And it isn't your kid.

yeh, think of the fun you could have on her !
and no need for protection lol

Well, I'm assuming then that you haven't been with the girl for longer than 2 months, if it isn't your kid, and if that's the case, it's still wayyyy too soon to be having sex without protection... Cause obviously, some people aren't gonna tell ya right away whether or not they've got some kind of nastiness.. Down there... But, I'm 8 months pregnant, and the guy I'm with isn't the dad, but he was a big enough man to look past that. If I was a dude, I would be too... I'd say it says alot about your character if you can know that a girl is pregnant with someone elses kid, but you still want to give it a try with her. My two cents.

YES,,I would,,because if she was truly alone,,just THINK about HOW ALONE SHE "IS" FEELING? And I was asked this samequestion about two years ago here,,,and that dude went on to marry her and Father her(their) baby,,even though HE was NOT THE REAL FATHER,,,so GO FOR IT MAN,,and BE that stand up dude who can SEE and FEEL beyond ones first thoughts,,and come to KNOW the woman inside her,,,,,

Depends on what YOU are seeking. She is most likely seeking a comitment. A father for her unborn child. Is that what you are seeking?
She may be feeling lonely and abandoned, and may really want a man to accept her....we all do...but that is NOT your responsibility...dont go into it for that reason. But if you chose to go into it, be plenty aware of what your signing on for.

As far as the comment about unprotected sex...that is just plain ole stupid. If pregnancy is the worst thing you are worried about when putting on a condom that you have no business having sex! There are lists and lists of diseases that can and do kill! HSV, HPV, HIV, Syphilis, Clamydia.....and on and on and on.....the first three have no cure and combined more than half of the us adult population has one of them! Wrap it up!

We are just talking, I honestly don't know if she is interested in me but it seems like it. We were friends a long time ago, and I started talking to her again when she first started dating the dad (I can't stand him). I didn't feel right talking to her since I had more than friendship in mind, so I stopped. We started talking again the other day and he was cheating on her and she is pregnant and single. She keeps hinting that she wants to see me. I'm really not sure how to go about it or if I even want to. I don't have kids, never dated someone with kids and I'm not even sure if I want any myself.

See the ex was cheating on her,that increases the chances of her contacting the three said incurables.I will not bet on naked sex,however,you will still date her its allowed

Me? No I couldn't do that. I am not interested in a relationship with someone with kids at this point in my life.

No effing way! I am not getting sucked into raising a responsibility that is not my own.

And I have known women who got pregnant and suddenly start getting all conscious about their "Security " for "Their Child." Suddenly the guy they would not look at twice they start to go after because the guy that got them pregnant ran off saying "NO WAY!" when the implications of her pregnancy become evident.

That move is a total sucker play!

What makes women think a guy will take on a responsibility that has nothing to do with him even on a genetic level?

People who would say I am a bastard over this opinion are not the ones interested in dating me anyways so they can just SHUT THE (F WORD) UP!

I ain't heartless, I'M (F WORD) DRACONIAN! I don't pretend to be a dragon. I just have the attitude!


Besides, Male lions and other predators and even Horses will kill offspring not their own. If you don't own a horse or never worked with them and you think I am lying about this ask someone who really owns a horse! Stallions are TOTAL Bastards!

ID say if you LOVE the person and are interested in being a parent(which isnt always a biological relationship, btw) , go for it.

My cousin(by blood) married my cousin(by marriage) when her oldest was seven and the youngest were three or four, he has never had (biological) children of his own but those are his girls for he has loved and raised them his whole life.

the eldest is now almost 21

If you have the personality not to make biology the requirement for love and responsibility, and IF you truly love this woman(because she will have to FIRST look after that baby) and can share her in this way,,,,,go for it

but it AINT easy, so I hope you have SOME experience around children,,,,lol

You all make a good point. I don't think I will just stop talking to her because she is pregnant. I'd like to see where things go (see if I even like her enough). Everyone has been in F'ed up situations. Although, I dont think there is as much of a possibility of it working out because she is expecting another child. For someone that has no kids, and really never expected to have any, it's a big issue. I dont even like kids that can't; eat, whipe, and communicate, on their own. My dad left when i was 3 months, my "step dad" made it clear from day one i was not his and he was not going to be a replacement father. I don't want to be that guy. If someone has kids you have to be just as willing to except them into your life if you want to be with the mother/father (if you plan on the long haul). I dont know if I'm willing to execpt that responsibiliy. We were friends before and I have no problem keeping it that way now.
And i agree that stallions are bastards.

No, but then I don't date women. However, I also don't date men with kids, so it all works out.

IT so cool how diverse we all are. From those who dont want to date others with children, to those(like me) who actually PREFER someone with kids.

No, I used to be open to dating women with children, but lately I've been thinking, maybe that's something I want to avoid for now. IDK

in my opinion women who are pregnant shouldn't date until after the baby is born and she has settled down

That's certainly what I'd be doing, but apparently that makes too much sense.

So true!

I think that maybe before you decide if you like her enough or not , you need to know where you stand with children..

It is not like getting a puppy, and although the child is not yours, if you decided you wnated to commit to her you are commiting to the child as well.

If I took on a man with a child. which I have, then it is my responisibility to love him and his child, its not fair on a child to have anyone in their lives who cannot love them, without conditions, So if you are not prepared to love the child as your own then dont even consider it, Its the children who are pulled back and forwards and mucked up, being left feeling unwanted, Soooooo not fair..

And I dont just mean that you should tollerate and act like you want the baby, you have to want it, and if it sounds unfair as its not yours, then get out now, its not going to work, for you for her or for the baby..
Just my opinion

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What's wrong with it? Atleast you know they put out...........