I have tried several different, and had a coupk,e of times from here where it seemed to be going good; then something always happens and I'm left here wondering what can I do better, what have I done wrong, why am I always alone? More so is why does it always hurt.

It hurts b/c we feel.. It's not right b/c we pick the wrong people.... Things happen to all of us but the lesson learned is "they weren't the right one for us"...

It could be that your attracting the wrong people, my suggestion to you is jump in the forums and get to know people on here, things don't happen overnight, just my thoughts.

Even with people I had known for a while I get the same thing.

Because simply,,,,YOU TRY TO HARD!

DON'T be ALL YOU,,in the way of kindness,,,be more firm,,be more in control,,be harder to know, be harder to open-up...

THEN,,,women WON'T walk all over you and see you in there minds,,,as weak,,or soft,,or gentle,

THEY WAN'T CAPTAIN FUKING CAVE MAN,,,,,and they won;t to know they
have a beast in YOU!!!


SO NOW,,,go be a Tiger and stop letting THEM,,control who YOU ARE!

I have walked in your shoes....

I think your cute, but 'iam4u' is right. If you just try to live your life happily and not try to validate it with having partners, you will find a partner eventually to share the happiness with.

I have the same problem but "1am4u" I think you have it exactly right. Everybody always seem to walk all over me then walk away. Good advice!!

What makes you think it's your fault all the time? Stop feeling sorry for yourself, Move on, and keep trying.

Did you know that lions catch their prey about 7 out of 10 times?

That may seem a bit random, but what I'm trying to say is that in order to succeed in anything, you have to fail. The key is learning from it.

I thank everyone for the advice.

As for thinking it's my fault, I guess I'm the kind of person who doesn't just fire out random accusations. So I seem to prefer to wrongfully accuse myself than faulsly accuse someone else.

The learning is important I'll give you that, and more comes from failure than from success. I suppose I just want success at least once!

sometimes what is 'wrong' with us is the people we choose,,,,,and the reasons we choose them for,,,

I agree w/ Indprncs (and I haven't read the rest yet), it hurts because we let ourselves feel, It also hurts because we let ourselves hope, and we got an all too brief glimpse of what happiness true love can bring into our lives. It hurts because we took the chance and lost when we wanted so much for it to work

it hurts because it feels like the fates played us again

You may not have done anything wrong, at least not knowingly. That you even take the time to reflect on what you could do better makes me think you are not the type who would knowingly do wrong. If there is someone you have in mind who prompted your post, I would ask her (if u r still in contact or still friends).

very often as we get older there are things that are difficult for us as they bring back bad memories, or remind us of a bad relationship. Or sometimes the "spark" just isn't there for one of you - it happens-no one's fault - but check with her - see what she says

That may be part of your problem. Why does it have to be your fault or their fault? Sometimes things just don't work out and no one is to blame for it. Surely you've had some sort of success, even if it was simply realizing something or learning something small.

Problem being that I blame myself; I never did say I blame the other person..... ok maybe occassionally lol. One thing I have learned, is that nice guys always finish last, and I'm unfortunatly a nice guy.

Buck up Mary! Unless you are a 'tard, there are millions of women out there that would enjoy, or as least settle, for you. Whatever you are doing, do something else. Go buy a Harley.

it goes back to "iam4u"'s post you don't have to stop being a nice guy but he's right..if you are too nice or care too much and no potential matches could ever do wrong because you want so much to live in a fairy tale of happiness you will be seen as weak...and she will walk away every time...every girl knows she is fallible ...now don't go telling her this but also don't sacrifice your dignity to make her happy

people have a way of pushing buttons to see how far they can walk all over you..its natural
if they can push too far...you loose that spark of desirability or end up with a crazy...its bad business either way

If you thinketh, so will you be. Think positively, I've been down in the dumps recently, but I am on a better road now.

Its a numbers' game. If you ask 50 women out, probably more than 3 will say yes. Forget the ones who said no. Just keep practicing. You have the face, the body, the good looks. Now find the substance. That is what a makes you who you are.

Get a female friend and ask her for inside tips on what women REALLY want not what they SAY they want....we are complicated creatures that do not come with an instruction manual....call technical support and stay on the line till someone answers...

Good Luck

Conceptually everyone in the universe is ALONE....Our thoughts & its sharing process makes us link / delink from the crowd....If u r interested in linking with somebody you shall identify the bonding mechanism which is distinct for everyone & this includes studying the attitude of that person,which is obviously not easy.

Plenty of people are always upto having someone they likes & usually ignores the person who likes him/her.

Few people even dont sense the feelings of the fellows who likes them....I guess here it makes a big difference....I mean to say... identify someone who is expecting u,try to meet his/her expectations if u can...!!For not remaining alone this is the easier way than to expect someone to meet your expectaions

To be hurt is to be human, to get back up and continue regardless? That's a winner, if they can't see that then fair enough, but don't let that compromise who you are