I read some posts and I cant help but notice some people have trust issues because they have been hurt in relationships before. What would your advice be to someone who had lost the ability to trust?

trust until trust is broken.

(one shouldn’t just assume...)

Without the ability to trust, relationships aren't going to work. They need to take the time to figure out what's causing the problem and how they can work on fixing it.

Remind the person that both genders are equally trustworthy or untrustworthy.

I agree. Otherwise you are being paranoid and suspicious. Far too much for the new partner to take on. Deal with it....

First u speak to the man in open mind. After that If u get trust u can continue ur relation

Previous relationships lost their ability to trust.

trust, can translate into so many other issues, such as integrity, self discipline, control, known consequence and of course, truth.

In any relationship, as it grows, there are elements of trust forming. We're infatuated and that person almost consumes a large percentage of our thoughts or conversations, awake from work.

The more we surrender unto and into each other, and surpass the boundries of sex being all, that we begin to form a total giving. And when that is broken, for whatever reason, the hearbreak is devastating. Is there or can there be a repair? Perhaps there is forgiveness, but I doubt there is any forget.

I have said to many young men. You don't go home to your wife. You go home, because that is where your family is. No amount of beers, no game on the tube, no strip tease girls, and no lies can be worth the loss of those who care about you the most. If you screw up the choice, be prepared for the consequences. Once your word is lost, all is lost.

I think they should hold onto that lack of faith and trust.
For as long as they do not want to love again.

Wear it like a badge, deflecting all attempts
to break through the barrier.

Be smug with righteousness about it.
Tell everyone who will listen.

I think they will be safe, then.
Lonely, but safe.
Evermore.

Yes, I got that. But that's not specific.

Well spoken Soufie.

I have big trust issues. I just take it slow . .I allow someone new a chance to prove their trust worthy. But I'm also very vigilant about not opening too quickly my heart and watching for "red flags" or signs of deception.

I am not in a relationship at present.

And you live too far away.

lol.

You described me perfectly except for the being lonely. I certainly don't feel lonely.

Trust is something you can't make someone do. They have to go out on a limb again and try it.
It is very sad to see that though...lack of trust makes very unhappy souls.

k.the onemore idea is "u know more info like trust honest etc from his eye"but now ur not in relationship so watch his behaviour r collect info from his friend

A person who refuses to trust is just as much a bully as someone who cheated them. They are just making everyone their victim and I refuse to play that game.

I have never cheated on anybody and I am not about to start.

But if one of the first things I have to hear is how the world sucks because they got cheated on I am saying See ya as I walk away. Get over it or stay single.

I agree with you that not trusting can make a person sad & lonely. But it is good to have our guard up & allow those whom we select to attempt to gain our trust. The trick is to select people based on our past experiences & give those we feel may have a chance...that opportunity to prove themselves. I have been hurt yet still have an open-mind that not everyone sucks LOL.