100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
Previous
| Topic: good guy finishes last | |
|---|---|
|
|
|
I'm john. I truly am a pretty good person, good job, pretty good looking, kind hearted, nice personality and can't meet a girl. I am shy though and get a little nervous but what should I do?
|
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
Charles1962150
on
Sun 05/05/13 02:56 PM
|
|
I'm john. I truly am a pretty good person, good job, pretty good looking, kind hearted, nice personality and can't meet a girl. I am shy though and get a little nervous but what should I do? This is really more simple then a lot make it out to be. The first thing you do,Start having some confidence in yourself. Don't broadcast how good you think you are. As a matter of fact,Don't broad cast anything just because you think it's the "good" in you. And for god sakes,never say that you are a "nice" guy. When you do these things,It comes off as "poor pitiful me" I can't get a date. I'm not trying to tell you to be some kind of a$$ hole to women. That will not work either. What I'm trying to tell you,Show them that you have confidence in yourself,That you are "whole" whether you have a woman in your life or not. You are happy with or without. Talk to women the right way. Stay away from this mistake that many men make. Abstain from calling them,"Baby,Darlin and such like. Talk to them like they are a human being and on the same level as you. One last thing, If you talk to a woman and for whatever reason she isn't interested,Move on. Don't take it so much to heart. If you write a woman on a dating site and she doesn't answer,Move on. Write another one. Never let any of them think that you are either a stalker or just can't take no for an answer. Or, That she has you by the short hairs. You will be amazed at the amount of women that start to sit up and take notice of you. Whether it be here or out in the real world. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Shy guys are usually boring, no offense, there are some women who like shy guys but not me.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I was tricked!
 I though this was about a nice guy who let someone win a race. Now that would be a nice guy...stupid, but nice.  Have you ever heard the saying, "You don't get what you don't ask for?" Shy guys don't do much asking. Start asking. 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Oh and you will need to loose that nice guy image as well, just keep that for a surprise!
Its a "dog eat dog world" out there and you have got such a long ways to go. tuffen up man! or when you do get there then you might as well cut your heart out and put it in the blender yourselve!!!!  |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Genuine nice guys don't finish last. Whiny, self proclaimed nice guys finish last. There is a big difference.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Good guys finish last. I hope so...
The last to see her face at the end of the day. The last to kiss her goodnight. The last first kiss she'll ever have. The last thought on her mind. Don't lose hope johnnymac...
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I think a lot of nice guys out there believe they've lost girls to those fast talking, whirlwind of excitement, payers who can't possibly love her like he can, won't treat her like he will and will end up making her miserable in the end.
Did you ever stop to consider than the player may be the one who lost out here. You are now free to meet someone who is more compatible for you. Once you step back from the situation, you have to see that a girl who would hook up with a player like that would never have been a good match for you. You liked her while you were wearing rose colored glasses. Once you take them off you'll see she did you a favor. Let the fast talking, claim staking player have all of those girls they want...they're not for nice guys anyway.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Heeeeeeey I resemble that remark............which side though?
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
You wanna get the girl? Any girl? Ya gotta go out of your comfort zone and show her that you are a quality catch. Since you are shy then the internet is a great tool for ya. Use it to your advantage and show these ladies what ya got.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
You wanna get the girl? Any girl? Ya gotta go out of your comfort zone and show her that you are a quality catch. Since you are shy then the internet is a great tool for ya. Use it to your advantage and show these ladies what ya got. This guy knows it all!! Enough said. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
You wanna get the girl? Any girl? Ya gotta go out of your comfort zone and show her that you are a quality catch. Since you are shy then the internet is a great tool for ya. Use it to your advantage and show these ladies what ya got. This guy knows it all!! Enough said. And you can see....I paid Chelsea very well for that endorsement.  
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Wow,
I hate to hear that a nice guy wants to give up. That leaves the overly confident jerks a clear path to us, the ladies. Just take note, lots of great ladies spend weekend nights alone because a nice guy didn't take advantage of an opportunity afforded to them and ask us out. Netflix and Hulu plus gets old. Just a thought |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Ask, and you shall receive eventually.
 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
You're going to have to get over the being shy part. If you want to ask someone out, do it. Don't wait around, because someone else will ask her out instead.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I'm john. I truly am a pretty good person, good job, pretty good looking, kind hearted, nice personality and can't meet a girl. I am shy though and get a little nervous but what should I do? This is really more simple then a lot make it out to be. The first thing you do,Start having some confidence in yourself. Don't broadcast how good you think you are. As a matter of fact,Don't broad cast anything just because you think it's the "good" in you. And for god sakes,never say that you are a "nice" guy. When you do these things,It comes off as "poor pitiful me" I can't get a date. I'm not trying to tell you to be some kind of a$$ hole to women. That will not work either. What I'm trying to tell you,Show them that you have confidence in yourself,That you are "whole" whether you have a woman in your life or not. You are happy with or without. Talk to women the right way. Stay away from this mistake that many men make. Abstain from calling them,"Baby,Darlin and such like. Talk to them like they are a human being and on the same level as you. One last thing, If you talk to a woman and for whatever reason she isn't interested,Move on. Don't take it so much to heart. If you write a woman on a dating site and she doesn't answer,Move on. Write another one. Never let any of them think that you are either a stalker or just can't take no for an answer. Or, That she has you by the short hairs. You will be amazed at the amount of women that start to sit up and take notice of you. Whether it be here or out in the real world. Good advice  |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
He didn't say he can't GET the girl. He said he can't "meet a girl".
Some time ago, I reviewed where I find my women. In the vast majority, they were extended social contacts. For example, we attended the same party, dropped in on the same running event, played trivia on the same team, etc. I concluded that where I am more social, I have more possibilities. Perhaps this may also apply to you. I hope it helps. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
He didn't say he can't GET the girl. He said he can't "meet a girl". Some time ago, I reviewed where I find my women. In the vast majority, they were extended social contacts. For example, we attended the same party, dropped in on the same running event, played trivia on the same team, etc. I concluded that where I am more social, I have more possibilities. Perhaps this may also apply to you. I hope it helps. I think that would probably work for most people. The more social you are, the more new people you'll meet. I don't think anyone should be just using these types of sites and that's it. Get out and actually mingle with people in person! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I'm john. I truly am a pretty good person, good job, pretty good looking, kind hearted, nice personality and can't meet a girl. I am shy though and get a little nervous but what should I do? *sigh* I'm having this exact same trouble trying find myself a good woman. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I'm john. I truly am a pretty good person, good job, pretty good looking, kind hearted, nice personality and can't meet a girl. I am shy though and get a little nervous but what should I do? Grow some nuts. Peanuts, cashews, pecans... chicks dig gardens and they are easy to set up in your backyard. And all jokes aside, if you really feel all those things about yourself, just be confident in it and step out there and start talking. Shyness is not a crime, but you can't very well meet the love of your life if she can't find you. |
|
|
|
|
