Quite literally the human brain hasn't even finished developing at 18 so....

lol wow i cant believe u said that, we have yet to have sex so i dont think that is what he is in this relationship for ok

lol yes im in human anatomy class so i know about the brain, thanks for that

Uh...don't do it? From all logical points of view this will fail, matter of fact from most statistical points of view it will fail.

Grow up a bit, eh? Enjoy your youth...don't piss it away on marriage just yet.

maybe not, but i'm sure he's been thinking about it. and probably a lot. i was 22 once, i know what it's like. and i still think about it a lot.
guys are always in it for the sex. some are just willing to tolerate more stuff than others in order to get it. like, i'd never marry a girl before having sex with her. i figure if she's not willing before she gets the ring, what incentive is she going to have after she gets it?


in all seriousness, 18 and 22 is too young for 99.99999999% of people. if you were to get married, the next step would be to have kids. and many people who have kids young end up either neglecting their children so that they can live their lives a bit, or they feel like they missed out on a lot of fun because they had to be a parent. it's not good either way.
if the love is really there, it will last until you two are older.



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You're right it is just a word, but in this case it is a word used to describe how you feel about someone. If you must contrive a philosophy simply to avoid using it...well, that spells TROUBLE to me.

Besides, he is only 22 and we men don't even grow up until 30 so I would have to say don't do it...

hes 4yrs older than her. hes not that old
geeze when i was 18 i was with my daughter dad and he was 27yrs old
(no my daughter wasent even thought of at the time)

I know plenty of marriages that have dissolved after having sex. They may have gotten married without it first, but then after the first time or whatever, they've tasted it and want to try it with others. Marriage doesn't make for exclusivity with sex.

hmm i like u, ur on my side here, i figured since no other man has even tried to date me, and this is the only man who has, rather i have a husband or not i still plan to get my degree in nursing and live my llife the way it should but i just wont be lonely while im doing it

See, this is the problem with these kinds of threads. You ask for advice but all you are really looking for is validation.

I miss the old forums...

well sorry to hear that but do you have some honest advice for me then????

Right there, along with the tons of other like-minded advice you didn't seem to like given your previous reply. What does it matter? You won't listen to anyone that isn't already validating your own plan, so why the hell should anyone give any advice at all that can be deemed good?

You have been getting honest advice! Why would we lie to you? Honestly, many of us think that's too young, and you should wait.

Or what do you define honest as?!

Honest: Validation.

Apparently so.

Shakes head...

honestly....if you are questioning it then you aren't ready.

yes ive been listening to what they say, and it gets me thinking, so dont say i just reject them when i dont, ok its hard enough to even think about rejecting the only guy that shows any feelings for me, oh u have no idea

No one said reject him...this just shows me that you haven't been reading the replies...

The key points are-

No love it's a overused useless word that to most explains the depth of their feelings for the one they hope to spend the rest of their lives with....


No sex yet, so no idea if it's good or sucks, if it will help keep the relationship going or ruin it...

No other options so the first and only offer is better than being alone...



All of those reasons spell DISASTER!!!!

I hope your parents married for LOVE and stayed together for LOVE...


My opinion is that you don't want to be alone so you'll accept him b/c he is your only option at this point..

You have no idea what love is so you negate the meaning....

You're 18 and feel like you know about the world, what you want and all there is to know...

You have no clue, you're getting ready to throw away good years of being young and having fun...

You WILL be divorced when you wake up in a couple of years and realize you made a mistake and want to live life and find "true love"...

Or he leaves you b/c he wasn't ready either!

If he walks away from a relationship because you aren't ready for marriage, then maybe he isn't the one.