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Edited by
LeighAnna9
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Mon 03/29/10 11:39 PM
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Some of his comments about feeling like he was "owed" because he had been in the military, and that everyone was picking on him because he was white. I'm confused, why would they be picking on him because he's white? I assume they're white as well? Or am I missing something? |
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Edited by
EquusDancer
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Mon 03/29/10 11:40 PM
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No, no. They weren't picking on him. They just got tired of listening to him ***** about being picked on because he was white. And owed because of being in the military.
Basically, everything he said was an excuse not to do anything |
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Edited by
LeighAnna9
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Mon 03/29/10 11:47 PM
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Ah, I think I get it now. I had a friend whose ex hubby felt that way. Weird guy....
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 Reverse rascism, everyone was picking on him, and giving the jobs to others. . |
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Reverse rascism, everyone was picking on him, and giving the jobs to others. . Yeah, her hubby thought the same thing. 
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thanks for your opinion melody girl. got no further comments or questions at this point though, so thanks. And on the flip side... While she needs to make her own decisions, her parents might have a legitimate view of things. Mine absolutely disliked my long-term bf. So much so that he was not allowed to come over after the first year, and I was written out of the will until he died (18 year difference). I ignored it as much as possible, but when I finally broke up with him, his very first comment was how soon they'd put me back in their will. Can I say WOW! That was so out of left field I was reeling and appalled that they were in fact correct in their views. So, while you can rightly or wrongly profess your innocence, no one can really say anything without knowing both sides of the story. okay, so what when wrong with that relationship?? what could he have done so bad, that you were left out of your parents will? I might guess that the parents wanted their hard earned money to go towards things for their CHILD and not her mate,,for whatever reason. |
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thanks for your opinion melody girl. got no further comments or questions at this point though, so thanks. And on the flip side... While she needs to make her own decisions, her parents might have a legitimate view of things. Mine absolutely disliked my long-term bf. So much so that he was not allowed to come over after the first year, and I was written out of the will until he died (18 year difference). I ignored it as much as possible, but when I finally broke up with him, his very first comment was how soon they'd put me back in their will. Can I say WOW! That was so out of left field I was reeling and appalled that they were in fact correct in their views. So, while you can rightly or wrongly profess your innocence, no one can really say anything without knowing both sides of the story. okay, so what when wrong with that relationship?? what could he have done so bad, that you were left out of your parents will? I might guess that the parents wanted their hard earned money to go towards things for their CHILD and not her mate,,for whatever reason. Hmm, apparently I didn't answer that in full, did I? Roughly, that's about it, Msharmony. I ended up having to send a couple of things and my books back to them while he and I were together, as he was gung-ho on selling them. He still got away with some theft of a few odds and ends. My folks felt he was eyeing the stuff for it's dollar amount, rather then the emotional content of it all, which is what it is to my brother and myself. |
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unsure, I am looking HARD for a full-time job, or at least another casual job to match with my current working hours. no luck yet, there's been a recession going on, remember? i warn you, what i'm about to say is a bit loaded, and i ask members that choose to read on to be the non-judgemental, objective types. i had a bad childhood and felt like killing my father many times for the way he treated me, i never acted out on it of course because of fear of jail, he died anyway though. The point is, I can relate to her feelings of feeling trapped, given how she is not super woman, and her moving out on her own, giving the rising costs of rentals is not that easy for her. She is NOT a sugar momma, while i do admit that I generally have slightly more respect for a woman that actually makes an effort to do something in society then one that just wants to sit home all day and expects a man to go to work and provide EVERYTHING for her (that's way too traditional for my liking, not even my parents did that and they were very traditional-my mother was a teacher), when a woman is working full-time yet has grown up with outdated 1950's values, that makes it very hard. It's been hard enough to find and keep my current job. RKISIT I think you have hit the nail on the head with this one, so thanks. I do realize there is a recession going on BUT there are jobs out there. Sure you might have to take something that you might not like, but IF someone wants a job bad enough...they can find one!! You just have to keep looking. My point is, if she is really having bad feelings towards her parents..then she needs to go! Any time someone says something about killing a parent, they don't deserve to live OFF of them! As far as you saying you had feeling of killing your dad, the only thing I can say is...I wish my Dad was still with us! Maybe I was one of the lucky ones and had a great Dad? RIP Dad..I miss you every day!! |
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Me too!
