is all fine & dandy...& you're entitled to ask for what you want...but I'm wondering how many will read beyond it...?

I would first advise that you lighten up--in life and in your profile. You do seem to focus on the negative. That probably comes from unsuccessful relationships and past hurts. But all that is in the past...unless you keep bringing it into the present. Focus on the positives.

In your profile, take out your disclaimer. Any man in his right mind is going to hit the back button when he sees a woman start off *itching. Be charming, witty, humorous, as your profile says you are. Don't talk about it; show it in your writing. Your profile is your advertisement. Sell yourself.

Don't take life or love so seriously. Your profile isn't the place for it; it's a place really to just briefly introduce yourself, what you enjoy in life, what great qualities you have, something to get a conversation started. Get a first date, a second date, weeks of dating, before you get to your serious expectations. Just enjoy the ride.

The right one for you is out there somewhere, but are you the right one for him? Dump the negativity and lower your expectations somewhat so you'll be the right one when your right one comes along.

Until then, just enjoy dating and hanging out with different kinds of people. We can learn something about ourselves and the world around us through anyone we encounter, whether good or bad.

Wrong. Some things, you just do not compromise....like Kraft Macaroni & Cheese.

It is not about "not handling the truth." We are all adults here and if anyone cannot handle reality then they shouldn't be here. What "IT" (it meaning my initial post on this thread) is about is PERCEPTION and ATTITUDE.

You come across as argumentative, negative, and somewhat hostile. I'm only an objective viewer. I have zero agenda. That is reality. Perhaps you would like to invent your own. Feel free to do so. Many others do.