I need some clarification here. I'm an older woman that has a great friendship with my child's ex. He tells me I'm like a mum. He says he loves me like a mum. We hang out everyday. He's very young. When he has a few drinks he kisses me in the cheek and in my hand. Lately he has kissed me on the lips and grabbed my boobs. Just a deliberate peck on the lips. He also tells me I shouldn't find myself anyone. Can anyone explain what is happening here?

I assure you he is not thinking of you as a mum.... Unless this is what you want then you need to put a whoa on his actions now before it gets too messy..

My personal opinion is that you should stop drinking and hanging out with your child's ex.

He may have started out thinking you are like his mother, but he seems to have some deep rooted problems. ( Oedipus problems I am guessing )
and I think you would hurt your child by continuing down this road with this youngsters ex.

Kissing on the lips and boob grabbing is not a proper mother, grown child relationship. Even if he is not blood relative.

Now throw all this out the window if you are interested in becoming this kid's sugar momma or sugar daddy.

I can't do that to other women who I consider my mother. Well..it's just me..

Lookin' like a boy gonna' get him some cougar action!!

Right-on Mamasita! Lay it on him!

Well we no what he wants! What do you want! Kinda sounds like the same, well is her still

With your daughter from time to time? Would you loose her if she found out.?

Only you can answer these questions. .there's lots of variables, just dont make the decision

From your waist down.

Dont let it happen spontaneously. .I'd like to say you only live once but only you know.

No they never see each other. He loves her still very much.

Sounds like he is seeking a girlfriend rather than a Mom.

Well if she's not around and you no she's done and you both have your needs and both can be discrete

then go for it but It kinda sounds like your some what into him...familiarity! !

A couple of concerns is in a way trying to get back at her or if he trys to get back with her and she

rips his heart out and it gets ugly he may decide to hurt her with you.

Or you guys get serious then you have another prob,

Let me no how it goes

He wants her back she doesn't. They have already broken each others hearts. She is aware I see him everyday. Aware of our closeness.
I just think when he's had a few he might see abit of her in me. Nothing more. Life had dealt us a really bad hand. We basically have each other to lean on. I can't see it being anything else

You right.
However, if it was me at a young age, I'd be wanting to see a little bit of me in you.

Cougars can be fun for a while.

You don't think it's just that he sees a bit of her in me when he's had a few drinks?
This is what I'm thinking it is.

Hard to tell without pictures.

I was young, dumb and full of gum at one time.

I wouldn't have had to have a few drinks to jump a cougar.

I have dated Daughter and done Mom a few times. Turns me on remembering those times.

Now, where'd I put that damn Viagry and Vaseline.

But seriously.

If you let him tap you a few times, it could help him get over the ex.

I dunno about that. He fell in love with her 5 years ago. They were together and broke up. Way too young. Then got back 3 years later. Very serious relationship. Then things went to the dogs and that was a year ago.

He's trying to get to her through you.

Put a stop to this drinking, kissing, and boob grabbing now, before you get yourself into something your not looking for.

I don't think anyone has established
what she is not looking for.

Yeah, I think you just need to be clear in your mind what it is you want out of this first.

Well a mother daughter tryst is a long established fantasy for some folks.

The kisses have always been on the cheek. It's only happened twice that it was on the lips. Just a peck. Nothing to it. On these two occasions the grope happened but not during the peck.
I just think he's being a cheeky bugger and obviously horny but not for me.
I laugh it off and tell him when he's sober that I can't believe he would do that. Doesn't want it mentioned when he's sober

Ahhh the drunken 'Casanova.'
Sounds like you are handling it well.