I was recently contacted by a man saying he was in Afghanistan. We chatted and right away he was telling me how beautiful I was, and if I would date him. Sounded weird to me for that to happen so fast, but I fell for it. It wasn't long and he told me how much he loves me and really piled it on thick. He told me he was doing a secret mission and no one could know where he was nor could he call on cell phones. I'm starting to get suspicious, but again I didn't want to believe it. A few days later he suggested that there was an actual way for us to talk and the US Army would contact me to get info and because he can't even have access to his bank account that I would have to pay for it. My make believe world came to an end at that time. I did get an email from 'U S Army' but knew immediately it wasn't from our Army'.
The grammar was horrible. To make a long story short, I confronted him with it all. He emailed me back admitting he was doing all this.

Ladies, please be careful. If someone falls in love with you that quickly.....be cautious. If they are widowed and have a sob story to tell you, be cautious. If they plan a future with you that quickly, run.........these guys are smart, they have an answer for everything. I've only been on this site for 4 days and have already had 3 guys trying to scam me.

Guys,
I don't mean to bash all of you, I know the majority of you are good guys. But be aware women are doing the same thing to you too.

I can now pick up on a scam pretty quick, but I also like to play their game for a while, just to waste their time.

I will never give out my personal info to anyone, nor will I ever send you any money for any reason. So if you want to contact me and have a real conversation I am really a caring person. I put God first in my life, then my family and the last thing I need is someone trying to take advantage of me.

I met a guy on here and he seemed really awesome. We got to talking and EVERYTHING we liked was the same. He would ask me a question and I would answer and he would say, "OMG, me too!" At first I was thinking, okay that's a little creepy. But then it was nice to find someone who liked all the same things. He kept saying how weird it was that we liked the same things. We exchanged numbers and started talking on the phone. He then started talking about getting married and moving me out to another state where he owns a bunch of land and is building a house. He said it was not built yet and I could have my say in how it's built. He said he was going to buy me a car and buy me a new mattress (I had mentioned it gave me back pain). He is a truck driver and makes so much money, according to him. It started getting fishy so I told him I was busy and would call him later. I got a text message the next morning saying that I was a slut and a player because I added 3 new photos to my Mingle account. I added them all at the same time the first day I joined. I told him that I hadn't been on the site lately and he said that my profile said within the last day. I told him I might have but just to remove some winks. He said that he was going to do us both a favor and end this relationship now because he can't be with a woman who was a cheater. I was like, OMG! We aren't even in a relationship! I'd be so glad to get rid of your number!
Mind you, this all happened withing 2 days...

I get a lot of scammers emailing me and I all I have to do is read their email or profile and I know that they are scammers.

Hi, I just wanted to share my story of being scammed. I hope that by doing so, those like me who were scammed can stop blaming themselves, or be embarrassed, but instead will reach out to others in the same boat.
I met my husband while in high school. I went out with two other guys before him, but never had a relationship with them. I got married at 20, and spent the next 26 years happily married. My husband had cancer at age 15. The three years before we married, I took care of him. I was a teenager taking care of my loved one that we were told would die from cancer. He didn't then. What he did end up with was a lifetime of health issues because of the cancer and the effects of the treatment. In our marriage, we adopted four kids. All of them had significant medical issues. I took care of them too. ( and still do). My husband found out he had cancer again and for 18 months I took care of him as I watched him fade away. For 19 months, I was sure I would never want to get married again, I was determined to do it all on my own. But as I came out of my grieving, I began to feel lonely, tired, overwhelmed and just wanted someone to talk to and take care of me for a change. That's how I fell for the scam.
I had a man pretending to be in the service contact me. Yes the attention was flattering, and yes I did question it all. But here was someone who said they had my back. He understood me. He would take care of me. And he also claimed to be a widower losing his wife to cancer. Yes, I was gullible, naive and I believed him. I am a person who does believe the good in people, and expect others to be honest with me because I am with them . I fell for everything he said because I was lonely, tired, overwhelmed and stressed. Yes I did send money and yes people around me told me he wasn't real. But I'm pretty stubborn that way and had to discover that on my own. What this man did not realize is that I kept a record of everything. I have turned it over to the FBI and I hope it can be used to catch this gang.
If what I've gone through can help one person, then it was worth it. If it will keep one person from being scammed themselves, I would gladly do it again. I don't need pity or I told you so's. I made my own choices here. I've learned how to spot scammers now. But, what I really am angry about is how prevalent this is. And NO ONE is being held accountable for this happening, people are being scammed out of their hard earned money and NOTHING is being done. Why is this? How is it that millions and millions of dollars are being taken from unsuspecting people and no one is fighting for them?? Why is it being allowed to continue? We go after CEO's, we go after people who embezzle money from companies, or individuals, but, who is going after these scammers??
I could let this sour me on people permanently, but I'm not. I learned a valuable lesson on the evil in the world.I also believe though that God has someone picked out for me who will be there for me, for my kids, his kids perhaps. I'm still going to choose to believe in the good inside people. Or I will be no better than these scammers.