So, even with long distance would a guy (or gal) prefer to really know that someone is seriously interested in them, or is it a waste of time?

I don't think it is a waste of time.I have been talking to someone that lives very far away from me for several weeks.Not sure what is gonna happen with it but I really enjoy our conversations.He was the one who approached me and I am glad he did.

i dated my ex hubby off and on for 2yrs before we got married and he kept going back and forth he was living in eastern oregon so from where im at thats 4hours=400miles away.. he would often even hitchhike in the freaken snow just to come down for the weekend

I tried the long distance thing, but it was with a guy I had already dated before when he lived near me. I don't know that I would try it with a brand new relationship.

LOL! I know we're more then four hours apart as it takes about that just to get out of Texas from where I'm at. Flying would likely be the way to go. And for me, that's still going to be a while due to $$$.

I'm like you Nikita, I really enjoy the convo's as well.

I haven't personally tried long distance, so no idea how or if it would even work. Of course, that's still jumping way ahead of things, as I have no idea if he would even return the interest.

Its a waste of time...LDR's don't work for me

It's not a waste of time. What it is is frustrating to meet someone and find out that they're everything you thought they'd be and then come up against the hard reality of the price per gallon of gas, food, hotel, and drive time (or airline expenses and rental car prices). I tried it, and distance was the biggest problem. We're still friends and I still think she's a wonderful lady, but with a 10-hr drive there and back, it's not easy to be 'spontaneous'. I won't drive more than 25 miles now for anyone.

If it's right, distance means nothing.

I did an LDR....It is more work than you can imagine....If your going to do it........DO IT, The back and forth and back and forth is hard and you only see what you read.....Meet in person fast, as soon as you can.....Too much time = drifting. I went to a state far away from me three times...I do not regrete it.

" ... If it's right, distance means nothing. ... "

Right. Have you tried it in real life, or is this just idle 'warm fuzzy' speculation?

I'd never consider it a waste of time to know someone is seriously interested in me. He might be seriously interested in you, too. As for the distance, I used to talk to four different guys (not at the same time)- one lived about 50 miles away, we talked for a year, eventually met, it didn't work out, another lived about 28 miles away, we talked for over a year, never met, he ended up hating me, another lived about 60 miles away, we met after talking a few days, dated for two weeks, it didn't work out, another one lived about 50 miles away, we talked for over a year, never met, one day I never heard from him again.

The point of my story? All of these guys lived less than 100 miles away, none of them worked out. 100 miles isn't an LDR, so you have nothing to lose but a missed opportunity. If you're into him, tell him, he might be into you. You never know until you try.....

Its not a waste of time... My girl friend is nearly 11,000 miles away from me.. But still i love her very much... That's a nice feeling...

I agree with you...It doesn't work for me either

Thanks ya'll!

4 hours? wow, i wish robin lived only 4 hours away from me! haha, it's all in perspective, isn't it?

i think long distance works for some, and doesn't for others. it all depends on the people's personalities, their situations, and their level of committment.

Long Distance can work... if both people WANT it to work.

I've tried the long distance thing. Not seeing him enough was a big issue. Not sure I'd ever want to try that again.

As you ahve seen in the other posts, it depends on the person

I got into a LDR and we talked every night for over 6 months and met up once a month....and now we have been living together for almost a year

It is very tough, but if you find someone that is willing to go through it with you, and they are a "perfect" match for you....then I don't see why not

****however, eventually someone has to be willing to move for the other

I've never tried a long distance relationship. Not that I'd be against it. But, I'm sure one would require a lot of work on both ends.

My boyfriend CatsLoveMe is 369 miles away. And I know I will keep missing him, but with the phone and e-mails, I can cope with that distance until he comes back

So yes, absolutely, long distance relationships work. Cats and I are living proof of that!