SWeety listen to your heart ..it nevers lys ..love is not about how the other one feel its about giving your all... about loving unconditionally but being in love is diff.... go with your heart not your mind...

I think it's wiser to use both.

Thats not neccesary I think we get the pic. Its not so much that you made stupid mistakes...Gawd! weve all done that. It's the fact that you are owning it that makes me respect you. If you didnt, I really wouldnt give you the time of day. Look, for what it worth heres a bit of advise. Right now is the worst time for you two to be thinking in any romantic terms. Shes about to board the hormonal coaster, and her life is about to change in ways you cant comprehend. You claim to love this girl? Im throwing down the glove...Put your money where your mouth is. Shes about to morph into someone you dont recognise. Lets see you support her as a friend through this. Go back and start from scratch...at friendship. Shes in no frame of mind to make romantic decisions for quite a while. Dont put that on her. Just support her. I mean through the raging tears at a sappy movie, when she desperately needs to eat an entire jar of pickles. Hold her hair when she pukes afterward. When shes scared to death about being a good parent. Through ALL of it. Cause the reality of love is, it transends us. It makes us put someone else first. If you can survive the next year ( cause it does take a few months to return to normal afterwards) Then you have something. Real friendship, True love. I wish you the best of luck...

my point is i dont know what to do,i tried to move on but like i said she will not let me,she said i will not stop calling and coming around thats my choice,so we were always like friends and i never lost that connection to her and in the past few months i started to catch feelings for her,this is honestly the hardest decision i have ever had to make.ever.i really like the responces because you guys are honest,thanks for that,its really hard for me

So now we add 'stalker' to your 'qualifications' ... ? Get out of her life and get her out of your life.

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hmmm let's see. Had the first kid killed off. Is there any question that the child that is not even his, is not going to be treated any better.

I sense guilt and regret. Settle those issues first before putting himself back into that relationship again I say.

tend to agree with goof that an ex is an ex for a reason, but if u want to try to be the exception to that rule all u can really do is take things 1 day at a time, and wait & see....the future will answer all of ur questions

and may it go ur way

I have to wonder - if you dated for 10 years and never wanted to take it any further, then wasn't there something really really wrong all along. One of your posts says she wanted to meet your parents and you would never let her - that says a lot and none of it good. How bad was your accident? Are you in love or in lonely?

yeah the first few years i was not sure about our relationship so i never got my parents involved,and i just feel like all the terrible things i did to her are what drew her away,and i look at the way she still loved me then and wonder if this is the one i let get away,and i feel like she did what she did because of me,i was young then and did not care for what she wanted only what i wanted,i know her whole family and they are great,and that makes me feel guily,you ask if i am in love,its more like i never stopped loving her,we just broke up,and she is always on my mind,and lately we just been getting closer than we been in the last few years,my accident was a detached retina caused by a pressure washer,that got me way down,and she tried talking to me.

definatly jerry springer material...

Toga ... ! Toga ... ! Toga ... !

FOOD FIGHT ... !

I'm a firm believer in if it doesn't work he first time, it wont work. Based on what I'm reading, I get the impression that she isn't happy with her current situation and needs someone to break her fall. I guess what I'm saying is if I were in your shoes, I'd make damn sure that BOTH persons have the proper motives. If you were a moron before, don't be one in the future lol. Hope that helps.