Topic: whats age got to do with it ...
TheShadow's photo
Tue 08/20/13 02:22 PM

if we are going to generalize

I think the age thing may not be as much an issue with men because they are often only concerned with appearances and sex

and women,, probably, are more likely to be considering the mutual responsibility in a relationship,, and whether their partner is in a similar intellectual/emotional stage to share those responsibilities with,,,


Nothing personal, but i yet to see this outside this forum, and if so it rare...

no photo
Tue 08/20/13 02:32 PM
hehehe I'm almost 52 and i have never had to try any little blue pills
Of course it does help to have an attractive lady to perform for...
:laughing:

Maddengirl8's photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:22 PM
Personally I wouldn't want to date a much younger man. I think it would be weird like dating my son or something.

Simonedemidova's photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:24 PM
I saw a show called extreme cougar wives and an 76 yr old was dating a 18 year old and a 24 yr old. It was creepy and gross.

KinBarrie's photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:35 PM

I saw a show called extreme cougar wives and an 76 yr old was dating a 18 year old and a 24 yr old. It was creepy and gross.


Was this a 76 year old man or woman?

Either way, the younger ones would have to
be gold diggers.

Creepy and gross is an understatement!

Some people do seem to look better as they
age. When we get into our 70's and 80's
though, that hill really starts to go
on a steep slope.


Candiapples's photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:38 PM

I saw a show called extreme cougar wives and an 76 yr old was dating a 18 year old and a 24 yr old. It was creepy and gross.

I saw that too, I don't believe its real. Its entertainment

Simonedemidova's photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:45 PM
Edited by Simonedemidova on Tue 08/20/13 07:46 PM
I had a hard time watching it to be honest,

The women are the elders, hence the title cougar wives.

This woman was terrible looking, and I am not bashing elders but she was really nasty. Definitely gold digging involved, when the 24 year old male asked her if she was still sexually active during their date, her response was "yes" and you could see the immediate dismay in his face.

Then she had the nerve to say, she could do a lot better! LOL I couldn't even do better, the kid was handsome, albeit a gold digger. The nerve of her.

I would imagine everyone who sleeps with her gets a brand new car and wardrobe! laugh and probably a whole of drinker drinker going on.

KinBarrie's photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:46 PM


I saw a show called extreme cougar wives and an 76 yr old was dating a 18 year old and a 24 yr old. It was creepy and gross.

I saw that too, I don't believe its real. Its entertainment


I don't believe those reality shows are all legit
either. Remember the big TV companies will do
anything to boost ratings and profit.

I believe it's all scripted. Or, when the
camera is off them, they're being told
what to do by some director or producer.whoa

no photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:47 PM
don't think much about it . if we click we click,

but a radical age difference would be too extreme to work. I have dated younger and we usually get along pretty well.

I do see alot of pointless generalizations on here, mostly about women that are not only inacurrate but

well.........pointless lol

KinBarrie's photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:53 PM

I had a hard time watching it to be honest,

The women are the elders, hence the title cougar wives.

This woman was terrible looking, and I am not bashing elders but she was really nasty. Definitely gold digging involved, when the 24 year old male asked her if she was still sexually active during their date, her response was "yes" and you could see the immediate dismay in his face.

Then she had the nerve to say, she could do a lot better! LOL I couldn't even do better, the kid was handsome, albeit a gold digger. The nerve of her.

I would imagine everyone who sleeps with her gets a brand new car and wardrobe! laugh and probably a whole of drinker drinker going on.


Even if it is in fact real, nothing much surprises me
anymore. And if the kid was handsome, he's on that
show for a reason. Can anyone say ratings booster?

Gold digging involved here obviously, if in fact
it's not scripted or faked. I'm starting to
believe the latter.

Hmm? But she is rich right?love laugh

KinBarrie's photo
Tue 08/20/13 07:58 PM

don't think much about it . if we click we click,

but a radical age difference would be too extreme to work. I have dated younger and we usually get along pretty well.

I do see alot of pointless generalizations on here, mostly about women that are not only inacurrate but

well.........pointless lol


If two people are dating for all the right reasons,
and not for selfish ones, then I see no problem with
that.

A kid dating an eighty year old woman though?
Of course love is strange. And it's also on
television.whoa

gvitago's photo
Tue 08/20/13 08:03 PM

ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far dont we.

i am not talking like a 45 year old woman dating a 19 year old man or vica versa, but is there a reason people often pull the "oh your to young for me card" when there is a 3-5 year difference?

i find men (as per the stereotype) are much more willing to drift in age range, why is it that woman are so harsh on the age range?

comments

Older women in the forty-ish set are particularly harsh in their regards toward a man near their age dating a woman twenty years his junior. It intimidates them because they know that there could be true love there, not simply a gold-digging twenty-year-old dating an older man simply to lay siege to his credit cards. And the man in the equation may simply be intent only upon having a baby with her so any children may have a young, more energetic mom who can keep up with them. He may not be interested in having a young wife simply as a trophy to show off to his friends. This intimidates older women to no end. They try to brand him a pedophile, and the girl a gold-digging slut-puppy.
In some countries, young girls much prefer much older men...and it's not merely for financial gain. Boys their age are often just that-boys, and have no sense of responsibility. And they are often only intent upon offering one thing to the relationship.

no photo
Tue 08/20/13 08:04 PM


don't think much about it . if we click we click,

but a radical age difference would be too extreme to work. I have dated younger and we usually get along pretty well.

I do see alot of pointless generalizations on here, mostly about women that are not only inacurrate but

well.........pointless lol


If two people are dating for all the right reasons,
and not for selfish ones, then I see no problem with
that.

