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| Topic: Is it really just about the Pictures of People on dating sit | |
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My experience on dating sites so far is that most people just picture surf, if the picture is liked, contact may be made, if not it won't end off! It's a bit like going to a book shop and just looking at all the covers, not reading the appendix in the book, just picking the book totally by it's cover! I think that's the big problem with internet dating compared to meeting someone in person, ie socially, work, chance meeting in a supermarket etc, you can have a chat in person, it's totally about the person then, not a picture! There has to be more than a good picture for me. Of course, there needs to be some kind of attraction, but if there's only a picture, chances are, I'm not going to bother contacting them. I still think it's funny when people mention meeting in supermarkets. I've never met anyone that way. I spent 21 years with my ex & I met him at the supermarket!!  As to your question. Many times I look but something in the profile will keep me from responding. I also never make the first move. I email often but generally the other person has contacted me first. I'm also involved right now & just here for the friendships I've made. Tess |
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My experience on dating sites so far is that most people just picture surf, if the picture is liked, contact may be made, if not it won't end off! It's a bit like going to a book shop and just looking at all the covers, not reading the appendix in the book, just picking the book totally by it's cover! I think that's the big problem with internet dating compared to meeting someone in person, ie socially, work, chance meeting in a supermarket etc, you can have a chat in person, it's totally about the person then, not a picture! If it was as easy as you say, no one would be on a dating site. You included...  |
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My experience on dating sites so far is that most people just picture surf, if the picture is liked, contact may be made, if not it won't end off! It's a bit like going to a book shop and just looking at all the covers, not reading the appendix in the book, just picking the book totally by it's cover! I think that's the big problem with internet dating compared to meeting someone in person, ie socially, work, chance meeting in a supermarket etc, you can have a chat in person, it's totally about the person then, not a picture! When buying a book, most people look at the front cover, look at the back cover, look at the table of contents, read the first paragraph, then skim a paragraph or so near the middle. But unless the author is well known or the book has an extremely catchy title, the cover is what catches the eye. Online dating is the same. When I meet someone in the supermarket or another offline venue, I check out the cover, first. I am extremely shallow and a man has to be attractive by my standards before I will consider dating him: the cover has to be attractive, and the content needs to be well written and interesting. Online dating isn't going to change! |
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It's a bit like going to a book shop and just looking at all the covers, not reading the appendix in the book, just picking the book totally by it's cover! I've bought quite a few books just by their covers. |
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can you imagine reading the synopsis of every book until you find one that interests you regardless of the cover?
i think the cover is what should catch the eye of the reader. if the author is good enough the cover will reflect just what he/she is trying to portray. same in online dating although i am not looking, i can see why someone would pass by a profile with no cover. no cover means the 'author' has to work twice as hard to get their prize. |
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can you imagine reading the synopsis of every book until you find one that interests you regardless of the cover? i think the cover is what should catch the eye of the reader. if the author is good enough the cover will reflect just what he/she is trying to portray. same in online dating although i am not looking, i can see why someone would pass by a profile with no cover. no cover means the 'author' has to work twice as hard to get their prize. |
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..but there has to be some sort of physical attraction..i've never had anyone say..i like the way you talk..lets get married..it doesn't matter that you look like the elephant man and you have the world's smallest penis and your breath smells of hell's *** ..you talk real good...  ..but if'n ya run across a ditzy perty chick that smells real goooood and list those as her preferences would ya send her my way..
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My experience on dating sites so far is that most people just picture surf, if the picture is liked, contact may be made, if not it won't end off! It's a bit like going to a book shop and just looking at all the covers, not reading the appendix in the book, just picking the book totally by it's cover! I think that's the big problem with internet dating compared to meeting someone in person, ie socially, work, chance meeting in a supermarket etc, you can have a chat in person, it's totally about the person then, not a picture! There has to be more than a good picture for me. Of course, there needs to be some kind of attraction, but if there's only a picture, chances are, I'm not going to bother contacting them. I still think it's funny when people mention meeting in supermarkets. I've never met anyone that way. I spent 21 years with my ex & I met him at the supermarket!! As to your question. Many times I look but something in the profile will keep me from responding. I also never make the first move. I email often but generally the other person has contacted me first. I'm also involved right now & just here for the friendships I've made. Tess Why have you never made the first move? |
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i think the attraction between people comes with time and in getting to know each other.
if i were dating, i'd pass by a photoless profile without even thinking. if they messaged me and their words caught my attention then i would definitely pursue it further. and i would definitely not go solely by a picture. "oooo he's f**ing hot.... MARRY ME" he's probably a putz |
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I don't care if it is online or in the grocery store or your local hang out you will still look at the cover before you put yourself out there.
