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A man over the age of 46 that takes care of himself has no need for that little blu pill. it's blue? |
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don't think much about it . if we click we click, but a radical age difference would be too extreme to work. I have dated younger and we usually get along pretty well. I do see alot of pointless generalizations on here, mostly about women that are not only inacurrate but well.........pointless lol If two people are dating for all the right reasons, and not for selfish ones, then I see no problem with that. A kid dating an eighty year old woman though? Of course love is strange. And it's also on television.  a kid dating any adult is strange. I was assuming we were referring to adults only but ya, the geriatric patient with the teenage bride is a bit difficult to comprehend, certainly I never thought of myself as a kid at 24. I had already been living on my own paying my own bills for 7 years. Many people have finished college by 24 and/or already millionaires in their own right so just because there is an age gap does not mean the younger half is a child. There 36 year old women dating 50 year olds. I think at certain stages in your life your mind has evolved.... When we say kids, I think of 10-17 year olds. ^^^^^^^^well said..(((Simone))) |
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don't think much about it . if we click we click, but a radical age difference would be too extreme to work. I have dated younger and we usually get along pretty well. I do see alot of pointless generalizations on here, mostly about women that are not only inacurrate but well.........pointless lol If two people are dating for all the right reasons, and not for selfish ones, then I see no problem with that. A kid dating an eighty year old woman though? Of course love is strange. And it's also on television. a kid dating any adult is strange. I was assuming we were referring to adults only but ya, the geriatric patient with the teenage bride is a bit difficult to comprehend, certainly I never thought of myself as a kid at 24. I had already been living on my own paying my own bills for 7 years. Many people have finished college by 24 and/or already millionaires in their own right so just because there is an age gap does not mean the younger half is a child. There 36 year old women dating 50 year olds. I think at certain stages in your life your mind has evolved.... When we say kids, I think of 10-17 year olds. ^^^^^^^^well said..(((Simone))) 
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far dont we. i am not talking like a 45 year old woman dating a 19 year old man or vica versa, but is there a reason people often pull the "oh your to young for me card" when there is a 3-5 year difference? i find men (as per the stereotype) are much more willing to drift in age range, why is it that woman are so harsh on the age range? comments Older women in the forty-ish set are particularly harsh in their regards toward a man near their age dating a woman twenty years his junior. It intimidates them because they know that there could be true love there, not simply a gold-digging twenty-year-old dating an older man simply to lay siege to his credit cards. And the man in the equation may simply be intent only upon having a baby with her so any children may have a young, more energetic mom who can keep up with them. He may not be interested in having a young wife simply as a trophy to show off to his friends. This intimidates older women to no end. They try to brand him a pedophile, and the girl a gold-digging slut-puppy. In some countries, young girls much prefer much older men...and it's not merely for financial gain. Boys their age are often just that-boys, and have no sense of responsibility. And they are often only intent upon offering one thing to the relationship. Oh my; where do you get your facts from? What is in intimidating about older men dating a younger woman? I know men go through their mid-life crisis; some buy sports cars, motorcycles, and some feel the need to have another child. I wouldn't want a child at 50 as being close to retirement; I would have to raise a child on a pension/fixed income and that simply would not be fair to a child to go without but that is just me. Myself; I could care less if men dated a 14 year old as its simply none of my business. As for keeping up; I am training to ride a 100 km bike ride in one day. Now unless men in their 50s have all suddenly become pregnant; I am going to go out on a limb and say those pot bellies are not an indication of men who are in very good shape and could keep up with me as most almost have a heart attack at the 1 kilometre mark. Again; what am I supposed to be intimidated by? I am in good shape, own my own home, do my own renovations, pay all my own bills, and don't need a man for anything. Now, I am the one that is intimidating to men as I can't be controlled and I not dependent. So; if an older man desires a younger woman; why the heck would I care? Seriously buddy; get over yourself. 
