Topic: Why is it like this?
krupa's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:27 AM
Fetts got a legitimate point homeboy....

References to Getting old, out of shape= nice, and smoking hot= horrible ain't gonna endear you to many chicks.

Just a thought.

mssilverfox's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:28 AM




Yep, us old ones need to lower our standards.laugh :tongue:


No, it just seems that when they get a bit older, they realize looks are not everything.


dude, back out while you still have your dignitylaugh laugh laugh


laugh laugh yeah!! ouch!! to all the beautiful, and hot, older women on mingle! flowerforyou





Amen to that drinker :banana:

Italy0219's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:30 AM
Edited by Italy0219 on Sun 07/05/09 09:34 AM

Jill298's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:30 AM
OK so I let me get this right... of you write someone, and she doesn't respond to you, she MUST be demanding and shallow?
Maybe she just wasn't interested. Maybe she's interested in talking to someone else. Maybe she just busy and not sitting at the keyboard praying to the Gods above you will write to here.
Don't you think it's a little shallow of you to think anyone who doesn't reply to you must have a problem?

Jill298's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:31 AM
By your reasoning... the only reason I'm a nice and good person, is because I'm not a 10 with a smokin hot body.
Dude... seriouslynoway

Mayhem_J's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:34 AM



Then again, some girls that is slightly out of shape, etc, are usually nice people! They are very polite, outgoing, and have a great personality. At least when I message them, they reply!



Out oh shape? I think its the girls that have shape that are the hot ones. What society calls a supermodel and what I call a supermodel are two different things.

Just become an ******* like me...then you get the same response from everybody no matter what they look like, lol.

krupa's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:34 AM

These girls that are picture perfect are usually high strung due to the upkeep of looking that damn good. And they figure they can get what they want, when in fact they have no idea that what they want is probably not what they need. And yes, less than perfect woman are the best, they are the real deal. Don't waste your time with perfecttionism, it's a horrible trap.


Often that is correct...yet, not always an absolute.

My woman is ideal in everyway (I am biased)...not only is she physically gorgeous, she has a fun personality AND a wonderful soul. If someone is willing to settle for less...that is thier business....Personally, I am not.

But, it is a real stretch to classify all beautiful women as ugly, and all homely women as beautiful. Cause that just ain't true.

MikeCarbellano's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:43 AM

OK so I let me get this right... of you write someone, and she doesn't respond to you, she MUST be demanding and shallow?
Maybe she just wasn't interested. Maybe she's interested in talking to someone else. Maybe she just busy and not sitting at the keyboard praying to the Gods above you will write to here.
Don't you think it's a little shallow of you to think anyone who doesn't reply to you must have a problem?


It is also girls in public. I didn't realize that they were usually like this. Yes, I have not dated since 18, or even bothered looking since then. I don't really hope any more, I just don't even bother. I can see on the site if they read and deleted, or didn't read it at all and deleted it after viewing my profile.

krupa's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:49 AM
Edited by krupa on Sun 07/05/09 09:49 AM
Well....at least you have given up and lost hope...That is a good thing! Cause love never finds you when you are desperately looking for it (all you will come up with is flings or one night stands)

Real love will sneak up behind you when you least expect it and jack you upside the back of the head.

It is one thing you will have ZERO control over.

MikeCarbellano's photo
Sun 07/05/09 09:56 AM
Alright, you said love will eventually come, when you least expect it. Agreed.

It has been 4 years in this case. (even counting dates) I guess I will wait another 4 years. But yeah, it is getting old.

krupa's photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:00 AM
You picked a legitimate time frame...8 years was the magic number for me....I had seriously resigned myself to living the rest of my life alone....

You just never can tell what fate has lined up for you my good man.

no photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:00 AM
Wow, I don't reply to 98% of the men on here, does that make me beautiful, shallow, with a smoking hot body and a bad personality??? God, I hope so!!!:banana:

Seriously, I'm with Jill on this one, dude, just because someone doesn't answer your email doesn't make her a b!tch. I'm sure you don't answer every email you receive, does that make you a jerk? No. It means you have preferences, or you're busy, or you forgot, or something. This is America, no one is obligated to talk to you or me or anyone else. And people have a right to be into looks, I'm into looks and I don't apologize for that. That's my right.

Another thing, there's good reason why women don't reply back with "I'm not interested;" the average man takes this as a sign that she is interested. He looks in his inbox and there's a mail from her, and he's like yesss, she wrote back! He doesn't care what she said, just the fact that she replied is a "sign." Most of us don't want to deal with the bs of rejecting him, yet again, when he tries to continue a conversation.

