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Topic: WHAT ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTIONS 2 ASK SOMEONE YOU MEET
tessa68's photo
Sun 01/20/13 04:43 AM
I will start and please feel free to add more...

-What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?

-Have you had a long-term relationship? Why did it end?

-What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?

-Have you been married before?

-Do you have any children? How do you feel about children?

-If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?

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Sun 01/20/13 04:44 AM
Are those your shoes?

TawtStrat's photo
Sun 01/20/13 05:23 AM
Asking them their star sign and if they believe in that is a good one.

Various other questions like, "Do you like tall men?" to get the conversation about compatibility and whether you feel atracted to each other going.

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 01/20/13 06:07 AM

I will start and please feel free to add more...

-What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?

-Have you had a long-term relationship? Why did it end?

-What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?

-Have you been married before?

-Do you have any children? How do you feel about children?

-If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?


Honestly if someone asked me all these questions the first time they met me I would be looking for a exit...

If we had meet online first I would have asked if they were married, had children ext...just to make conversation...prior to meeting them...Then make the first meet more casual and easy going...

And if I was meeting them for the first time outside of the internet would only ask if they were married if they asked me out on a date... all the other stuff will come through conversation.

Myself I don't like to be drilled, get to know them first and ask questions along the way... People tend to feel threaten if they feel like they are being drilled about their life... You can find more out just starting things slow others are more likely to feel at ease and reveal more about themselves...JMO...whoa

Zimzane2's photo
Sun 01/20/13 06:13 AM

I will start and please feel free to add more...

-What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?

-Have you had a long-term relationship? Why did it end?

-What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?

-Have you been married before?

-Do you have any children? How do you feel about children?

-If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?



Find out if you have the same interest. A conversation will usually unveil a lot of things.

markc48's photo
Sun 01/20/13 06:27 AM


I will start and please feel free to add more...

-What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?

-Have you had a long-term relationship? Why did it end?

-What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?

-Have you been married before?

-Do you have any children? How do you feel about children?

-If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?


Honestly if someone asked me all these questions the first time they met me I would be looking for a exit...

If we had meet online first I would have asked if they were married, had children ext...just to make conversation...prior to meeting them...Then make the first meet more casual and easy going...

And if I was meeting them for the first time outside of the internet would only ask if they were married if they asked me out on a date... all the other stuff will come through conversation.

Myself I don't like to be drilled, get to know them first and ask questions along the way... People tend to feel threaten if they feel like they are being drilled about their life... You can find more out just starting things slow others are more likely to feel at ease and reveal more about themselves...JMO...whoa
I agree compltely

AmandaXoxox's photo
Sun 01/20/13 06:53 AM
I dont like the 50 questions thing. It annoys me.ohwell

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Sun 01/20/13 06:55 AM
Nothing says romance like an interrogation.

laughsandgiggles's photo
Sun 01/20/13 06:56 AM
Im sure that you just have a list of questions and you dont actually bombard the person on the first date but if someone asked me all of those the first time i met them, i would feel like i am being interviewed for a job and not a potential relationship and i would probably excuse myself to go to the ladies room and beat feet out the door!

but then thats just me!! ohwell

tessa68's photo
Sun 01/20/13 07:42 AM
-never hurt to asked questions...part of knowing each other I guess...as long that the question is not offensive...

Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 01/20/13 07:50 AM

-never hurt to asked questions...part of knowing each other I guess...as long that the question is not offensive...


I would ask where you seen yourself in 3-5yrs from now. Are you in debt. I don't wont any Man's bills.bigsmile

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 01/20/13 08:15 AM


-never hurt to asked questions...part of knowing each other I guess...as long that the question is not offensive...


I would ask where you seen yourself in 3-5yrs from now. Are you in debt. I don't wont any Man's bills.bigsmile



Honestly someone ask me that I would think they were out for what they could get from me.. As long as I'm just dating them my financial status is my concern.. As long as I make my own living it is none of their business what debt I have...

