Topic: when to tell him
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Sat 03/13/10 02:30 PM
I for one say when the subject comes up be honest there is no shame to say you not able to have children.

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Sat 03/13/10 02:33 PM
I for one say when the subject comes up be honest there is no shame to say you not able to have children.
ina way but u should just tell him i mean why hide it a realashonship is bilt on honesty an love. its not rite to desive him

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Sat 03/13/10 02:33 PM

how long after dating a guy do you tell him you cant have any more kids?


I've learned the hard way that this needs to be up front and on the table from Day One, since I'm not going to get involved with anyone who has kids or wants them.


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Sat 03/13/10 02:43 PM
I have no intention of having more kids or raising someone elses kids. Mine are grown & unfortunately I bailed out when my youngest was 16 & gave custody to his father. I sure as hell ain't gonna take on more. I love my kids with all my heart. I just couldn't stay in the marriage & didn't have the means to care for my son at the time. If I were in a relationship it'd already been a done deal!!

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Sat 03/13/10 02:49 PM
scared both my ma an pops baild on me... an i hate them both.

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Sat 03/13/10 02:54 PM
i would have made sure it came up right away...get it out of the way, he will either take it or leave it

all done, no more to ponder!

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Sat 03/13/10 02:59 PM
Dustin, I'm sorry. I guess you could say I was incapable of handling my marriage & kids at the time. Going through some really rough times & had to get my life straightened out. At the time I knew him staying with his father was in his best interest & that he'd be safe.

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Sat 03/13/10 03:04 PM

how long after dating a guy do you tell him you cant have any more kids?
About the exact TIME,,,he would mention he would like to have one,,,wink,flowerforyou

And seeing as to how THIS THOUGHT, has entered your mind?
HE MAY have already spoke of this,huh?think

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Sat 03/13/10 03:06 PM
Dustin, I'm sorry. I guess you could say I was incapable of handling my marriage & kids at the time. Going through some really rough times & had to get my life straightened out. At the time I knew him staying with his father was in his best interest & that he'd be safe.
well i understand that but my parents ha! its better they did any how belive u me they couldnt take kare of them selfs damn drug parents grumble

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Sat 03/13/10 03:07 PM
i would have made sure it came up right away...get it out of the way, he will either take it or leave it all done, no more to ponder!
i agree if he real kares it wnt matter

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Sat 03/13/10 03:12 PM

i would have made sure it came up right away...get it out of the way, he will either take it or leave it all done, no more to ponder!
i agree if he real kares it wnt matter


not necessarily "wont matter". he may want to have kids...and things like that unless brought up right away may/do break up relationships.

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Sat 03/13/10 03:17 PM
i would have made sure it came up right away...get it out of the way, he will either take it or leave it all done, no more to ponder!
i agree if he real kares it wnt matter
not necessarily "wont matter". he may want to have kids...and things like that unless brought up right away may/do break up relationships.
all im saying is if he/she really loves u it wnt matter if u kan or kant have/want kids wen u love sum1 u love them for them not wat the kant or kan give even if u want kids an they kant haue kids u wnt leave them

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Sat 03/13/10 03:19 PM

i would have made sure it came up right away...get it out of the way, he will either take it or leave it all done, no more to ponder!
i agree if he real kares it wnt matter
not necessarily "wont matter". he may want to have kids...and things like that unless brought up right away may/do break up relationships.
all im saying is if he/she really loves u it wnt matter if u kan or kant have/want kids wen u love sum1 u love them for them not wat the kant or kan give even if u want kids an they kant haue kids u wnt leave them


i beg to differ, love isn't always blind...heart wants what it wants and there no reason to it (or something to that effect said by Oscar Wilde)

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Sat 03/13/10 03:21 PM
i would have made sure it came up right away...get it out of the way, he will either take it or leave it all done, no more to ponder!
i agree if he real kares it wnt matter
not necessarily "wont matter". he may want to have kids...and things like that unless brought up right away may/do break up relationships.
all im saying is if he/she really loves u it wnt matter if u kan or kant have/want kids wen u love sum1 u love them for them not wat the kant or kan give even if u want kids an they kant haue kids u wnt leave them
i beg to differ, love isn't always blind...heart wants what it wants and there no reason to it (or something to that effect said by Oscar Wilde)
yeah thats true but 1nc agen if u love them u will understand

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Sat 03/13/10 03:23 PM
Edited by Edy_ca on Sat 03/13/10 03:24 PM
all im saying is if he/she really loves u it wnt matter if u kan or kant have/want kids wen u love sum1 u love them for them not wat the kant or kan give even if u want kids an they kant haue kids u wnt leave them i beg to differ, love isn't always blind...heart wants what it wants and there no reason to it (or something to that effect said by Oscar Wilde) yeah thats true but 1nc agen if u love them u will understand


and once again LOL that's not always the case, there has been less in young loving relationships that were deal breakers. love does not cure all

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Sat 03/13/10 03:25 PM
i would have made sure it came up right away...get it out of the way, he will either take it or leave it all done, no more to ponder!
i agree if he real kares it wnt matter
not necessarily "wont matter". he may want to have kids...and things like that unless brought up right away may/do break up relationships.
all im saying is if he/she really loves u it wnt matter if u kan or kant have/want kids wen u love sum1 u love them for them not wat the kant or kan give even if u want kids an they kant haue kids u wnt leave them
i beg to differ, love isn't always blind...heart wants what it wants and there no reason to it (or something to that effect said by Oscar Wilde)
yeah thats true but 1nc agen if u love them u will understand
and once again LOL that's not always the case, there has been less in young loving relationships that were deal breakers. love does not cure all
and why do u say that lol. oh an hi by the way

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Sat 03/13/10 03:27 PM

i would have made sure it came up right away...get it out of the way, he will either take it or leave it all done, no more to ponder!
i agree if he real kares it wnt matter
not necessarily "wont matter". he may want to have kids...and things like that unless brought up right away may/do break up relationships.
all im saying is if he/she really loves u it wnt matter if u kan or kant have/want kids wen u love sum1 u love them for them not wat the kant or kan give even if u want kids an they kant haue kids u wnt leave them
i beg to differ, love isn't always blind...heart wants what it wants and there no reason to it (or something to that effect said by Oscar Wilde)
yeah thats true but 1nc agen if u love them u will understand
and once again LOL that's not always the case, there has been less in young loving relationships that were deal breakers. love does not cure all
and why do u say that lol. oh an hi by the way


hiwaving

i say that because it's true bigsmile

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Sat 03/13/10 03:30 PM
i beg to difer. like i said if u truely love sum1 it wnt matter
bigsmile flowerforyou

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Sat 03/13/10 03:43 PM

i beg to difer. like i said if u truely love sum1 it wnt matter
bigsmile flowerforyou


umkay :tongue:

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Sat 03/13/10 03:47 PM
I WIN YAY! HEHE flowerforyou <---- for u blushing