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Age doesn't matter im 19 n been with females 45 n under n honestly the dating part is kinda much butt the sex is always great
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far dont we. i am not talking like a 45 year old woman dating a 19 year old man or vica versa, but is there a reason people often pull the "oh your to young for me card" when there is a 3-5 year difference? i find men (as per the stereotype) are much more willing to drift in age range, why is it that woman are so harsh on the age range? comments Older women in the forty-ish set are particularly harsh in their regards toward a man near their age dating a woman twenty years his junior. It intimidates them because they know that there could be true love there, not simply a gold-digging twenty-year-old dating an older man simply to lay siege to his credit cards. And the man in the equation may simply be intent only upon having a baby with her so any children may have a young, more energetic mom who can keep up with them. He may not be interested in having a young wife simply as a trophy to show off to his friends. This intimidates older women to no end. They try to brand him a pedophile, and the girl a gold-digging slut-puppy. In some countries, young girls much prefer much older men...and it's not merely for financial gain. Boys their age are often just that-boys, and have no sense of responsibility. And they are often only intent upon offering one thing to the relationship. Oh my; where do you get your facts from? What is in intimidating about older men dating a younger woman? I know men go through their mid-life crisis; some buy sports cars, motorcycles, and some feel the need to have another child. I wouldn't want a child at 50 as being close to retirement; I would have to raise a child on a pension/fixed income and that simply would not be fair to a child to go without but that is just me. Myself; I could care less if men dated a 14 year old as its simply none of my business. As for keeping up; I am training to ride a 100 km bike ride in one day. Now unless men in their 50s have all suddenly become pregnant; I am going to go out on a limb and say those pot bellies are not an indication of men who are in very good shape and could keep up with me as most almost have a heart attack at the 1 kilometre mark. Again; what am I supposed to be intimidated by? I am in good shape, own my own home, do my own renovations, pay all my own bills, and don't need a man for anything. Now, I am the one that is intimidating to men as I can't be controlled and I not dependent. So; if an older man desires a younger woman; why the heck would I care? Seriously buddy; get over yourself. VERY WELL PUT...YOU GO GIRL!!! |
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far dont we. i am not talking like a 45 year old woman dating a 19 year old man or vica versa, but is there a reason people often pull the "oh your to young for me card" when there is a 3-5 year difference? i find men (as per the stereotype) are much more willing to drift in age range, why is it that woman are so harsh on the age range? comments Older women in the forty-ish set are particularly harsh in their regards toward a man near their age dating a woman twenty years his junior. It intimidates them because they know that there could be true love there, not simply a gold-digging twenty-year-old dating an older man simply to lay siege to his credit cards. And the man in the equation may simply be intent only upon having a baby with her so any children may have a young, more energetic mom who can keep up with them. He may not be interested in having a young wife simply as a trophy to show off to his friends. This intimidates older women to no end. They try to brand him a pedophile, and the girl a gold-digging slut-puppy. In some countries, young girls much prefer much older men...and it's not merely for financial gain. Boys their age are often just that-boys, and have no sense of responsibility. And they are often only intent upon offering one thing to the relationship. Oh my; where do you get your facts from? What is in intimidating about older men dating a younger woman? I know men go through their mid-life crisis; some buy sports cars, motorcycles, and some feel the need to have another child. I wouldn't want a child at 50 as being close to retirement; I would have to raise a child on a pension/fixed income and that simply would not be fair to a child to go without but that is just me. Myself; I could care less if men dated a 14 year old as its simply none of my business. As for keeping up; I am training to ride a 100 km bike ride in one day. Now unless men in their 50s have all suddenly become pregnant; I am going to go out on a limb and say those pot bellies are not an indication of men who are in very good shape and could keep up with me as most almost have a heart attack at the 1 kilometre mark. Again; what am I supposed to be intimidated by? I am in good shape, own my own home, do my own renovations, pay all my own bills, and don't need a man for anything. Now, I am the one that is intimidating to men as I can't be controlled and I not dependent. So; if an older man desires a younger woman; why the heck would I care? Seriously buddy; get over yourself. VERY WELL PUT...YOU GO GIRL!!! Thanks. 
