What does a person do when their parents tell them they are better off being dead?

wow I'm sorry if that happened to you. I would distance myself and work on ME. You don't deserve that. I hope you know that

wow!! i have never had my parents say that... i think its time for counseling

IGNORE THEM !!!!!!

thats a hell of a thing for parents to be putting on their child. Shame on them! If I lose everything else in the world except my child, she is more than enough reason I have to live for. Tell your parents how much that hurt you to hear and how much you still need them to be here for you and with you. Life is a gift, not a right. They should be treasuring it, not trying to get rid of it.

Rebel..........

What a wonderful Thanksgiving sentiment. Listen to Yellowrose, she has good advice.

This post makes me think of the dity "Insanity is heriditary. You get it from your kids."

While it seems a pretty radical statement. One I hope I would never say to my kids, and believe me thay have pushed just about all my buttons, I have to admit to saying things I have regretted. Deeply. Any perfect parents can flame if they like but most say something really hateful or cruel along the parenting road somewhere.

Taking the statement out of context I have to wonder wheather this remark was made in the heat of and arguement or as a paniced attempt to get through a hard head that is doing something the parent sees as worse than death. Something that will lead to a living hell on earth. Like drugs, living with and abusive boyfriend, something that would jeapordise your child. What makes most parents crazy is when they see their child repeating a mistake they have made or lived through. Or if this parent is overwhelmed and possible under the influence of drugs, alcohol, or mental illness.

Either way this is really poor communication and poor parenting. Since it is highly likely that you are going to be able to teach either skill to your parent you will need to learnt to factor in both lack of skills in your expectations of your parent and the things that they say or do. You may have to choose to limit their contact with you or even find a better surrogate parent to fill your needs this way. If your parent is "compromised" this is often necessary for your own overall menatal health.

You are obviously and adult and yet this strikes to the core of you that is a child. I am sorry for your pain. No kid deserves that regardless of their age. You have the right to be hurt. But only you can decide if this a mortal wound or just a moment of hysteria that everyone would be better to forgive and forget. Since a parent child bond can survive stupid stuff of even giganitic porportions I hope you will keep in porportion to the situation and hopefully get past it.

Since I would bet as much as this hurt you that you care about your parent and I would chock it up to temporary insanity and hope that you haven't or don't say something equally hurtful to your parent.

just go on and do whatever you were gonna do anyway

you are the one that has to die when its your time to die

so why not live your life in whatever way you want to in the meantime?

you misunderstood they said you would be better off if they were dead

for a parent to say that is...shameful...
not a reflection of you....
truly.
teasingbrunette..


exmtnman...goodone.

I heard that, and a whole lot of other crap when I was growing up.

there is nothing you can do except to do your best to ignore it. It's very difficult to do, and you can never completely ignore it.

But...the best part about it is that, eventually, you'll be strong enough to look at them and let them know, without coming out and saying so, that you are a MUCH better person than they are.

After all the crap I dealt with as a kid, I take great joy in seeing the people I heard all of it from completely miserable in their own little insignificant lives.

You dont listen!!!

No matter who says somthing like that to you!!

You look in the mirror and tell yourself

I am wonderful
I am beautiful
Life is great!!

And you go on........

Stay away from people like that, they are pushing their own misery on you.

HHmmm this is disturbing to hear this...I would tell them that I am sorry to hear they feel this way....And I would tell them that I still love them and to call me when they want to talk about why they feel this way

I really don't believe that living in a situation like that can be healthy for anyone.

I would work on finding some older adult people you can look up to. When you can't deal with your parents, then you have somewhere to go besides the street.

It may be true you can't choose your family, but we all have the ability and the right to choose what we take into our own hearts.

Okay....they are upset and under tremendous pressure . So try to see their points of views and try to help ease their pain .
Parents are the closest people to their children and although they say things they do not really mean them most of the time .
It is your responsibility to find out how they are so upset and so miserable . No, no and no.......do not forget your own parents . They are a part of you and this is reality . Good luck and best wishes .

Honest answer? I would cease contact with them. They must be crazy to talk to their child like that. No excuse at all, they should be ashamed.

What about the causes to reach this point ?.