And no one really knows where they will be in 3-5 years we all could say that we would be million airs but does not mean life will end that way...whoa


Cutiepieforyou's photo
Sun 01/20/13 08:15 AM


I will start and please feel free to add more...

-What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?

-Have you had a long-term relationship? Why did it end?

-What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?

-Have you been married before?

-Do you have any children? How do you feel about children?

-If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?


Honestly if someone asked me all these questions the first time they met me I would be looking for a exit...

If we had meet online first I would have asked if they were married, had children ext...just to make conversation...prior to meeting them...Then make the first meet more casual and easy going...

And if I was meeting them for the first time outside of the internet would only ask if they were married if they asked me out on a date... all the other stuff will come through conversation.

Myself I don't like to be drilled, get to know them first and ask questions along the way... People tend to feel threaten if they feel like they are being drilled about their life... You can find more out just starting things slow others are more likely to feel at ease and reveal more about themselves...JMO...whoa


I have to agree with you here.

oldhippie1952's photo
Sun 01/20/13 08:23 AM

I will start and please feel free to add more...

-What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?

-Have you had a long-term relationship? Why did it end?

-What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?

-Have you been married before?

-Do you have any children? How do you feel about children?

-If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?


I agree with some of these questions and would add

How do you feel about marrying?

The questions don't make me feel drilled or anything, they are just questions.

willowdraga's photo
Sun 01/20/13 08:49 AM
Although I don't direct question, I lead the conversation into areas that will be informative. Like their experience with dating so far. You get a lot from them on their attitudes and how they feel about people from that conversation. Exes, not really the whole sordid story but how do they get on with them now and why, is a good conversation. If you have a person who blames everyone else for their "bad luck" in life you will know by now. For me politics/social views have to come into play, others don't, but I have to know a bit at least because I have a hard time respecting some views, I am working on that, but that is a deal breaker for me. This also helps to gauge what level of intelligence you are dealing with, which is another important quality for me.

My conversations always end up being a lot about my MS and how I have such a good attitude about life and everything even though I have it.

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Sun 01/20/13 09:00 AM
I'd want to know that they are single. Beyond that, I would hope the questions would just come up in conversation, as I don't like being interviewed on a date. And I have no desire to sit and ask someone a list of questions.

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Sun 01/20/13 09:01 AM


I will start and please feel free to add more...

-What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?

-Have you had a long-term relationship? Why did it end?

-What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?

-Have you been married before?

-Do you have any children? How do you feel about children?

-If you are married, who would you honor first: your spouse or your friends or your parents or your children (if applicable)?


I agree with some of these questions and would add

How do you feel about marrying?

The questions don't make me feel drilled or anything, they are just questions.


If someone asked me on a first date about marriage, it would probably scare me off a bit, as it would seem like they're way too serious right away.

willowdraga's photo
Sun 01/20/13 09:44 AM

I'd want to know that they are single. Beyond that, I would hope the questions would just come up in conversation, as I don't like being interviewed on a date. And I have no desire to sit and ask someone a list of questions.


Right. I know (as best you can) if they are single first before I ever have a long conversation with them....they don't get a date if not. But I try to just kind of lead the conversation in certain areas otherwise it is a natural flow.


motowndowntown's photo
Sun 01/20/13 11:06 AM
Honestly people! for Gods sake it's conversation not a freakin job interview!

If somebody started interrogating me like that on a first meeting I'd
run, run not walk, for the nearest door.

Now as far as questions to ask on a first meeting?

The one I usually start off with is;

"Are those real?"









Referring of course to her diamond earrings








you little piggys.

Traumer's photo
Sun 01/20/13 12:52 PM
Some that first come to mind:
Do you have enough to pay for our coffee/ dinner?
Can I borrow your car for awhile...Oh, btw, can you buy me a new suit...mind if I move in...does your room mate like to play...wannnnna paaaarty baby?:laughing: Just kidding...ummmm:laughing:

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