If they don't appeal to your eyes your not about to start up a conversation you think will lead to dating. It is just that online you can look and find out a few things about them and not have to face them in person. Even though one should not judge a person by their picture we all do at times it is human nature. No one can tell me they would actually date someone and it would last if they did not see a picture of them they got along great through phone calls ect and when they met that everything would remain the same. Nice fairy tale but no enchilada......... 
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My experience on dating sites so far is that most people just picture surf, if the picture is liked, contact may be made, if not it won't end off! It's a bit like going to a book shop and just looking at all the covers, not reading the appendix in the book, just picking the book totally by it's cover! I think that's the big problem with internet dating compared to meeting someone in person, ie socially, work, chance meeting in a supermarket etc, you can have a chat in person, it's totally about the person then, not a picture! There has to be more than a good picture for me. Of course, there needs to be some kind of attraction, but if there's only a picture, chances are, I'm not going to bother contacting them. I still think it's funny when people mention meeting in supermarkets. I've never met anyone that way. I spent 21 years with my ex & I met him at the supermarket!! As to your question. Many times I look but something in the profile will keep me from responding. I also never make the first move. I email often but generally the other person has contacted me first. I'm also involved right now & just here for the friendships I've made. Tess Why have you never made the first move? I just don't quite feel comfortable with it. I'm not much for flirting, etc unless approached first & made to feel comfortable. In all seriousness I'm a tad backward until I get to know someone then I cut loose & can talk about anything once that person get's my trust. |
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Very interesting replies to my post, from what I can gather there seem to be a lot of people who by books by the cover?! which is odd.
The point I was trying to make was that when it comes down to it people on dating sites just picture surf. It's ok saying but I read the profile, and if I don't like something about the profile, I will not contact them or respond. but one of the main reasons you got to the profile in the first place is because you though the picture was reasonable, ie some sort of attraction etc. I have met up with quite a few woman on various dating sites, some very attractive some maybe not so in some peoples eyes, it doesn't matter how attractive you find someone if the spark, or connection is not there,you probably won't see each other again. It's all about connection, similar interests, Musical tastes, Sense of Humour it's the whole Package. Believe me if you pick that book up with the wonderful cover, and you start reading it, and you realize it's one of the worst books you have ever read, you probably won't get past chapter 2! |
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Uhhhhhhh Joe
according to your numbers....you are at 3. You may consider learning more and hanging out more with the people on this site before you blow out a definative opinion on what is/ or what isnt. People are superficial. I agree. People with limited knowledge are even more superficial.... consider that. |
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it's totally about the person then, not a picture! I like pretty men. |
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Edited by
joebass
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Sat 01/15/11 06:01 PM
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What? according to my numbers I am at 3? what the hell does that actually mean? you obviously can't see the point I am trying to make.
It's simple really don't judges people on what they look like, ie Pictures on dating sites. I am not making any assumptions on anybody, it's just a fact that the vast majority of people on dating sites picture surf! And that's the problem I have with them, I met my Wife for 17 years in real life, remember that, when you meet someone face to face, and have a connection etc. I think the chances of meeting the one on a dating site, is comparable to a needle in a haystack. |
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oh hell, it's all about the looks and we all know it
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Edited by
manOfewwords
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Sat 01/15/11 06:03 PM
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Krupa meant you have only 3 posts, well now 4, but if you hang around in the forums and get to know us and let US get to know YOU things might go better for you.
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Krupa meant you have only 3 posts, well now 4, but if you hang around in the forums and get to know us and let US get to know YOU things might go better for you. 
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