If you can't stand being rejected on a dating site and not having your emails answered, you might want to consider meeting women some other way where there is no email involved? Good luckflowerforyou

patsfan64's photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:05 AM

So, as you can see, I have been on this site for a decent amount of time. I am also on another free dating site. But anyway, here is something I have come to figure out. I am also not generalizing the following statment.

Most girls with "super model looks" or "smoking hot bodies", or that have a high rating on their photos are horrible. They are demanding, shallow, and they think they can get what they want. Until they hit like age 27 or older, they realize they need to have a bit more than looks to be a better person. When I message them, I never get a response back.

Then again, some girls that is slightly out of shape, etc, are usually nice people! They are very polite, outgoing, and have a great personality. At least when I message them, they reply!

Why is it (usually) like this?



Wait until they hit 27?! I find most women actually get BETTER looking as they get older! Instead of going by their pictures maybe you should try reading their profiles and seek out the better ones that way.

RKISIT's photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:06 AM

So, as you can see, I have been on this site for a decent amount of time. I am also on another free dating site. But anyway, here is something I have come to figure out. I am also not generalizing the following statment.

Most girls with "super model looks" or "smoking hot bodies", or that have a high rating on their photos are horrible. They are demanding, shallow, and they think they can get what they want. Until they hit like age 27 or older, they realize they need to have a bit more than looks to be a better person. When I message them, I never get a response back.

Then again, some girls that is slightly out of shape, etc, are usually nice people! They are very polite, outgoing, and have a great personality. At least when I message them, they reply!

Why is it (usually) like this?
pitchfork i just screw them all and let other men sort them outpitchfork

Lilypetal's photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:11 AM





Yep, us old ones need to lower our standards.laugh :tongue:


No, it just seems that when they get a bit older, they realize looks are not everything.


dude, back out while you still have your dignitylaugh laugh laugh


laugh laugh yeah!! ouch!! to all the beautiful, and hot, older women on mingle! flowerforyou





Amen to that drinker :banana:


Looks aren't everything??? WTH...when does that kick in?

MikeCarbellano's photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:11 AM
Well, it is getting old, that is why I am looking. I will wait then, if it takes people this long.

As far as people replying to me emails, if someone said, "No, I am not interested," I would not bother replying back, because she is not interested.

I afraid I would aquire the title someday of "The 40 Year Old Virgin," where he blows each chance he gets, and stays a virgin.

I am kidding, lol. Thanks for the advice, I think I am trying to make it happen, and not let it happen.

no photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:14 AM

Well, it is getting old, that is why I am looking. I will wait then, if it takes people this long.

As far as people replying to me emails, if someone said, "No, I am not interested," I would not bother replying back, because she is not interested.

I afraid I would aquire the title someday of "The 40 Year Old Virgin," where he blows each chance he gets, and stays a virgin.

I am kidding, lol. Thanks for the advice, I think I am trying to make it happen, and not let it happen.


Well, you're unusual then, because most guys can't take a hint.


justme659's photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:14 AM

So, as you can see, I have been on this site for a decent amount of time. I am also on another free dating site. But anyway, here is something I have come to figure out. I am also not generalizing the following statment.

Most girls with "super model looks" or "smoking hot bodies", or that have a high rating on their photos are horrible. They are demanding, shallow, and they think they can get what they want. Until they hit like age 27 or older, they realize they need to have a bit more than looks to be a better person. When I message them, I never get a response back.

Then again, some girls that is slightly out of shape, etc, are usually nice people! They are very polite, outgoing, and have a great personality. At least when I message them, they reply!

Why is it (usually) like this?


My question is, if you feel this way, why in the world are you still writting to the "smoking hot bodies"? Did you ever think they have too many emails to respond to and you didnt fall in the top 10? For looks or personality or what ever? Or maybe they get tired of hearing--Hey baby, your hot-- They know what they look like.

Jill298's photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:18 AM
Edited by Jill298 on Sun 07/05/09 10:20 AM
There's alot of people that have emailed me that I haven't responded to. I don't think that makes me demanding or shallow at all. I also don't make it so personal when I write someone and they don't reply to me.
Just because someone doesn't reply to me, I don't go assuming I know their personality.
Maybe... you're just trying to go out of your league.

s1owhand's photo
Sun 07/05/09 10:19 AM
WARNING. DO NOT ATTEMPT TO CONTACT ANY SMOKIN' HOT BABES!
SEND THEM DIRECTLY TO ME - I WILL BE HAPPY TO TAKE THEM OUT
AND MAKE SURE THEY NEVER BOTHER YOU EVER AGAIN!

laugh