in every relationship i have been in everything seems fine. after about a month the relationship ends. they always say the same thing " you really are a great guy" if i am, what happened? i just dont understand where these relationships are going bad. im not mean, although i will occasionally joke around, along the lines of calling them a big head or something. the only thing i can really think of is what we are both looking for. im not here for sex (celibate), i am trying to find someone to be with for a long time or for the rest of my life. and for the most part i think they are trying to get something physical out of me or just not looking for a serious relationship.

oh, there's nothing wrong with you...the beautiful thing about chemistry is that it's either there or it's not, that's all. Don't beat yourself up...all things happen when the time is right.

im sure you are right, its just frustrating when this happens over and over.

Ditto.

Just enjoy each experience as it comes along, try not to
take it too seriously too fast, and learn from it...good or
bad.

When you say, after a month the 'relationship ends',,,,it makes me wonder if you are taking time to get to know these young ladies or jumping into expectations right off the bat.

From your profile, you seem to be a happy and healthy guy, Id say to just take your time and make your goal to make friends. When someone with similar goals and dreams comes along, you will know it but until then,,,you dont want to settle just for the sake of having a relationship anyway,,,,

i usually date someone i have known for quite a while and eventually one of us will make the move to be with eachother. and even though the relationship is over i tend to stay friends with them.

i dont ever want to settle for something. i know eventually someone will come along, its just a matter of how long.

at 18,, you have plenty of time yet,,,

very true, its just a matter of the waiting game now. and i usually lose.

I just looked at your profile...
for heavens sake, your 18 years old. Go travel around Europe, live in the mountains for a summer...something. What are you worried about? Your saying you want to find someone to be with for a long time, or the rest of your life. Do you even have a clue how different you will be 10 years from now? I suppose not.
What's the song.." Young hearts be free tonight, time is on your side"

I think you are a young guy who should not worry about finding that right girl at this time in your life. Sometimes when we feel like we need to find the one for us, we start to feel pressure...you are still very young and you should be out having fun and not having any kind of pressure.
When you go out on a date, just go out for fun. Don't go out wondering IF they are the one! Every time I did that, it didn't last long...maybe they knew I was stressed about finding the perfect man for me! Have fun and good luck

all of these sounds fun and everything. but the most fun for me would be having someone. i just think time is against me even though i am young.

I think it's sad you feel that way at your age, you have your whole life ahead of you.
eh, wait till your my age and alone...then you'll have something to complain about.

I don't want to come across as though I am preaching at you, BUT you should be worried more about your education then worrying about having to find a relationship. I will tell you this, IF you are not looking for someone...that's when it seems to find you. One day you will be talking to someone and you will just click, the next thing you know you will be IN love. Don't panic...take your time, you have time!!

As the rest have stated here, your very young.I know it's nice to have a girlfriend,but it seems you might be picking gals that have differant morals then you do.Personally I'd love to have you as my son.
Young ladies and as well young men tend to rush to fast, thinking life is passing them by, and it's truly not.What happens is you cause more problems with your goals.You end up with children your not ready for, finanical issues you have hard times dealing with,lack of time for a education,etc etc.

Please stick with your eithics, values, and morals, seems you have them.But also have fun meet people,continue your education, or find a job , you really like , that you can grow with.Keep very busy and you never know that young lady working next to you just might have same view points as you......Good Luck Hun!

I'm 63 and still haven't found anybody.

I've been in a LOT of short-term relationships. What always happens is, I meet someone, and the communication is good, we seem to enjoy each other's company, and it gets more serious.

For about 3 months. After that, she decides she needs to "fix" me (even though she has spent the whole time claiming "I love everything about you!") and turn me into some sort of domesticated sitcom husband/dad creature, which I have no interest in being.

I think the hardest part is just finding someone who will be honest about what she REALLY wants out of a relationship. It would save a lot of time. I'm just not sure anyone like that actually exists. They say what they think you want to hear until they think they're firmly ensconced enough to start trying to change you....

Maybe its the way you are looking at it. We are all growing and experiencing new things at every age. The fact that you have dated a lot tells me that you are experiencing different kinds of woman, different shapes, emotional states, education levels, backgrounds, etc. So now is the time when you can be deciding for yourself what type of shape, personality, etc. you like in a woman. So maybe there its a good thing you haven't found her yet. Then maybe you will know her when you see her.

Put out,or get out....

Oh dude,You are just fine. Stick to your guns here.And don't ever seattle for less.You deserve what you are looking for in life.Good Luck!
She is out there.

If I were a woman, my main goal in a relationship with a future would not be a lifetime of hearing I have a big head for a joke. Even being smashed in the mouth would feel better than hearing that joke over and over and over and over again.