Sometimes looking through profiles or getting an email/nudge. I don't respond because of how the other looks or what's in their profile. Now, that doesn't always mean it's that they've left a bad impression. But, if I realize someones really into weight lifting, jogging, etc then I don't respond because I'm not a real physically conscience person myself. If they are a Dr, Lawyer, etc then I can't possibly see what they'd see in little pitiful me!! If someone is really sexy as heck I feel like I wouldn't measure up to their expectations. If I see someone has really expensive cars, boats, etc & taste I turn away because I'm a simple person with simple needs & money just isn't my thing. So, sometimes it isn't the other person themselves that is a turnoff. I'm more interested in the plain Joe who works hard for a living & enjoys the simple things life has to offer. So, when someone turns away maybe they feel they aren't good enough to be with you & not the other way around. Anyone else do this or am I the only crazy one here? Thx for reading!!

you are definitely not the only one. I do this as well.

I only look at the pics

there was a guy i met awhile back on matchdoc
and his pic showed him to be wayyyy differnt in person in fact the pic he used was taken 25yrs earlyier.. you know it would had been nice if he used a resent one.. but that was ok.. he had money he drove a dang jag.. i admit it was nice.. but like you said money isent what im looking for....

The problem is on the internet is there is too much misrepresentation.

Every time I loosen my standards a little I get let down badly! I try to be up front and evidently that is intimidating.

Oh well, I am an Equal opportunity Offender. I piss every one off equally!

No one ever said love was perfect or a science. Why is it I see pretty young girls under the arms of some of the UGLIEST (fat blimps) guys I ever seen?

Yep, love is messed up!

I look for common ground in profiles and rarely, if ever, find any. If someone is looking for marriage, or someone very religion-oriented, I know there's no point in pursuing the issue.

I keep hoping I'll run across a profile of someone who is intelligent, knows what they want, and who has some facility with the English language. More often than not, what I find is "I am uniuqe becuzz i luve my freinds and famliy."

I was often intimidated if the men were handsome, same with the jock types. The rich ones, well, they hopefully still have soul and depth, so money isn't the thing that bothers me unless they are shallow, which also occurs in the most ironic people who shouldn't be.
I did meet one man who looked freaking hot in his photos. But he obviously had the photos airbrushed as he had acne and scars, and I realized he hid his body on purpose as he was...gately to say the least. So, for me, it wasn't about his looks, but that he'd deceived. But, the physical garbage is a lot like the lying in the profiles. Someone can say all they want that they are a certain way or looking for a relationship, but when you talk or meet, you find out they are just lying to get someone to like them or to get in the sack only.
I feel like if I put the real "me" out there, by pictures and words, I deserve the same respect. I know some people think they are who they are, but actually don't know themselves well or think too highly of themselves, or don't like who they are in reality and fudge with pics and words. Oh well! C'est la vie!

Except for the "I'm not good enough" part, I've most definitely do all of those things. I use to think I may not be good enough, and I may even still believe it at time. But I've found that you never know how that person is going to feel and writing someone off before they have a chance to express how they feel is unfair to them and can even be foolish.

So, I should broaden my horizons & go for the professional man, or the guy who is more intelligent than I am & most of all go for the pot of gold? It's just not me!!!!

Actually no that's not the comment I was talking about. It was this statement "If someone is really sexy as heck I feel like I wouldn't measure up to their expectations." I use to write those off too, but I don't do it any more, I leave that for the other person to decide... I emailed you, remember

Well, yes you did!! You've been a great friend too!!!!!

I look at the pics. Read the pro

then just throw caution to the wind and dive right in!

I never really felt I was not good enough for anyone (well maybe one!) lol

no one ever really felt to good for me ( well maybe one!) lol

I just dive in and see what happens!!

Yup and I've been enjoying the friendship as well.

You are confusing me a bit, Tessa. ou say yo uonly want friendship, so what does money, looks, sexy, intelligence, etc. have to do with your aim for just friendship?

I think it has a lot to do with it even in friendship. I've got to be around people I can relate with. All of that reflects into a conversation or friendship as well. At least I think it does.

Oh, I see. We are different that way. I can be friends with a lot of types and characters, short of evil or immoral. It's when I'm looking for a mate that all sorts of preferences really matter to me since he'd be a "keeper". I can tolerate all sorts of things from friends and acquaintances that I wouldn't tolerate with a mate.

I do that all the time. If I didn't just go ahead and email them anyway, I wouldn't email 98% of the people I email. Of course I rarely ever get a response.

I am just me plain and simple, country boy raised to do the right thing!!! If looks and money is all they care about, dont call me cause I just want a down to earth lady!!

Yeah me to, but that 2% can turn into some of the greatest friends, and possibly even more. I dated one girl whom when I saw her I figured was way out of my league. She didn't think so. In the end it wasn't quite right, but we're still good friends.