Here's my .02 Tiffany.

You said it in your first post.

You are confused. And anyone who would return to an abusive situation does NOT think highly of themselves.

So ...........

Get your life together. Work on YOU. Quit with all this BS with guys and become the woman YOU were meant to be.

FIRST.



It's not about the guys babe. It's about YOU. You have tons of time for them. Why not make those years quality by being WHOLE yourself first.

There .. well, maybe that was .03

This is priceless. And advice worth taking.

Unfortunately it is probably so priceless because it was heeded by said author thru her pain first .. LOL


Here's the deal ..

Insanity is repeating the same action over & over expecting different results eh?

I learned. I hope she can too.

Can't be expecting a whole relationship when you are so broken inside .. just can't happen

I think u missed the point

that type of communication strategy is part of the problem...a lot of men will say anything to get laid and we're tired of it.....

i just want the sex...

Tiffany,

I would just cut the chord, it seems like the man doesnt really know what he wants so he jumps from women to women. My best advice would be not to blame yourself or all men. Just the situation itself. Once your ready I'm sure you'll find your perfect someone.

Sincerely,

-James

Any man who would hit you is a loser. If you go back he'll promise not to do it again, but he will. Returning to an abuser is like telling him it's ok to hit me, there will be no real consequences to your violent actions. And that type of behavior escalates with time, do not put yourself back in danger's way! Feel good about yourself for being intelligent enough to get out while the gettin' was good.

good advice

Yep, me too.

Ya me too...and I didn't read everything above.....and sometimes I do everything for the wrong reasons...

Then I have the nerve to give out trite advice.....


Then I try to do what I would tell myself to do if I were ACTUALLY objective.....

Sometimes I do...and sometimes I act EXACTLY how I didn't want to.

TRY to listen to your objective self....if you fail..TRY AGAIN!


.....but.......don't take "MY" advice, cause I DON'T KNOW CRAP!!!!!

..... unless I'm handing out cheap advice of course.

dont lose any more time thinking about the man and dont regret it either because it will eat you up inside.try to free your mind once and for all

well guys i have officially started letting go of the loser, i havent called or texted i have cut all communication of with him (this is the abusive ******* im talking about) I couldnt be more happier, it gets lonely i must admit....especially since my bday is right around the corner but hopefully i will have a great time and forget about all my problems just for one night....by the way i am turning 21!! anyway i have gotten back into the dating scene havent found the right guy yet but all i have is time so anyways i thought i would give yall an update of whats going on....much love, Tiffany

Sweetie, you're so smart...

thank you sweetheart thank you all for the much needed advice!!!

Perhaps he didn't want to hurt your feelings but that made him realize he was better off being honest...which is better than a divorce in 2 years.

I think the average decent guy just needs a bit of time to think over relationship issues, it's rather new to us from an evolutionary perspective. The prospect of being in a relationship is always exciting which takes a little attention away from the evaluation of the consequences.

Men don't totally know what they want, women perhaps know to well.

i was not blaming anyone...i was simply asking for advice...preferably from a guys perspective, obviously you haven't read the whole thread....next time you make assumptions...read first

You made the right decision. You will find love again....

Happy upcoming birthday!!

Why does he do it? the answer is simple really, because you let him.
the 'new' gf would'nt be an 'obstacle' at all if he didn't care for her. The fact is he does, or at least cares for the sex with her. Otherwords he would let her go as fast as he let you go. But he is keeping you on a string because if he does it right, when he f's up with his new girl, you will be there to catch him. you are the net under neath the tight rope, he is having a thrill on the tight rope walk right now, but he want's to make sure he keeps his net there for when he falls the **** off.

you best bet, realize first that he is in the other relationship because he WANTS to be, not becaue he HAS to be. and that he CHOSE that relationship. After that, find out what qualities of his you didn't like, and remember those. I promise if you concentrate on those things first...it's a lot easier to get over some one.

Then find out what YOU like to do, and what makes YOU happy and go do those things, and if you find a guy a long the way, great! if not, at least you are having fun.