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Topic: Activity Partners
RainbowTrout's photo
Fri 03/15/13 06:39 AM
When someone is looking for an activity partner should they be specific? When you think of an activity partner what comes to your mind?

oldhippie1952's photo
Fri 03/15/13 06:40 AM
Someone to run around with.:angel:

RainbowTrout's photo
Fri 03/15/13 06:42 AM

A person with whom you form a special bond because of the common interest for a specific activity.

A person with whom you get ritually together to perform a specific activity.
I’m not looking for a friend, just an activity partner.

Urban Dictionary.

Hey, maybe we ought to make our own definitions, huh?laugh

oldhippie1952's photo
Fri 03/15/13 06:43 AM
Yes, because "activity" is very generic and non specific.

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Fri 03/15/13 06:47 AM


A person with whom you form a special bond because of the common interest for a specific activity.

A person with whom you get ritually together to perform a specific activity.
I’m not looking for a friend, just an activity partner.

Urban Dictionary.

Hey, maybe we ought to make our own definitions, huh?laugh


Sounds right to me. It could be tennis, going to the opera, going to baseball games and so on.

RainbowTrout's photo
Fri 03/15/13 06:50 AM
I had a friend like that.:smile: She and I really liked yard sales. It was almost like an addiction as we couldn't pass one by without stopping at them.:smile:

pennyg281's photo
Fri 03/15/13 06:53 AM
Personally anyone i would do an activity with wheathfr it be swimming,right seeing, arts and crafts or what ever would have to also be my friend. But to be honest when I see someone is looking for an activity partner what pops into my head is that they are looking for a F.W.B. . . . .offtopic Nice new pic Rainbow Trout :)

oldhippie1952's photo
Fri 03/15/13 06:54 AM
I think so too penny. That is why I specified the activities I wanted in my profile instead of saying activity partner.

RainbowTrout's photo
Fri 03/15/13 06:57 AM
Thanks, Penny. Sometimes I do spend time in the daylight. We call the day-shift crew day-walkers.laugh

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Fri 03/15/13 07:24 AM

Personally anyone i would do an activity with wheathfr it be swimming,right seeing, arts and crafts or what ever would have to also be my friend. But to be honest when I see someone is looking for an activity partner what pops into my head is that they are looking for a F.W.B. . . . .offtopic Nice new pic Rainbow Trout :)


Except there's "intimate encounter" to use for fwb.

GreenEyes48's photo
Fri 03/15/13 08:00 AM
I'm afraid to accept invitations from men right now because I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression or "lead" anyone "on."...I explained that I wasn't ready to date yet (over and over again) to a couple of longtime male friends. (In a nice way!)...And I went out to eat with them. (Two separate meals out with 2 different friends.)...And I paid them back by bringing them food and gave them tools and a few other things that used to belong to my husband and sons. (Extra things I didn't need.)...But I had regrets about all of it (later on) because the men did seem to want "more" than just friendship...So now I just keep to myself and don't have any "activity partners."...My few local female friends are married and lead busy lives.. Too bad I can't dress my cats up and take them out to restaurants with me. Or the movies etc...I would if I could just to have a little company and companionship once in awhile when I go out.

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Fri 03/15/13 08:18 AM

I'm afraid to accept invitations from men right now because I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression or "lead" anyone "on."...I explained that I wasn't ready to date yet (over and over again) to a couple of longtime male friends. (In a nice way!)...And I went out to eat with them. (Two separate meals out with 2 different friends.)...And I paid them back by bringing them food and gave them tools and a few other things that used to belong to my husband and sons. (Extra things I didn't need.)...But I had regrets about all of it (later on) because the men did seem to want "more" than just friendship...So now I just keep to myself and don't have any "activity partners."...My few local female friends are married and lead busy lives.. Too bad I can't dress my cats up and take them out to restaurants with me. Or the movies etc...I would if I could just to have a little company and companionship once in awhile when I go out.


Why not just pay your own way? That way no one thinks you owe them anything. Be clear about just being friends. You don't have to hole up in your house like a hermit just because you don't want to date.

GreenEyes48's photo
Fri 03/15/13 08:18 AM

I had a friend like that.:smile: She and I really liked yard sales. It was almost like an addiction as we couldn't pass one by without stopping at them.:smile:
I'm a big fan of yard sales too...I wish I lived in an area where they had annual "mile long" yard sales! Do you have anything like this where you live?...I like to go to annual rummage sales at certain churches where they sell "baked goods" too. (Some of the "bakers" are fantastic and prices are cheap!)...I love "final day" sales where anything that can be stuffed into a bag only costs a dollar. How about you?