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Edited by
gvitago
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Wed 08/21/13 05:19 AM
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this topic has really taken off ... the basics of it in my mind go on two virtues 1) you have to connect with the other person, i always believe this to be unrelated to age, wealth, upbringing, background, color, etc. it is all related to the fact that you can feel something for the other person 2) you have to be comfortable to be seen in public, otherwise it will never work. some people would not want to date a person with an age gap because of their career implications, family and so forth. other than that there shouldn't be anything you can not work through. This topic has taken off because many of those who've replied have also considered reciprocating the advances of a much younger (or older) person. Then there are those participating in this thread whose boyfriend, wife, etc. had been stolen away by someone of a significant age difference. Others are seeking tips on how to initiate an encounter w/ an older, or younger person. Maybe the rule here should be to choose one to approach who had long ago exceeded the "age of consent"! Sixteen will get you twenty! |
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far dont we. i am not talking like a 45 year old woman dating a 19 year old man or vica versa, but is there a reason people often pull the "oh your to young for me card" when there is a 3-5 year difference? i find men (as per the stereotype) are much more willing to drift in age range, why is it that woman are so harsh on the age range? comments Older women in the forty-ish set are particularly harsh in their regards toward a man near their age dating a woman twenty years his junior. It intimidates them because they know that there could be true love there, not simply a gold-digging twenty-year-old dating an older man simply to lay siege to his credit cards. And the man in the equation may simply be intent only upon having a baby with her so any children may have a young, more energetic mom who can keep up with them. He may not be interested in having a young wife simply as a trophy to show off to his friends. This intimidates older women to no end. They try to brand him a pedophile, and the girl a gold-digging slut-puppy. In some countries, young girls much prefer much older men...and it's not merely for financial gain. Boys their age are often just that-boys, and have no sense of responsibility. And they are often only intent upon offering one thing to the relationship. Oh my; where do you get your facts from? What is in intimidating about older men dating a younger woman? I know men go through their mid-life crisis; some buy sports cars, motorcycles, and some feel the need to have another child. I wouldn't want a child at 50 as being close to retirement; I would have to raise a child on a pension/fixed income and that simply would not be fair to a child to go without but that is just me. Myself; I could care less if men dated a 14 year old as its simply none of my business. As for keeping up; I am training to ride a 100 km bike ride in one day. Now unless men in their 50s have all suddenly become pregnant; I am going to go out on a limb and say those pot bellies are not an indication of men who are in very good shape and could keep up with me as most almost have a heart attack at the 1 kilometre mark. Again; what am I supposed to be intimidated by? I am in good shape, own my own home, do my own renovations, pay all my own bills, and don't need a man for anything. Now, I am the one that is intimidating to men as I can't be controlled and I not dependent. So; if an older man desires a younger woman; why the heck would I care? Seriously buddy; get over yourself. VERY WELL PUT...YOU GO GIRL!!! Thanks. |
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navygirl, I get my facts on older women deriving anger over an older man/younger woman union by simply placing the incendiary truth into a thread such as this. Then I take careful note of those women who "could care less", yet snarl at me nonetheless for merely posting what most are probably thinking.
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i find men (as per the stereotype) are much more willing to drift in age range, why is it that woman are so harsh on the age range? comments We are?...I had no idea!...I think age preference is totally personal and can be based on so many things that it's impossible to pigeonhole anyone...The very fact that more and more people are stepping out of conventional roles IMO means people are more inclined than ever to follow their heart when it comes to choosing a mate....Things like security (male dominated work force) and waning stigma about single parenting, same sex relationships, and blended or reversed gender roles all contribute to leaving the door wide open to CHOICE based more on feelings and compatibility than security and conventionalism....Like Sweetest said, if we click, we click.... |
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Age matters. To me. Here's how I know:
I'm 43 now. Few years back I decided to jump back in the dating game after finishing my tour of duty as a single mom for 18 yrs. I met a hot 25 yr old. Thought "Age is just a number. Shouldn't matter. Go ahead. It'll be fun!" So I did. So there I am, deed's been done. Lying there after, he's sleeping peacefully beside me when suddenly I hear a loud voice in the dark... "This is a message from God", clear as a bell. I about had a heart attack! I jumped up, ran into the living room, and completely freaked out. I couldn't believe what I heard!   I really thought I had done something wrong, so wrong that it required divine intervention! Turns out the guy had a ringtone of the Blues Brothers on his phone with Jake or Elwood saying "We're on a mission from God".  Apparently age matters to me. And I'm not cougar material! |
