my ex fiancee tried to take his life today. We have been talking off and on since he broke up with me. He has been trying to get back together with me. I still love him, but who is to say he wouldn't end our relationship again.

He wanted to come over today and prove his love for me. I told him no. I feel so bad....

He is in the hospital. I want to go see him and let him know I'm here for him, but his Mom said she does not want me to see him right now, because his brother and sisters are mad at me. WHAT? Is it my fault he tried to end his life?

Should I stay away or should I start calling hospitals to see where he is at? Can his Mom keep me from seeing him at the hospital?

sounds like he was trying to punish you for not seeing him

I would stay away

Thank goodness someone else said it first.....I was thinking the same. I would stay away also.

Dump the looser, it's a attention getter. He's not quite right mentally.

EX is the operative word here

best bet is to let him heal and then maybe try to talk to him without his family around, this puts less strain on you and on him as well

Stay Way

Let him fight his demons alone for awhile

With help

Hospitals can't let you see them unless you are family...Tell his mother you wanna go...Best of luck with your ex

Oh, my! The first thing I wonder is, has he had any prior suicidal behaviors or is he trying to manipulate you?

Either way, my opinion would be to leave him in the care of his family. If he is stressed and deprressed, feuding would only add to his chaos.

I will say extra prayers for you and him.

Anyone who hurts themselves to punish or prove a point to you is not mentally or emotionally stable. His family blaming you makes it convinient for them so they don't have to accept that he needs real help. It gives them a scapegoat. Stay away.

sounds more like he would end up putting a guilt trip on you. and for him trying to commit sucide is just attention he is after. it also proves he has alot of mental issue to deal with.. your actually lucky your not in a relationship with him anymore

When he ended the relationship before...you were dealt a crappy hand. Now the cards have been shuffled, and you both have been dealt a new hand to play out. The object here is to win(as in happiness), not to loose once again! That is not fair to you! JMO

I would give it a couple of days and see what the diagnosis is, it sounds like he needs some help handling the pressures that life sometimes throws up to us!!

they can let her in if she says she related
when my son was in the hospitol a friend of family came in and said he was a cousin and of course he wasent... the hospitol is not going to check your family history on who is actually related

I just don't want him to think that I don't care enough to come see him, because I do. I still love him.

his family cant stop you from being there for him... call the hospitols and see which one he is at...

but it seem more like he is not only in deep deprssion but needs alot of counseling done...

Respect the family's wishes. It is evident you are worried but causing more stress by insisting will only make things worse. Don't let your ex's issues become your issues to the point that you beat yourself up blaming yourself. Your ex is the only one that decided his actions and if he is hopitalized he is in the best place he can be. He needs help of a professional nature. Obviously you can speak with his mother, and you can keep tabs on his progress that way without further disrupting the ongoing situation. Best of Luck~

If you ask the family to give him a message, it sounds like they won't or they would distort it. If you tell him directly, he may try and talk you into seeing him, which could be a bad thing.

Time will tell. As long as he is safe right now, maybe just let things ride. Then see what his actions say (angry and resentful for you not comming to see him or realizes he needs help and focuses on getting it). That may paint a clearer picture of his intentions when he did this.

He needs professional help.
Give him the space he needs to find it.

alot of good advice on here.you should worry .if he would do this to himself could he turn on you???

I don't think he would.