Goofball73's photo
Fri 03/15/13 08:33 AM
Here is the thing. Most of us know what the meaning behind "Activity Partner", or we assume that when we see it on a person's profile that all that person is looking for is sex. Nothing wrong with that and I think it is mighty big of a person to just straight up say that is what he/she wants.

However, the stigma with Activity Partner is that if a guy has it on his profile, he is labeled as a manwhore. If a woman has it, then most men see her as either a sexually confident woman or a tease. Women tend to view other women with this title as "little ho bags", lol. It's just funny how when a person is honest about their intentions, they do become labeled.


GreenEyes48's photo
Fri 03/15/13 08:33 AM


I'm afraid to accept invitations from men right now because I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression or "lead" anyone "on."...I explained that I wasn't ready to date yet (over and over again) to a couple of longtime male friends. (In a nice way!)...And I went out to eat with them. (Two separate meals out with 2 different friends.)...And I paid them back by bringing them food and gave them tools and a few other things that used to belong to my husband and sons. (Extra things I didn't need.)...But I had regrets about all of it (later on) because the men did seem to want "more" than just friendship...So now I just keep to myself and don't have any "activity partners."...My few local female friends are married and lead busy lives.. Too bad I can't dress my cats up and take them out to restaurants with me. Or the movies etc...I would if I could just to have a little company and companionship once in awhile when I go out.


Why not just pay your own way? That way no one thinks you owe them anything. Be clear about just being friends. You don't have to hole up in your house like a hermit just because you don't want to date.
I have insisted on wanting to pay for myself or even "treat" them.. And I've brought up how I just want to be friends many times...These men have been on their own for a long time or they just feel ready for "more" with a woman...We're in different places...When I met my husband he wasn't looking for love and I wasn't either. So it was easy for us to be friends. (With no push for "more.")

1Cynderella's photo
Fri 03/15/13 10:31 AM
Edited by 1Cynderella on Fri 03/15/13 10:32 AM
I think they should clarify what activity(s) they want a partner for. Otherwise I may wear something...I mean the wrong thing to our play date. How embarrassing! blushing laugh

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Fri 03/15/13 11:52 AM
Some people have a different definiton of what activities they want for a partner.For some stating "activity partner" instead of FWB or FB takes them out of the sleazy zone(jmo). So a person that is contacted by someone wanting a activity partner needs to question them just what activities they have in mind and hope that they will be truthful.

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Fri 03/15/13 01:44 PM
Edited by Unknow on Fri 03/15/13 01:45 PM
Without sounding like to much of a prude (lol) I kind of admire people who state just what they want like, intimate encounter or friends with benefits, it's those that try to mask what they are really after that I think are "sleazy".When I was new to the online dating world I met a few fellas online that had activity partner as what they were seeking turns out when questioned they were looking for a fwb or an intimate encounter so for me personally when I see a profile stating activity partner I don't even bother anymore "click" you ghost.......................oh so jaded...................

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Fri 03/15/13 01:59 PM



I'm afraid to accept invitations from men right now because I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression or "lead" anyone "on."...I explained that I wasn't ready to date yet (over and over again) to a couple of longtime male friends. (In a nice way!)...And I went out to eat with them. (Two separate meals out with 2 different friends.)...And I paid them back by bringing them food and gave them tools and a few other things that used to belong to my husband and sons. (Extra things I didn't need.)...But I had regrets about all of it (later on) because the men did seem to want "more" than just friendship...So now I just keep to myself and don't have any "activity partners."...My few local female friends are married and lead busy lives.. Too bad I can't dress my cats up and take them out to restaurants with me. Or the movies etc...I would if I could just to have a little company and companionship once in awhile when I go out.


Why not just pay your own way? That way no one thinks you owe them anything. Be clear about just being friends. You don't have to hole up in your house like a hermit just because you don't want to date.
I have insisted on wanting to pay for myself or even "treat" them.. And I've brought up how I just want to be friends many times...These men have been on their own for a long time or they just feel ready for "more" with a woman...We're in different places...When I met my husband he wasn't looking for love and I wasn't either. So it was easy for us to be friends. (With no push for "more.")


Try something like meetup where you can find all kinds of events/get togethers without the pressure of someone wanting more.

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Fri 03/15/13 02:00 PM

Some people have a different definiton of what activities they want for a partner.For some stating "activity partner" instead of FWB or FB takes them out of the sleazy zone(jmo). So a person that is contacted by someone wanting a activity partner needs to question them just what activities they have in mind and hope that they will be truthful.


I think it's more sleazy to hide what they really want by stating activity partners, rather than intimate encounter. I prefer men who are upfront about what they want, rather than trying to be sneaky about it.

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