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Topic: Is it wrong?
KayaksJuliet Joined Wed 02/25/09 Posts: 706	Thu 02/25/10 01:25 PM
Is is wrong to expect a card and some kind of thoughtful gift or gesture for a holiday/birthday/anniversary?

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Thu 02/25/10 01:40 PM
not everyone is a thoughtful as you,..

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76350	Thu 02/25/10 01:47 PM
It is not wrong to want one but if you expect it all the times then you could be in for a rude awakening. Honestly they are always nice to receive and brings a smile such a small jester will mean a lot to many... Do I expect them noooooooooo but I do appreciate the ones I get and I'm one that keeps them as well......

LeighAnna9 Joined Sun 08/16/09 Posts: 5638	Thu 02/25/10 01:53 PM
If you know the other person isn't as thoughtful, doesn't put much stock in recognizing stuff like that or if they're just forgetful, no, you shouldn't expect it. My stepfather never remembered birthdays or anniversaries, so he'd get you a gift ahead of time and tell you that's what it was for. Worked for me.

AngelArs Joined Wed 02/03/10 Posts: 1316	Thu 02/25/10 02:19 PM
Is is wrong to expect a card and some kind of thoughtful gift or gesture for a holiday/birthday/anniversary? No, however, I usually only send those things on days that end in "Y"....

burgundybry Joined Mon 03/05/07 Posts: 8084	Thu 02/25/10 02:52 PM
What's wrong with anytime of the year? I think it makes it a little "extra" special.

skydancingA Joined Mon 11/30/09 Posts: 1605	Thu 02/25/10 03:34 PM
Is is wrong to expect a card and some kind of thoughtful gift or gesture for a holiday/birthday/anniversary? No, however, I usually only send those things on days that end in "Y".... My birthday is on a WednesdaYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

AngelArs Joined Wed 02/03/10 Posts: 1316	Thu 02/25/10 04:03 PM
Is is wrong to expect a card and some kind of thoughtful gift or gesture for a holiday/birthday/anniversary? No, however, I usually only send those things on days that end in "Y".... My birthday is on a WednesdaYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY That qualifies

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14521	Thu 02/25/10 05:32 PM
I am having to re-learn this myself...........

wannacuddlewthme Joined Tue 11/11/08 Posts: 7110	Thu 02/25/10 05:56 PM
It has WRONG written all over it

Roco Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 1165	Thu 02/25/10 06:51 PM
it is wrong if it is important to you and the other person knows it is important to you it is not so wrong if the other person doesn't know...perhaps he/she should be informed roko

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Thu 02/25/10 07:04 PM
Is is wrong to expect a card and some kind of thoughtful gift or gesture for a holiday/birthday/anniversary? It's not right or wrong. There is no moral implication in expecting or not expecting.

daytime Joined Sat 04/25/09 Posts: 2735	Thu 02/25/10 07:31 PM
Is is wrong to expect a card and some kind of thoughtful gift or gesture for a holiday/birthday/anniversary? I know many people that live all over the place so I usually call and wish them a happy BD, or whatever day it is for them. If they are not home I leave it on their answering machine so they can listen later.

KayaksJuliet Joined Wed 02/25/09 Posts: 706	Fri 02/26/10 01:32 PM
OK maybe "Expect" isnt the right word and could be construed as high maintenance or materialistic. Mind you I am not talking diamonds and a persons every whim met. I was raised where (and all the people I know except one) where a card on your birthday, V Day, etc and possibly a gift was appreciated. Or one for no reason. An expression of showing the other how special you are. A hand made card or gift was just as appreciated. Its the thought.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 02/26/10 01:35 PM
I don't celebrate holidays with gifts or cards, so I don't expect it at all. Everyone that knows me knows a simple well wish is good enough for me

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Fri 02/26/10 02:38 PM
Never expect anything from anyone.... You'll have a lot less drama in your life....

EquusDancer Joined Sun 04/05/09 Posts: 6281	Fri 02/26/10 03:43 PM
It is not wrong to want one but if you expect it all the times then you could be in for a rude awakening. Honestly they are always nice to receive and brings a smile such a small jester will mean a lot to many... Do I expect them noooooooooo but I do appreciate the ones I get and I'm one that keeps them as well......

LeighAnna9 Joined Sun 08/16/09 Posts: 5638	Fri 02/26/10 03:45 PM
Never expect anything from anyone.... You'll have a lot less drama in your life.... Soooo true.

LeighAnna9 Joined Sun 08/16/09 Posts: 5638	Fri 02/26/10 03:48 PM
It's not right and it's not wrong to expect anything from anyone for any reason. However, you're setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment if you expect something and you don't get it. Learn to expect nothing, and on the off-chance you get what you wanted, consider it a happy surprise.

AngelArs Joined Wed 02/03/10 Posts: 1316	Fri 02/26/10 05:30 PM
Learn to expect nothing, and on the off-chance you get what you wanted, consider it a happy surprise. Well said. I always send out love unconditionally, it is always bestowed as a gift - always given freely and without expectation. Same with anything that I do for them along the journey.