A kid dating an eighty year old woman though?
Of course love is strange. And it's also on
television.whoa


a kid dating any adult is strange. I was assuming we were referring to adults only

but ya, the geriatric patient with the teenage bride is a bit difficult to comprehend, certainly

KinBarrie's photo
Tue 08/20/13 08:16 PM



don't think much about it . if we click we click,

but a radical age difference would be too extreme to work. I have dated younger and we usually get along pretty well.

I do see alot of pointless generalizations on here, mostly about women that are not only inacurrate but

well.........pointless lol


If two people are dating for all the right reasons,
and not for selfish ones, then I see no problem with
that.

A kid dating an eighty year old woman though?
Of course love is strange. And it's also on
television.whoa


a kid dating any adult is strange. I was assuming we were referring to adults only

but ya, the geriatric patient with the teenage bride is a bit difficult to comprehend, certainly


19 is close to being an adult. I don't put
much salt into what's on TV. It's best to
just get a laugh out of what's on it, which
in itself is hard to get out of it these days.

Someone dating another 5-10 years their senior.
Not so unusual. 30-70 years their senior. Well
yeah, that's a little too odd.

wc777's photo
Tue 08/20/13 08:33 PM
this topic has really taken off ... the basics of it in my mind go on two virtues

1) you have to connect with the other person, i always believe this to be unrelated to age, wealth, upbringing, background, color, etc.

it is all related to the fact that you can feel something for the other person

2) you have to be comfortable to be seen in public, otherwise it will never work. some people would not want to date a person with an age gap because of their career implications, family and so forth.

other than that there shouldn't be anything you can not work through.

no photo
Tue 08/20/13 08:47 PM
Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Tue 08/20/13 08:47 PM

this topic has really taken off ... the basics of it in my mind go on two virtues

1) you have to connect with the other person, i always believe this to be unrelated to age, wealth, upbringing, background, color, etc.

it is all related to the fact that you can feel something for the other person

2) you have to be comfortable to be seen in public, otherwise it will never work. some people would not want to date a person with an age gap because of their career implications, family and so forth.

other than that there shouldn't be anything you can not work through.


I agree, and it is up to no one but the two individuals involved. I think the OP is simply a wind up trying to start trouble, but the topic can definitely be a good discussion, ignoring that.

It's been discussed on here many times before. It turns out to be mainly about individual preference. My benchmark for a younger man is his level of sincerity, whether he is genuine or playing games, or just after sex. Is he realistic? Can he carry on a conversation?....is he infatuated with cougar mythology, or is there a relationship potential? Dating a younger man is no different than a man my age dating young women, but it's not nearly as acceptable socially....comments are made about wrinkles and tummies etc etc as women age. Why aren't those same types of comments made about older males?

In any event, if you love someone things like wrinkles and bad hair days don;t matter so much...lol

Simonedemidova's photo
Tue 08/20/13 08:55 PM



don't think much about it . if we click we click,

but a radical age difference would be too extreme to work. I have dated younger and we usually get along pretty well.

I do see alot of pointless generalizations on here, mostly about women that are not only inacurrate but

well.........pointless lol


If two people are dating for all the right reasons,
and not for selfish ones, then I see no problem with
that.

A kid dating an eighty year old woman though?
Of course love is strange. And it's also on
television.whoa


a kid dating any adult is strange. I was assuming we were referring to adults only

but ya, the geriatric patient with the teenage bride is a bit difficult to comprehend, certainly


I never thought of myself as a kid at 24. I had already been living on my own paying my own bills for 7 years. Many people have finished college by 24 and/or already millionaires in their own right so just because there is an age gap does not mean the younger half is a child. There 36 year old women dating 50 year olds. I think at certain stages in your life your mind has evolved.... When we say kids, I think of 10-17 year olds.

Simonedemidova's photo
Tue 08/20/13 08:59 PM


this topic has really taken off ... the basics of it in my mind go on two virtues

1) you have to connect with the other person, i always believe this to be unrelated to age, wealth, upbringing, background, color, etc.

it is all related to the fact that you can feel something for the other person

2) you have to be comfortable to be seen in public, otherwise it will never work. some people would not want to date a person with an age gap because of their career implications, family and so forth.

other than that there shouldn't be anything you can not work through.


I agree, and it is up to no one but the two individuals involved. I think the OP is simply a wind up trying to start trouble, but the topic can definitely be a good discussion, ignoring that.

It's been discussed on here many times before. It turns out to be mainly about individual preference. My benchmark for a younger man is his level of sincerity, whether he is genuine or playing games, or just after sex. Is he realistic? Can he carry on a conversation?....is he infatuated with cougar mythology, or is there a relationship potential? Dating a younger man is no different than a man my age dating young women, but it's not nearly as acceptable socially....comments are made about wrinkles and tummies etc etc as women age. Why aren't those same types of comments made about older males?

In any event, if you love someone things like wrinkles and bad hair days don;t matter so much...lol


Wow sweet, the OP IS the person WC whom you just quoted. It's a legit question and for those of us who have not been on here forever or recently or whatever the case, we don't all have privy to every topic that has ever been posted.

navygirl's photo
Tue 08/20/13 09:01 PM
Me, I am comfortable with up to a 10 year difference but no more than that.

Simonedemidova's photo
Tue 08/20/13 09:02 PM
When I find myself in love with someone, I don't pay any mind to what people outside our relationship thinks. I have the same issues with inter racial relationships but at the end of the day, our hearts being connected is the only thing that matters to me.