Hearing that offended me Watched my daddy die of lung cancer. Thank God he didn't leave this earth ever hearing or thinking I hated him! Wanting to kill him?.......... Even when we were fighting I never had the feeling of wanting to kill him!!!!!! 
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if a woman loves you, but her parents hate you, and are lying about you and saying bad things about you (because they don't want their daughter to leave home, and are making it next to impossible for her to do so) what's your best advice? thanks Wait until she leaves home because she already has a family if you care about her. Evidently, she is not ready for marriage. It is not good to break up families in my opinion. |
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Me too! Hearing that offended me Watched my daddy die of lung cancer. Thank God he didn't leave this earth ever hearing or thinking I hated him! Wanting to kill him?.......... Even when we were fighting I never had the feeling of wanting to kill him!!!!!! look, not to be rude Gossip but my feelings on that matter are really none of anyone's business; i was merely trying to point that i can relate to gf's negative feelings towards her own, because of what i went through when i was younger. it's just the luck of the draw whether you get a nice parent or a bad one, why would you choose to be offended by what i said, it's got nothing to do with YOUR dad. to the person who said "there's always a job for someone who wants one badly enough" after handing in resumes to endless amounts of employers every week, and copping NO constantly, getting into interviews with 20 other people (when they are only after 1 person) i find your statement a little arrogant. I guess Australia isn't like the US and other countries, here employers want you to have years and years of experience in most positions before they even consider you. Problem is because of my university degree, many places especially the super markets will only give someone only one or two shifts a month if they think they are going to run off somewhere else. -s |
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Not to be rude back. Lol
yea it offended me I know it was not about me lol but those were my feelings. Sorry your not being rude sweetie at all!!
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I try not to take offense to anything anyone tells me, as how a person feels is to do with them, nobody else. Yes, I've got unresolved feelings about my own past that might not go away for a long time, but that's got nothing to do with anyone else.
In a way, it's a good thing that sometimes gf speaks aggressively about her parents, because I usually gently encourage her to see the other side of the story and look at things from a different perspective which calms down any angry feelings I have, as I am encouraging her to not react to things too quickly. She has asked for some financial help from me this thursday when i get paid, and i am hoping little things like this will help her know that i'm not there for her money at all. |
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Edited by
msharmony
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Tue 03/30/10 08:18 AM
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I try not to take offense to anything anyone tells me, as how a person feels is to do with them, nobody else. Yes, I've got unresolved feelings about my own past that might not go away for a long time, but that's got nothing to do with anyone else. In a way, it's a good thing that sometimes gf speaks aggressively about her parents, because I usually gently encourage her to see the other side of the story and look at things from a different perspective which calms down any angry feelings I have, as I am encouraging her to not react to things too quickly. She has asked for some financial help from me this thursday when i get paid, and i am hoping little things like this will help her know that i'm not there for her money at all. just be careful and sure this 'relationship' is for the right reasons on both sides and not just a security blanket for either of you,,,,the more you post the more it seems like you BOTH have alot of unresolved issues in your lives that could use straightening out before jumping into anything serious...... you seem a sweet guy so please dont take that offensively,, I have all brothers and I have OFTEN been asked for advise on relationships by them,,, I try to be honest about how I see it without being offensive,,, |
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MsHarmony, i just revealed a dark shadow within my soul to you, and yet you're still calling me a sweet guy. i don't think there's anything you could say that could offend me after that, and i thank you very much.
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