Some of the aides were talking about sexual abuse last night and I was being empathetic to what they were talking about but I asked what about sexual neglect and they just laughed at me. I mean isn't sexual neglect important, too?

while i can certainly understand your question

and see the need for it to be addressed...
i can in no way offer any help in the matter

I guess there are fewer victims of sexual neglect than victims of sexual abuse.

Arleast your heart is in the right place.

Isn't 'sexual neglect' its own form of 'sexual abuse' ... ? I'm just sayin' ...

Hey. Good point.

I was neglected sexually during my first marriage. Made up for it to the opposite extreme in the second marriage. Like Ricky Nelson said, you can't please everyone so you've got to please yourself!!

Taking notes.

As long as I have two good hands, I will never experience sexual neglect!

You're not really comparing sexual neglect to sexual abuse, are you?

Roy is just asking a question.

I go with Suz sounds like my first 2 marriages.

I think sexual neglect from a physically healthy partner is a mild form of abuse. Yes, there is the other end of the spectrum with horrible sexual abuse. But being put off and feeling unattractive and being denied that form of closeness can also be considered a form of abuse. I had no idea he had no interest in it at all and only did it on occassion in a perfunctory way. It definitely messed up my self-esteem for a long time. Now his other two wives since get to deal with it, and deal with it they did/do. All that time I thought there was something wrong with me and it was NOT something he was willing to share and care about or look at. He simply did not have a sex drive to come near mine. In so many other ways we were very close for a long time. And, no, the lack of sex did not cause the break up, but it was a factor.

But, as for this fellow who wrote, sometimes that neglect comes from when you have lost honor with your partner and the partner no longer feels close enough to want to share that with you. And, of course, there could be a medical or psychological condition that has nothing to do with you.

Yeap you are right. First marriage very much the same. I was young too. At 30 the marriage was over.

HI CAROL!!!! Hope all is well in your world. Good to see you on!!

Yeah I get out of the 50's from time to time especially when I see a friend post You and Roy

It is the job I deal with. We can get into trouble with neglecting those we care for and for abusing those we care for. Even the nurse laughed at me. But laugher is considered good medicine where I work and sometimes more potent than any drug.

IMO one is physical (and emotional) = abuse
the other is emotional = neglect.

Who is to really say if one is worse than the other except when speaking for ourselves?

To some the emotional is worse than physical. To others, it's the opposite. To some it's equal

I was shown sexual neglect by a lady, and it felt as bad as any hurt of heart I have ever felt!
To come home off the road and to be felt a problem just being there.
To give a gentle kiss to, and then have THAT be turned into an insulted
"OH," "so I suppose you want to F**K"?
Any words that would prevent "THAT" fom ever happening.
YES,,SHE WAS NOT IN LOVE WITH ME,,,,lol..
AND, had someone else,,,,BUT, I had to find THAT out through her senseless game of being distant and hurting through her lack of giving a damn,,,,,about me....so YES,,neglect does HURT..
And yes,,we broke up....lol...