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this topic has really taken off ... the basics of it in my mind go on two virtues 1) you have to connect with the other person, i always believe this to be unrelated to age, wealth, upbringing, background, color, etc. it is all related to the fact that you can feel something for the other person 2) you have to be comfortable to be seen in public, otherwise it will never work. some people would not want to date a person with an age gap because of their career implications, family and so forth. other than that there shouldn't be anything you can not work through. I agree, and it is up to no one but the two individuals involved. I think the OP is simply a wind up trying to start trouble, but the topic can definitely be a good discussion, ignoring that. It's been discussed on here many times before. It turns out to be mainly about individual preference. My benchmark for a younger man is his level of sincerity, whether he is genuine or playing games, or just after sex. Is he realistic? Can he carry on a conversation?....is he infatuated with cougar mythology, or is there a relationship potential? Dating a younger man is no different than a man my age dating young women, but it's not nearly as acceptable socially....comments are made about wrinkles and tummies etc etc as women age. Why aren't those same types of comments made about older males? In any event, if you love someone things like wrinkles and bad hair days don;t matter so much...lol oops - I thought the OP was the guy above with the blonde hair. My mistake - I was not referring to the OP. |
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don't think much about it . if we click we click, but a radical age difference would be too extreme to work. I have dated younger and we usually get along pretty well. I do see alot of pointless generalizations on here, mostly about women that are not only inacurrate but well.........pointless lol If two people are dating for all the right reasons, and not for selfish ones, then I see no problem with that. A kid dating an eighty year old woman though? Of course love is strange. And it's also on television. a kid dating any adult is strange. I was assuming we were referring to adults only but ya, the geriatric patient with the teenage bride is a bit difficult to comprehend, certainly I never thought of myself as a kid at 24. I had already been living on my own paying my own bills for 7 years. Many people have finished college by 24 and/or already millionaires in their own right so just because there is an age gap does not mean the younger half is a child. There 36 year old women dating 50 year olds. I think at certain stages in your life your mind has evolved.... When we say kids, I think of 10-17 year olds. right exactly. I don;t really think much about it - just clarifying that we are referencing adults where there is an age gap |
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this topic has really taken off ... the basics of it in my mind go on two virtues 1) you have to connect with the other person, i always believe this to be unrelated to age, wealth, upbringing, background, color, etc. it is all related to the fact that you can feel something for the other person 2) you have to be comfortable to be seen in public, otherwise it will never work. some people would not want to date a person with an age gap because of their career implications, family and so forth. other than that there shouldn't be anything you can not work through. I agree, and it is up to no one but the two individuals involved. I think the OP is simply a wind up trying to start trouble, but the topic can definitely be a good discussion, ignoring that. It's been discussed on here many times before. It turns out to be mainly about individual preference. My benchmark for a younger man is his level of sincerity, whether he is genuine or playing games, or just after sex. Is he realistic? Can he carry on a conversation?....is he infatuated with cougar mythology, or is there a relationship potential? Dating a younger man is no different than a man my age dating young women, but it's not nearly as acceptable socially....comments are made about wrinkles and tummies etc etc as women age. Why aren't those same types of comments made about older males? In any event, if you love someone things like wrinkles and bad hair days don;t matter so much...lol Wow sweet, the OP IS the person WC whom you just quoted. It's a legit question and for those of us who have not been on here forever or recently or whatever the case, we don't all have privy to every topic that has ever been posted. I know - I thougt I was on pg1 and that was the OP...I straightened it out already. Like your new hair. I meant to say hello and welcome back and tell you that I like the new color when I was on here last night! Actually techncially you are privy to every topic that has been posted in the indexes  I meant that more as to say it seems to be a popular topic lately. Good to see you!
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A man over the age of 46 that takes care of himself has no need for that little blu pill. it's blue? That's what I've heard. Hey, if a guy will just get off his as$ and watch what he eats, and exercises, it is not an issue. I would a lot rather be able to go for an hour once than 15 times an hour if you know what I mean. |
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Edited by
Ouizee
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Just an hour?
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Grin - a solid point on the variety aspect and overall closed mindedness of people. Harmony - I do agree that all of those are valid points, and generally men have the "she's pretty and she likes me mentality" (which can be both a positive output and have a very negative impact if the other person has bad intentions). My issue with the female side of it is, once they get that though in their minds sometimes they just dig there heels in. I may be an overall maturity thing, but I have found that the majority of people in life do NOT have the **** together (men & women alike) ... very few people are completely solid and confident in them selves. (This is an egregious generalization but...) I have found that the majority of women that are overly negative to age differences (and mostly the young man scenario) often are looking to be 'taken care of' and never really stop to look whats starring them in the face. Thruth be told, women think all young men think about is sex ... but I hate to inform them, that that doesnt change with age. Once a man is 25 he is basically the person he is gonna be. |
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WC77 I've dated (and almost married) someone half my age, but, he looked 10 years older and owned a business with employees, etc... Having said that, I definitely had to deal with my own insecurities before I made the decision to go ahead with it. In the end, it was such a blessing in my life. Younger men have so much to offer, but, ONLY if they are mature enough.
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gvitago: I agree with you completely. What's funny is that those same 40-something harsh judgmental women were giving me high-fives when I dated a gorgeous man 20 years younger than I for all the right reasons. Go figure...lol.
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