Ok really I am just venting..not fishing for compliments.

I just don't get whats wrong with me, I see others all around me happy in a relationship. Some people its just like "wow" how did they get someone like him? Look wise and I know a couple women who are rude, and cold hearted and they found someone. I just don't understand why its taking me so long to find someone who will love me for me. Not a clue what I am doing wrong. Almost everyone I know is with someone and very happy, why can't that be me? I ask myself this question everyday. When is it my turn to be happy with someone. I am happy with myself and the way my life is going. Just getting sick of the long lonely nights. I miss someone holding me, telling me how beautiful I am and all that. Every time I think I found someone they end up proving me right bout most men. They break my heart and leave me in pieces. Like I said I am not looking for compliments just needed to vent a little.

Maybe you are looking to hard? Some times when we just stop looking, that is when it happens!! Maybe you want it so bad that you are willing to settle with the wrong types...slow down, it will happen!!!

hmm... very true.

i completely understand what you are talking about...i find myself often in awe, wondering how others get to have that...when i was younger, i always thought it was because of weight or looks, or status, so i could always use that as an excuse, but i see so many varied couples out there, i wonder is it just not my time??

thanks for letting me vent too...

heres to you finding your dream....

first your human so you're gonna feel this way

second you need to take a step back and exhale then focus on who is the common denominator

opps

Heres to finding our happily ever after.

hmmm, just one thought...

perhaps, as you look at couples from afar - or the outside, you see them and define them with your own beliefs? Meaning, perhaps they are not as happy as you think they are... perhaps they just met and it's their first date? Perhaps they look happy in public - but he really beats the crap outta her at night... perhaps they look happy from afar, but she cheats on him regularly... perhaps when you talk to your friends about their relationships, they are not completlely honest about their own happiness??....

be careful, to look at other couples - you truly do not know what's really going on with them.

You are very young (no offense), you have the world ahead of you... if you love yourself, and live life - it will happen. I am not saying that I believe in the whole "law of attraction" thing, but happiness begets happiness, sadness begets sadness... work on your friendships with people... good can only come of it :)...

Luck to you!

Keep your chin up!!!

$.02

True I don't know whats going on with other people's relationships. Even if they just seem happy on the outside, still gets me jealous. I am working on bettering myself and my friendships, but there is something missing. Thank you for the kind words.

I totally understand what you're saying, but from a guy's perspective. People are always telling me "I can't believe you're still single," but they don't know what my past relationships have been like -- most of the time, I figure I'm better off alone than with another "wrong" one.

I mean, it's one thing to be alone. It's another to be with someone and WISH you were alone.

I wish I had some answers for you, but I don't. Some people have had success on dating sites, but I'm certainly not one of them!

Your young lil red!!

When I was your age I didn't even want a steady man in my life

I was to busy partying and clubbing and having a good time!

I didn't want anyone cramping my style

now I can't find a man who at some point does not want to tame my personality

so I'm still searching too.....

But I make it fun!!

Ya know if you can be by yourself without complaints
and realize and learn

you really don't need a man to make you complete

then life is good!!

Try to find that!!

I love ya

Alot of people can relate to what u are feeling,myself included. It can be very depressing being alone. I for one NEVER thought I would be single at my age. The biggest change I have made is to focus all my energy elsewhere instead of just my singleness. The result is I have lost a bunch of weight and made alot of new friends.So being single can be a positive thing-u just have to change your mind-set. Good luck to U

..personally i enjoy being single,why does man/woman feel that they must have someone in their life as a constant..let's face it most relationships start out o.k and then take a dive....really not looking forward to that scenario again,most only enter into my life to take what they can get and leave..lesson learned,besides i really don't have the thought to look for anyone..it takes from my usual do nothing mundane play too much poker life
..besides i think i'm falling for my computer,she's such the little multi tasker,never ask for money ..easy to turn on..and never bytches that we don't go out..of course if we wanted to ..i'd just type in Tahiti and we're there......I think i need to get out more...

I can relate but I am not willing to compromise any more myself. That in itself makes things a little difficult. Even for all those happy shiny faces involved with relationships does not show what happens behind the scenes. I so badly want to meet a woman with her head set squarely on her shoulders instead of drunks, party girls, gold diggers, control hungry freaks, and religious zealots.

I resent the worth of me as a person being equated to my wealth. I resent being thought of as a resource or means to an end. But if I let this thinking rule me I will never find happiness. The game sucks but when you do succeed the rewards are much sweeter.

Trust me, dating is not as easy as many make it sound. I really wish more women would hit me up instead of relying on cute little signals and body language to let me know they are interested. I got too much on my m mind for stupid games. I don't read minds and I sure as hell am not going to devote my entire life around anyone other than me. If I don't get myself rich no one else will make me rich. Worst is the double standards men are expected to live by.

Like I said the game sucks! Don't blame yourself for something out of your control.

I don't need a man to complete me. I am already complete, I love myself and my life. Just want someone to share it with that's all. I know I'm still young but I'm not into the whole party thing, I love going to concerts in stead lol. I know my day will come, the waiting just sucks! Thank you everyone for the kind words.

Honestly probably because you want it so bad, you don't realize the subtle signals you can send off..even unknowningly where you may come across as jealous, or even needy. Focus on yourself, quit looking for 'that' guy. go out and have fun doing the things that you like to do..hopefully around other people. From my point of view there is nothing more attractive than a confident woman enjoying what she likes to do...and if i happen to be enjoying the same activity I know we already have at least one thing in common.

You do sound much better than a few months ago! My theory isd the longer you wait for something, the more you appreciate it (well...not actually mine ) Get involved with things you like to do, hiking? Sierra Club- hobbies- ones that the opposite sex like also...Cooking class etc? Make a list of things you like then check out whats going on in the area. Our local paper has alot of events. Or try something completely different. IE if you've never checked out museums, go on tour or by yourself. Find a guy you like and pic his brains with the intention of that and possible a friend. JMO

Very, very well said.

I wouldn't worry about it, sure they may look happy, but they could really be unhappy. Relationships do have their warping side and has it's scars along with it.