Women gonna curse me and some will try to say "it's not true".

Blame television,movies,and pop music

....but truth hurts sometimes and the faster you accept it, the quicker you gonna realize what you gotta do.

For the most, it goes for men, looking for women for long term relationship, marriage, life-partner.

Women gonna curse me and some will try to say "it's not true". It's ok, criticism doesn't bother me.

So here it goes.

What's the problem, finding a woman in these days?

Here it is.
We are not living in the same world, like 5-10 years ago. Women, - out of instinct - looking for somebody who can take care of her, raise the kids and feel secure. There is nothing wrong with this, it's a natural thing, for example, squirrels looking for a strong male squirrel that is able to provide a good nesting place on a tree, where the cats can't get to, or female apes want to be around with male apes, that are strong and clever enough to gather enough food for the family, until the baby grows up.

In today's world for us humans, that means one thing: Having a secure job and/or enough money.
Without this base, forget about a strong and long lasting relationship, it's not going to happen. Women, driven by the instinct will feel less secure and start to have doubts, when their husband/boyfriend looses his job or just won't make enough to live in a specific "living standard". I'm not saying, the man is unable to provide food and a safe place to live, but I'm talking about a specific living standard we expect to live.
Now I'm gonna talk about USA and some parts of the Western world, that "living a normal life" means to have a house or an apartment, a secure job with an adequate income to pay the bills, have a certain type (and amount) of vehicle(s) and able to have a financial status to spend enough time with them and raise 1-2-3 + children without a problem.
There is nothing wrong with this picture...... on paper.

It is vastly different now in today though, if we look at the current status of what is going on in the world. Many people have lost (loosing/will loose) their jobs. Many already lost their homes, foreclosures, below value sales and so on. Those who have jobs are glad and became much more "conservative" about money and don't feel like spending aimlessly and thinks twice before buying anything.
Now, keeping all this in mind and seeing/following of what is going on, people need to adjust to this reality, but it goes very slow, as many continue trying to live in this fantasy world of how it was 5-10-20 years ago and tries to be in the same living standard and the way of life.
I got news for you. It's not going to happen. People will not rack up on credit cards, they already have, they aren't making as much money as they used to be, or not having the same well paying jobs, save those who are but even them they are current status quo and try to conserve as much as possible. While it's "cheap" to buy a new house right now, most won't do it, they don't have the confidence or afraid to start any risky business, involving a lot of money.

So it comes down to this:
Women, who are looking for a new partner or even a husband, need to drop their materialistic goals or at least lower it. It comes down to 3 possible outcomes:

1. They get lucky and they find someone with a really good financial background and they live happily ever after. Good for you, have a happy life.

2. They won't find anyone for many years..who knows how long, maybe never. They keep searching and trying and having 1-day-wonder and phone-only dates, maybe a few months here and there, but essentially they aren't finding what they are looking for, because they don't exist anymore, or the chances are very small to find someone, who is able to give them what they want.

3. They adjust to the environment and lower their standards. They realize, that money isn't everything and if they manage get into a conversation and they feel that special connection emotionally, and that chemistry , that develops between 2 humans and they forget about the whole world about how to live or what to have or what the TV was showing the other night trying to explain what love is or how to gain it.


For the men who is unsuccessful finding anyone:

1. Lower your standards. If you are not finding the person and possibly left in the mud once or many times, you are looking for that special one at the wrong place. Doesn't matter how inviting it looks, your experience should remind you about not falling for scams and small tricks.
If you feel like you tried everything and you just don't understand why you are single, it is most likely not your fault. There is no specific look required, and in reality not even a specific financial background. Of course, it's up to you to continue to try your luck, you never know and things can happen without warning and you might find someone at the end. But if you think, you threw everything at it, you got and still no luck, well, here is another option. Start looking for elsewhere. Look for women who have lower standards regarding "living a life". There are billions of women who would just love to be with someone, raise their kids and all they want is food, water and a roof above their head. But there is a good chance, they aren't in your state or maybe not even in United States. Maybe Central/South America, maybe Europe, maybe somewhere else. The world is huge and there are plenty of people on it. Broaden your search, who cares if she doesn't speak English well or not accustomed to the life you are living, it's all for the better. If she is honest and a woman who loves you for who you are and will go through good and bad with you, that's all it matters, everything else comes after. I know, for many it sounds crazy or frightening to look for someone who doesn't live on the same standards and grew up in a different society and a different culture, but you might find someone who will gladly accept the less or don't even really give a damn what you got in the bank as long as you stay with them and love them.
Again, this is just a tip, an idea. It's just something I always keep in mind, and the day, when I give up searching the same way and the same location or the same country. I don't get mad and I don't blame others for it, instead I get even. If i know it's not my fault not finding someone or just simply can't understand why I can't find anyone, then most likely I'm searching at the wrong places, from the wrong group of people.

That's all...take it easy!

Okay, I'll disagree - and maybe I'm just an anomoly in terms of women in general.

I don't need a man to support me financially...I've been doing that for 20 years and my standard of living went up - not just in material things (often over-rated) but overall in terms of finanicial security. While being able to hold a job is in my top 3 "looking for" traits (behind not married and not a coworker) I don't care if he makes minumum wage if he gets off the couch and goes to work responsibly. Honestly? He'd better bring something more to the relationship than a paycheck or there isn't any reason to have a relationship.

Just my freaky little opinion.

Maybe you are right in many cases - I can only speak for myself.

your right, but to many women, not all, say "more then minimum wage" And being retired I don't need to go to work except around the yard/ home.

your right, but to many women, not all, say "more then minimum wage" And being retired I don't need to go to work except around the yard/ home.

You mean they actually put a salary requirement in their profiles?

HELL YES! I HAVE SEEN THAT ONE FOR MYSELF!!!

OMG...wow!

You mean they actually put a salary requirement in their profiles?


HELL YES! I HAVE SEEN THAT ONE FOR MYSELF!!!