I keep attempting this dating thing, contacting thing, getting to know people deal and I am now seeing a pattern in myself.

I get to know the guys and can even like them but I stall when it comes to moving from the casual contact into a more intimate contact.

It has been 5 almost six years now. I am doing the same online and in person.

I have been doing a lot of self work but I guess I am not addressing it.

What to do????

its not just you, good friendships that last..maybe even a lifetime, are rare...but when they do..its worth the wait......

was that me, or the beer talking

goodnight

I've just learned to give up and dround myself in work.

It has become obvious that all I'm wanted around for is my money and the favors I can pull.

Other than that I useless to anyone.

It means you aren't ready.

Well some friendships have formed but most lose interest because they want more.

I kinda hesitate to even start anything anymore because of it.

That is sad, I hope you are joking.

Spiritual edge, connection.... is what stops me, if it isn't
there I stall right out of it.

Maybe that is it, not connecting well enough but it seems to be even with the ones that I like.

I guess it is just not cut and dried, huh? LOL

You just may not have met the right person/people. Keep trying.

Yea, I won't give up until I can't see well or write or anything anymore and even then I still might try to oooogle me a man here and there...lol

No I did not mean I am going to stop.

I guess I am trying to figure out what is causing the stall and if it is something I can fix.

I am always working on me, it is my life project to become the most spiritually, emotionally and mentally healthy person I can be......hopefully I get there...lol

When you do meet the right person, you'll know it. Until then, new friends are always a good thing. Just enjoy meeting new people. Sometimes things just take a long time.

I do the same thing. Intimate contact is'nt a required part of a relationship. Move forward when it feels right to you. You seem to have put great importance into the details of it.

That's kinda where I'm at. I'll meet someone, build a friendship, but as soon as it's time to move to the next level, BAM! I can't move. I'm working on my issue though. I'm confident that once I find the right person, I will be able to move on to the next level. Perhpas, that's what you're "waiting" for as well, the right person.

Sadly no, its not a joke.

Knowing is more than half the battle won.
I too have been experiencing the same and damn near the same amount of time.

I don't call it stall though, I call it content and won't be moved by anyone, but the right one (man).

Age and life experience tend to make us slow down and "see" and "understand". With more maturity under me belt, 3 grown children, a boat load of "been there, done that" what in the world do I need to rev the engine for?

Nah idle is just fine, not "off" and not driving around aimlessly.

Sounds like you haven't met the right people yet either. Once you do, you'll feel differently.

Timing is everything.

I'ts also the one thing you can't really control.